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    my two cents reacted to prisonchaplain in Next Apostle?   
    Some people...even on the left side of the aisle...are probably wishing that our current POTUS was a white, male, 60-ish, and from Utah.  Just sayin'!
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    my two cents got a reaction from Anddenex in Prophetic Priorities   
    Both but for example - If more members would do some indexing, that would speed things up for people to find/verify their ancestors so the temple work can get done. A few months ago I listened to a talk by the previous head of familysearch who said that only 2-5% of the members do anything with family history. I find that incredible especially with how many talks, lessons, etc there have been on the importance of this work. 
    As far as tools to help - there are various apps that people can utilize ... even on their phones.
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    my two cents got a reaction from Anddenex in Prophetic Priorities   
    Correction: Couldn't find where I heard that but found a quote on lds.org from another presentation Elder Brimhall did in Aug 13 - 
    "But even with all of the resources made available, only 25 percent of Church members have at least registered, and studies show that in a year-long span, only 8 percent of Church members have logged on and used FamilySearch."
    Hopefully it has improved since then. 
     
    The 2-5% may have been referring to how many people submit names to the temple.
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    my two cents got a reaction from laronius in Prophetic Priorities   
    Both but for example - If more members would do some indexing, that would speed things up for people to find/verify their ancestors so the temple work can get done. A few months ago I listened to a talk by the previous head of familysearch who said that only 2-5% of the members do anything with family history. I find that incredible especially with how many talks, lessons, etc there have been on the importance of this work. 
    As far as tools to help - there are various apps that people can utilize ... even on their phones.
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    my two cents reacted to Grunt in Prophetic Priorities   
    I just emailed the 1st Counselor because I know him.  The cat is out of the bag now.
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    my two cents reacted to person0 in Unexpected Absence - Evil Bureaucrats   
    There is now an exciting update to my story!!!
    Over the past two weeks we have been working with KY CPS, the current foster family, and our and the baby's social workers.  The foster family was unable to handle all of the children together, and a joint decision was made that it would be better to separate the two older children and the two younger children.  As a result, as of this morning we now have 'our' baby back, and also her 3 year old brother.
    The most vindicating part is that while we were in the meeting to decide whether or not to separate the children, every single person was on board with the decision.  The meeting facilitator verbally acknowledged multiple times that it was the wrong decision in the first place to have removed the baby from our care.  Regardless of this 'slap in the face', the CPS manager who originally made the decision to remove the child from our home, continued to offer the only dissenting opinions and options, such as removing all the children and placing them in a new home to try again with a new family.  No one liked any of those options.
    Our and the child's social workers now will attempt to push for a legal sibling separation.  The children's goal is now changed to adoption, and so if all goes our way, we will be able to keep these two little ones forever!  
    SIDE NOTE:  Not related to this story, we will be officially adopting our second daughter on Tuesday, and will be sealed to her on Saturday the 21st!  We are overjoyed for this miracle as well!
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    my two cents got a reaction from Fether in Ward Boundaries and moving   
    From what I understand, you have to get permission from the stk pres and you better have a really good reason. I know a few who got permission (ie single sister and a divorced male) and some who didn't (ie liked that ward). 
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    my two cents got a reaction from LoudLizard in Tucson Temple Cultural Celebration   
    The new Tucson temple will be dedicated tomorrow and the local members invite the community and put on an event to celebrate. The Church started this tradition several years ago but this is the first time I've heard of it being broadcast.
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    my two cents reacted to zil in Mormon Land   
    And here I thought you were opening a specialized amusement park.
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    my two cents got a reaction from JoCa in College Choices and Marriage   
    No it doesn't. Not with my parents or my husband and I. Hence, how we live below our means.
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    my two cents reacted to zil in College Choices and Marriage   
    Hereinafter, "you" is a generic term for the reader, not necessarily a reference to "Latter-Day Marriage".
