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    seashmore reacted to Jane_Doe in Am I My Brother's Keeper?   
    The best thing you can say to him is to simply have him know where you stand and that the Law of Chasity is important to you.  Lead by example.
    If he knows where you stand on this, then you don't have to give him the "you know it's important to live the Law of Chasity" talk, because your actions are already saying it far better than your words could. 
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    seashmore reacted to Manners Matter in Am I My Brother's Keeper?   
    If the tables were turned, what would you want someone to do/say?
    or
    What do you think his dad would hope you would do/say?
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    seashmore reacted to SpiritDragon in We Are Responsible For Our Own Learning   
    I think it is similar to the concept spoken of in 2 Timothy 3:
    I think plenty of people study the scriptures quite academically, and in so doing the scriptures take on a form of godliness that is lacking in true power. These people can continue to learn scripture in an academic way, but will never learn what they could if they would yield to the Holy Ghost and learn true doctrine. Jesus Christ is the way the truth and the life, the scriptures testify of Him and are meant to help us draw near to Him. However, these same scriptures can actually act as a stumbling block when only the understanding of man is used to discern them.
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    seashmore reacted to NeuroTypical in Thoughts on attending close family event with former spouse   
    Do what's best for the kids.  Doesn't matter about you, or your ex, or who did what, or who would be comfortable, or what anyone wants.  Do what's best for the kids.
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    seashmore reacted to Jane_Doe in missionary email   
    The most common situation: on Mondays, missionaries will have their PDay and spend an hour at the local library writing emails to people.  They'll write a quick letter to their mission president, giving the weekly update.  Past that, it's family and friends.  Yes, they are allowed to write letters to specific individuals.  
    They're read every letter sent to them (whether on the computer or print it out to read during the week).  How many people actually write them and how frequently varies greatly missionary to missionary.  I've never met a missionary that didn't LOVE getting letters though.  
    For responding, yes they can and do respond to specific individuals though time is short.   Most will also send out a general "here's how I'm doing email" to mom and have it forwarded to a bunch of people (I just received one such forward updating me on how my cousin is doing).  
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    seashmore reacted to wenglund in We Are Responsible For Our Own Learning   
    When I first read this yesterday my mind resisted the idea--I was thinking in the box of physical action. However, as I pondered on it over night and opened my mind, I came to realize that there are many areas of gospel learning where study is really the only way of doing learning. 
    For example, next weeks lesson is on the mortal birth of Christ. I may lack imagination, but I can't think of anything to DO other than to study about his birth and thoughtfully consider the notion of God blessing us in our own due time.
    In fact, for me to learn this helpful precept, all I could DO was study and contemplate what FTP shad aid, thereby providing its own object lesson.
    Thanks, -Wade Englund-
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    seashmore reacted to Vort in Joseph's leg infection   
    My understanding is that William was a troubled soul, which might be PC code for "a real jerk". But I guess we can't look inside a man's heart and see his desires and motivations—especially if the man has been dead for over a century.
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    seashmore reacted to Traveler in Joseph's leg infection   
    side note - Porter Rockwell recruited a small rambunctious kid that at the time was 17 to be a US Marshal.  This person was the only lawman trained by Porter and the only lawman to ride with Porter - He was my Great grandfather.  Both died of old age, never had church callings and were strongly committed to the Church.
     
    The Traveler
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    seashmore reacted to mikbone in Joseph's leg infection   
    Thanks, I didn’t know this detail...
    Porter Rockwell and Joseph Smith grew up on neighboring farms in Palmyra, New York. Despite their eight years difference in age, both men had a noticeable limp that cemented their close friendship—Joseph’s resulted from a childhood surgery and Rockwell’s resulted from an improperly set bone that left one leg two inches shorter than the other.
    Source - http://www.ldsliving.com/Porter-Rockwell-7-Unbelievable-Facts-and-Stories-You-Didn-t-Know/s/77142
     
    Mikbone child # 8 is named Porter Rockwell.  When they announced the name from the pulpit there was an audible gasp.  😀
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    seashmore reacted to unixknight in Christ figure in movies   
    I think that depends.  A good Christ figure in a work of fiction can be a useful metaphor when explaining Jesus to someone who doesn't know.  It's like C.S. Lewis' Chronicles of Narnia.  The way Aslan sacrifices himself, even though he is innocent, to save Edmund from the consequences of his own sin is meant to be a metaphor for the sacrifice of the Savior for all of us... and was meant to help kids understand.
