Chachi

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    Chachi reacted to MrShorty in How do i get the desire to want children   
    I agree with LP and Vort. A couple of things I would add:
    1) You're only 20. Don't feel like you must decide between "have children right now" and "remain childless forever". You can choose to not have children now, but leave open the possibility of having children later.
    2) The harder part of this, I think, is how to negotiate this with your husband, since the two of you seem so different in opinion here. It is a common theme in some of the "how to answer the hard questions of marriage" discussions that I come across -- How to negotiate when and how many children to have when the wife and husband have very different opinions about it. I might suggest that there is value in taking the time to understand your husband's wishes, desires, opinions, and so on about having children, and help him to understand your viewpoint. If it would help, I might even suggest that you find a good neutral 3rd party to help mediate such a discussion.