    Look at the houses our parents, grandparents, or great-grandparents (depending on your age) grew up in.  The notion that each child needs their own private room, that the family needs 2-3 different rooms in which to sit and do stuff, and that we need a separate space for breakfast vs dining, and lots of bathrooms to go with all that, etc., is nothing more than marketing nonsense.  If past generations can live close together and come out fine, so can current and future generations.
    If you're not willing to live within the limits of one income, own it, don't claim it's an impossibility beyond your control.  Whether you choose to live within the limits of one income, or choose two incomes so as to live in greater comfort, you will be a better human for owning and facing the truth of your choice.  (And the world will be better off if you own your choices.)
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    my two cents got a reaction from NeuroTypical in Taking a knee during the national anthem.   
    Yes they did and again told them to see their stk pres.
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    my two cents got a reaction from JoCa in College Choices and Marriage   
    Disagree. I see lots of people living on one income including me (and we live in a good school district). It's all about being smart (even millionaires have gone bankrupt). On the other hand, I also see moms working ... to pay for fancy trips and bigger houses. Oh, and depending on what type of engineering he's planning on, one income should be plenty!
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    my two cents reacted to a mustard seed in Walking off 100 lbs.   
    Weekly weigh in: 235 lbs! Lost 3 lbs this last week. I need to do something a little more to eccelerate out of my plateaus or to help me not give in to the temptation of food. I'm thinking about shoving everything except $10 into my savings so I can't touch it and I have to be more cautious with my choices, because giving myself a 2 week allowance of $100(meaning, $100 between pay checks) is starting to seem excessive. What am I expecting myself to spend that money on? Chik-fil-A? Because that's what I spend it on. So, I'm going to try that to help myself stick to my prepared meal plan, rather than succumbing to the thought of "if I can walk there, I should reward myself with whatever I want from the menu...because walking." Besides that, I quit the Super 8 job, so now I'm not making as much and need to save even more.
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    my two cents reacted to Bad Karma in Taking a knee during the national anthem.   
    Take a knee in front of me during the national anthem, well, I'll dump my slurpee on your head, after that, we'll figure out where it goes from there.  I'm Mormon, not perfect. 
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    my two cents got a reaction from Just_A_Guy in College Choices and Marriage   
    Disagree. I see lots of people living on one income including me (and we live in a good school district). It's all about being smart (even millionaires have gone bankrupt). On the other hand, I also see moms working ... to pay for fancy trips and bigger houses. Oh, and depending on what type of engineering he's planning on, one income should be plenty!
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    my two cents got a reaction from Vort in College Choices and Marriage   
    Disagree. I see lots of people living on one income including me (and we live in a good school district). It's all about being smart (even millionaires have gone bankrupt). On the other hand, I also see moms working ... to pay for fancy trips and bigger houses. Oh, and depending on what type of engineering he's planning on, one income should be plenty!
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    my two cents got a reaction from Anddenex in Taking a knee during the national anthem.   
    Yes they did and again told them to see their stk pres.
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    my two cents got a reaction from zil in Taking a knee during the national anthem.   
    Yes they did and again told them to see their stk pres.
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    my two cents reacted to JoCa in College Choices and Marriage   
    But it's not "nearly" .. .it's completely doable. You scrimp, you save, you scrimp you save. You don't eat out . . .your wife makes meals for you-you take them to work and eat the leftovers from the day before, you rent the crappiest places possible.  You save, save, save. You work, work, work.  You don't buy the new car, you buy the cheap beater that just gets you from point A to point B.
    And over a period of years, you live very cheaply-but that's how every generation starts out.  And then by the time you've been working 10-15 years you look back and you recognize wow I've really accumulated some wealth.  You don't buy the 200k place, you buy the 100k place, pay it off, your frugal, etc.
    Kids are not that expensive, they are actually quite cheap.  The most expensive period is until they are potty trained (and that's maybe 50/month extra for diapers).
    In fact, I'd say for most families any advantages of dual income quickly disappear as soon as day-care costs are factored in.