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    seashmore reacted to Traveler in Christ figure in movies   
    It is my understanding that Satan intends to counterfeit every good thing but that which he has the greatest intent to counterfeit is Christ.  We have been warned of many "false Christ" - especially in the latter days.  It is possible that many are falling for false types and shadows of Christ - especially from the likes of Hollywood.
     
    The Traveler 
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    seashmore reacted to SpiritDragon in 2019 Weight Loss Group   
    Those all sound like great ideas. You'll have to keep us all in the loop with the yoga and volleyball. As for yoga there are plenty of videos out there, I took the libertay of grabbing two at random from youtube to share in the event they are helpful to you. 
     
    In keeping with the fact that you have already expressed that incremental changes are likely better for you I like the idea of of keeping nutrition as simple as the vague idea of more veggies and less sugar while you are adding exercise into your routine.  A good rule of thumb I learned from Precision Nutrition is to ask yourself on a scale of 1 to 10 how likely you are to succeed at implementing a new behaviour. If the answer is less than nine, then the behaviour needs to be simplified. Once you make changes so small that it is hard not to succeed you start to build momentum by having small successes instead of the set backs from multiple failures. Even if the success is small it is still success. So this is to say that if your primary objective for now is to go curling and volleyball, daily Yoga, and eating veggies are all secondary then you get success points for the primary change of taking on curling and bonus points for any of the other stuff, but no guilt over not making it all happen now. 
    I have a sister-in-law who has used the spoon analogy to try and explain her life with an autoimmune condition, so I'm familiar with the idea of fewer spoon days. I hope your healthcare team can make a big difference for you.
    Sounds great. It's only for three days to get a sense of your eating habits. Remember not to change how you eat for the purpose of journaling, you'll only short change yourself of uncovering what modifications are needed most.
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    seashmore got a reaction from SpiritDragon in New Year's Resolutions   
    I prefer to call them "goals" instead of "resolutions," anyway.  And, as soon as I'm done here, I'm off to that weight loss group.  I'm the heaviest I've ever been and would like not to be.  I tend to gain weight when I'm depressed, which I was most of 2018.  Things are looking as up as they can be (I took all my Vitamins today, so that helps) and I signed up for curling, which is good physical activity.  Or at least more physical activity than I get walking around the office and the house every couple of hours.  Once our basement is finished and I can make enough space, I'm going to start doing yoga/pilates/tai chi to improve my flexibility/strength.  I'm too busty to be comfortable with high impact exercise.
    Other goals of mine are hard to pin down right now.  I think I'm going to try and journal/blog more, at least once a week, as practice and to hone my writing skills a bit.  I have an urge to be a published author someday, and that can't happen until I write something!
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    seashmore got a reaction from The Folk Prophet in We Are Responsible For Our Own Learning   
    That's what was in my line of thinking when I looked over the new CFM manuals for next year, especially the one for Primary.  I've been teaching in this manner since I've started teaching in the Church.  Almost every Church manual I've used has said somewhere in the introductory materials something like "We've given you more information in each lesson than you could possibly cover in one class period.  Prayerfully read everything and ponder which points will best benefit your class members."  The undertone being: we're making this for the whole world, so we have to include more than you can use.  My lesson prep pattern, whether I was teaching RS, YSA Gospel Doctrine, YW, or Primary is to read the purpose of the lesson, then the scriptures/talks, then the lesson manual, and come up with one talking point/idea for every 5-10 minutes of class.  How I present those points changes based on source and audience.  I'm going to teach the OT to YSAs differently than I teach gospel principles to Sunbeams.
    Personally, I struggle learning when I don't have an opportunity to share that knowledge.  It's almost as if learning it to help just myself isn't worth the effort, but if I'm learning it so I can help someone else get it, I'm all in.  This is why I am really glad that the manuals across all auxiliaries will follow the same schedule as the one for home use; I'm teaching Primary so I know that reading the CFM:INF has the potential to provide insights for my lessons using the CFM:Primary manual.
    The quote by Elder Bednar and the first paragraph under the heading "I Need to Know the Truth for Myself" reminded me of this quote from Bruce R. McConkie's final conference address: The Purifying Power of Gethsemane.  Which, honestly, I think sums up the whole lesson for me. 
    (Fun fact: this line comes to my mind every time I hear "Confidence" by Sanctus real on the radio.)
     
    Since the OP was about this week's lesson, I assume  it's not off topic to share how I'll be teaching this to my four year olds.  (Everything is an adaptation of the material in the manual.)  The CMF:P encourages teachers to use the same pattern for teaching: invite sharing, teach the doctrine, encourage learning at home.  My plan is to start every lesson/week by asking/inviting the children to share something they remember from the scriptures, either at church or at home.  (I actually had an Institute teacher that did this, and it was very effective, even if the insight or question shared by the student wasn't initially related to his prepared lesson.)  After this, I will introduce the idea that scriptures are a gift with some kind of activity (haven't pinned one down yet). I picked up some treasure boxes from the party favor aisle and will give each child one to decorate and take home and keep one for the class with the purpose to fill it with scriptures throughout the year.  Because the scriptures are a gift/treasure. 
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    seashmore got a reaction from SilentOne in New Year's Resolutions   
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    seashmore got a reaction from SpiritDragon in New Year's Resolutions   
    I prefer to call them "goals" instead of "resolutions," anyway.  And, as soon as I'm done here, I'm off to that weight loss group.  I'm the heaviest I've ever been and would like not to be.  I tend to gain weight when I'm depressed, which I was most of 2018.  Things are looking as up as they can be (I took all my Vitamins today, so that helps) and I signed up for curling, which is good physical activity.  Or at least more physical activity than I get walking around the office and the house every couple of hours.  Once our basement is finished and I can make enough space, I'm going to start doing yoga/pilates/tai chi to improve my flexibility/strength.  I'm too busty to be comfortable with high impact exercise.
    Other goals of mine are hard to pin down right now.  I think I'm going to try and journal/blog more, at least once a week, as practice and to hone my writing skills a bit.  I have an urge to be a published author someday, and that can't happen until I write something!
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    seashmore got a reaction from The Folk Prophet in We Are Responsible For Our Own Learning   
    That's what was in my line of thinking when I looked over the new CFM manuals for next year, especially the one for Primary.  I've been teaching in this manner since I've started teaching in the Church.  Almost every Church manual I've used has said somewhere in the introductory materials something like "We've given you more information in each lesson than you could possibly cover in one class period.  Prayerfully read everything and ponder which points will best benefit your class members."  The undertone being: we're making this for the whole world, so we have to include more than you can use.  My lesson prep pattern, whether I was teaching RS, YSA Gospel Doctrine, YW, or Primary is to read the purpose of the lesson, then the scriptures/talks, then the lesson manual, and come up with one talking point/idea for every 5-10 minutes of class.  How I present those points changes based on source and audience.  I'm going to teach the OT to YSAs differently than I teach gospel principles to Sunbeams.
    Personally, I struggle learning when I don't have an opportunity to share that knowledge.  It's almost as if learning it to help just myself isn't worth the effort, but if I'm learning it so I can help someone else get it, I'm all in.  This is why I am really glad that the manuals across all auxiliaries will follow the same schedule as the one for home use; I'm teaching Primary so I know that reading the CFM:INF has the potential to provide insights for my lessons using the CFM:Primary manual.
    The quote by Elder Bednar and the first paragraph under the heading "I Need to Know the Truth for Myself" reminded me of this quote from Bruce R. McConkie's final conference address: The Purifying Power of Gethsemane.  Which, honestly, I think sums up the whole lesson for me. 
    (Fun fact: this line comes to my mind every time I hear "Confidence" by Sanctus real on the radio.)
     
    Since the OP was about this week's lesson, I assume  it's not off topic to share how I'll be teaching this to my four year olds.  (Everything is an adaptation of the material in the manual.)  The CMF:P encourages teachers to use the same pattern for teaching: invite sharing, teach the doctrine, encourage learning at home.  My plan is to start every lesson/week by asking/inviting the children to share something they remember from the scriptures, either at church or at home.  (I actually had an Institute teacher that did this, and it was very effective, even if the insight or question shared by the student wasn't initially related to his prepared lesson.)  After this, I will introduce the idea that scriptures are a gift with some kind of activity (haven't pinned one down yet). I picked up some treasure boxes from the party favor aisle and will give each child one to decorate and take home and keep one for the class with the purpose to fill it with scriptures throughout the year.  Because the scriptures are a gift/treasure. 