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    my two cents reacted to anatess2 in College Choices and Marriage   
    That's not what they're saying.  This is what they are saying:
    I am what people would call a "career woman".  I pursued a Master's degree and have a great job.  But I am under no illusion that it is my primary responsibility or my equal responsibility to provide for my family.  That's not my job.  That's my husband's job.  My job is to manage the household and rear the children.  So, even as I make pretty good money doing what I do, it comes second only to my primary responsibilities as a wife and mother so that when I gave birth to my children, I stayed home and took care of them while my husband brought home the bacon.
    But, that said, I don't like to cook, I don't like to clean the house, I don't like to iron clothes... I'd rather go do what I'm super good at - designing systems.  So, I got myself a contract job with super flexible hours that I can do at home.  I go make money designing systems while somebody else is cleaning the house, ironing the clothes, cooking the food that I pay for with my earnings.   I can spend my time and energy focused on nurturing the children and being a help meet to my husband.
    As you can see, my husband doesn't expect me to bring home any part of the bacon and I don't expect my husband to manage the household.  Of course, as part of managing the household, I can assign him specific tasks like taking out the trash or washing the car, or mopping the kitchen floor, etc., but that's not his primary responsibility.  He was simply helping me.  And at the same time, when he got laid off from his job, I took on more hours at my job while he took care of the children to keep our family afloat, but that's not my primary responsibility.  I was simply helping him.
    Thats what "SOME PEOPLE" were trying to tell you.  Your idea of the bacon being your responsibility too is not a good one.  Males have specific strengths different from females and the traditional roles of the man being entrusted with the bacon and the woman being entrusted with the household is the ideal situation that magnifies those strengths in tandem for a successful home.  Going into a marriage telling a man he is not solely responsible for the bacon is making the man weak.  Of course, this doesn't mean you shouldn't pursue a career.  Of course you should!  But you should be going into that career knowing exactly what your responsibilities are.  This understanding will help you, not only in deciding whether you should move or he should move, more importantly, it will help you decide whether you and your boyfriend are ready for marriage.
    Hope this helps.
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    my two cents got a reaction from felicityswims in College Choices and Marriage   
    applaud ambition - yes, but there are lots of positive ways to channel it that don't do damage in the process. please be careful - your decisions will have ripple effects you can't even imagine.
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    my two cents reacted to MormonKangaRoo in Im back!!!   
    So...
    I'm back. 
    I have had issues logging into my account, so I had to make a new one as a backup account. If things go back to working, I will use my old account again
    Who am I? @RooTheMormon
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    my two cents reacted to Sunday21 in Testimony of the worthiness of the brethern   
    I am the only member in my family and my ward is quite small so I don’t have many people that I can discuss gospel topics with. I was looking forward to conference one year and thinking how nice the brethren seem to be. I am used to, in my work,  meeting charismatic people and finding out, once you meet their spouses and children, to realizing that many successful people are far better employees than they are family members. I feel for the spouses of a lot of many successful people. I often feel the pain of conscience when work eats up time of colleagues who really owe a big debt to their families and, if they had any sense, should really say, No and spend more time with their families. More than that, I often interact with people who are charming in their professional lives but who misbehave as spouses and parents. The spouses and kids bear the scars. Successful men and women often have inappropriate sides that come out when you work long hours with them. I said a small prayer of sympathy for the wives and families of general authorities who I imagined gritting their teeth through some of the conference talks and wishing that the family patriarch was the person that they represented themselves as being.
    i felt a strong prompting and a quiet voice that said, The men who run my church are good fathers and husbands. If this were not the case, I would not have chosen them. I have many to chose from.
    i find this message to be of great comfort. I know that the brethren are the people that they appear to be.
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    my two cents reacted to Dillon in Looking for advice, not judgement   
    Ha,, this is the new and improved Dillon.  I realized I wasnt being fair and upsetting everyone, women mostly, with my remarks judging a few women's actions on all women, it wasnt fair. I dont do that in my everyday life so I dont want to do it here. I think there are some good LDS women in here like yourself and I can appreciate that and I do, nothing better than a loyal, humble, faithful LDS woman, the world needs more of you guys.