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    seashmore reacted to SpiritDragon in 2019 Weight Loss Group   
    Those sound like great tips. If they work for you - Awesome!
    Sounds wise. If you were to pick one thing to improve this week what would it be? 
    When starting out a new habit like consistent exercise one of the biggest obstacles is setting aside the time. Sometimes it helps to do something as basic as simply walking, or even thinking about walking for 5 minutes on the days you set out to go. Once the time is set aside then making more detailed plans to get more results comes in handy. I'm wondering if this might be a fit for you since you wish to avoid high impact activities.
    Dr. Joel Fuhrman has had lots of success with a variety of conditions including depression and psoriasis using his nutrient dense approach to eating.
     https://www.drfuhrman.com/library/health-concerns/10/psoriasis
    https://www.drfuhrman.com/library/health-concerns/23/depression
    You might find that it's worth a try to see if you don't have to be dealing with a life sentence. He has plenty of great books to choose from which cover his basic eating plan, although he does tailor it a little to various issues like diabetes and heart disease in his books specifically for those conditions. His website also has a membership option where you can consult with him and get support. Just something you might find worth looking into. No pressure.
    Aside from nutritional support that may be a game changer for you - it was for my wife who had terrible eczema, similar to psoriasis with how bad it was all over her face and arms, now people have forgotten she ever had it - what types of exercise do you enjoy? 
    If you follow the directions for keeping a food journal that I have given to others, specifically @unixknight and @anatess2 that will be a great place to start. Then we can look at what changes should give the biggest return on investment.
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    seashmore reacted to The Folk Prophet in We Are Responsible For Our Own Learning   
    Day 3: I need to know the truth for myself.
    The thought I had today is that we've been talking a lot about learning by doing -- but one of the things that we should not overlook is that study IS doing. Studying the scriptures is one of the commandments, and it is one of the things that we need to be about diligently in our efforts to learn. Along with the study I noted Alma 5:46 where it says:
    "Behold, I say unto you they are made known unto me by the Holy Spirit of God. Behold, I have fasted and prayed many days that I might know these things of myself. And now I do know of myself that they are true; for the Lord God hath made them manifest unto me by his Holy Spirit; and this is the spirit of revelation which is in me."
    It is by the Holy Spirit that we know the truth, but the Spirit does not, typically, act alone without our efforts. We must study, but also pray and fast about our learning. This is a key part of the doing that needs to be done.
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    seashmore got a reaction from The Folk Prophet in We Are Responsible For Our Own Learning   
    That's what was in my line of thinking when I looked over the new CFM manuals for next year, especially the one for Primary.  I've been teaching in this manner since I've started teaching in the Church.  Almost every Church manual I've used has said somewhere in the introductory materials something like "We've given you more information in each lesson than you could possibly cover in one class period.  Prayerfully read everything and ponder which points will best benefit your class members."  The undertone being: we're making this for the whole world, so we have to include more than you can use.  My lesson prep pattern, whether I was teaching RS, YSA Gospel Doctrine, YW, or Primary is to read the purpose of the lesson, then the scriptures/talks, then the lesson manual, and come up with one talking point/idea for every 5-10 minutes of class.  How I present those points changes based on source and audience.  I'm going to teach the OT to YSAs differently than I teach gospel principles to Sunbeams.
    Personally, I struggle learning when I don't have an opportunity to share that knowledge.  It's almost as if learning it to help just myself isn't worth the effort, but if I'm learning it so I can help someone else get it, I'm all in.  This is why I am really glad that the manuals across all auxiliaries will follow the same schedule as the one for home use; I'm teaching Primary so I know that reading the CFM:INF has the potential to provide insights for my lessons using the CFM:Primary manual.
    The quote by Elder Bednar and the first paragraph under the heading "I Need to Know the Truth for Myself" reminded me of this quote from Bruce R. McConkie's final conference address: The Purifying Power of Gethsemane.  Which, honestly, I think sums up the whole lesson for me. 
    (Fun fact: this line comes to my mind every time I hear "Confidence" by Sanctus real on the radio.)
     
    Since the OP was about this week's lesson, I assume  it's not off topic to share how I'll be teaching this to my four year olds.  (Everything is an adaptation of the material in the manual.)  The CMF:P encourages teachers to use the same pattern for teaching: invite sharing, teach the doctrine, encourage learning at home.  My plan is to start every lesson/week by asking/inviting the children to share something they remember from the scriptures, either at church or at home.  (I actually had an Institute teacher that did this, and it was very effective, even if the insight or question shared by the student wasn't initially related to his prepared lesson.)  After this, I will introduce the idea that scriptures are a gift with some kind of activity (haven't pinned one down yet). I picked up some treasure boxes from the party favor aisle and will give each child one to decorate and take home and keep one for the class with the purpose to fill it with scriptures throughout the year.  Because the scriptures are a gift/treasure. 
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    seashmore reacted to SpiritDragon in 2019 Weight Loss Group   
    I thought I'd input some basic resources that might be useful as starting points.
    Exercise:
    Since I can trust that everyone here has some form of internet access, fitnessblender.com has a variety of free workout videos with a range of equipment options designed for the home exerciser. If you don't want to put much thought into it and just follow along then fitness blender delivers a reasonable workout to fill the bill. I could nit pick about form and such, but overall they put out sound routines and it's free aside from the cost of internet access.
    Also a great resource for understanding a little more about the importance of strength training for weight loss - It's a little lengthy, I have a copy converted to mp3 that I can listen to while doing dishes and such. 
    Realize that when he says dieting doesn't work, he is only partially correct. Diets that you go on and come back off don't work. Changing your eating patterns for good is a must for long-term weight management success.
    Nutrition
    https://www.precisionnutrition.com/fix-a-broken-diet
    This is a great article on some basic strategies to fix some big culprits. Sure there can be fine tuning like nutrient timing and so on, but really it is far more important to just nail down the basics. No fancy shakes, or pills needed, just quality food and decent quantities.
    https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=org.nutritionfacts.dailydozen&hl=en_CA
    This can also be very useful for setting a goal to get in some really nutrient dense foods. This particular Dr.(behind this app) is a strong proponent of plant-based eating, but even alongside flesh these foods will be helpful for health and weight loss. Anyone on the fence about going plant based can find watching Dr. Gregers nutritionfacts.org videos or listening to his podcasts extremely enlightening. I do believe that this is most in line with the word of wisdom (let's skip the debate on that in here) and what the preponderance of evidence suggests to be the most healthy way to eat, but just like the best exercise plan is the one you'll stick to I also firmly believe that you need to find an eating system that you're good with. If plant based doesn't do it for you, find something that does. The fact of the matter is that any diet seems to create improvements over ad libitum eating of standard western food in the 21st century. if you prefer to go keto, paleo, vegan, nutritarian, lowfat, I don't really care as long as it is an improvement over what you're currently doing. You may miss out on the health benefits of eating a whole food plant based diet, but you can still improve your health a great deal with these other options compared to the see food diet. 
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    seashmore reacted to SpiritDragon in 2019 Weight Loss Group   
    I'd love to keep going with help for everyone, please be patient with me. My three-year-old has finished her lunch and needs daddy to play DinoTrux. I hope you can understand putting my own daughter before virtual strangers, especially on a Holiday. I can get back at it when she's napping later this afternoon. 
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    seashmore reacted to SpiritDragon in 2019 Weight Loss Group   
    Some things that would be helpful for me to know to possibly help those of you that would like some help:
    How much time are you willing and able to commit to exercise on a weekly basis?
    Do you have any medical exercise restrictions?
    Are you willing to keep and share a food log?
    * disclaimer * All help given here is given with the understanding that we don't actually know each other and I am giving freely of the knowledge and experience I have gained. You are responsible to seek out any medical clearance before embarking on this or any other exercise and nutrition program. Although I do have a good idea what I'm talking about, please realize you are agreeing to take advice from an anonymous internet personality who cannot prove credentials without losing anonymity, you do so at your own risk.
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    seashmore reacted to SpiritDragon in 2019 Weight Loss Group   
    Hey everyone, this thread will be dedicated to support and accountability in weight loss in 2019 and possibly beyond. I'm not around the most frequently and can't make an individual program for everyone here, but I can use my experience as a fitness professional to offer some insights and help where I can. Everyone is welcome.
    I do request that all comments be kept to supporting others, reporting on successes and failures, asking for help and so on - I guess I'm trying to say let's keep it a safe place where people aren't judged should they succumb to that double chocolate cake.  
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    seashmore got a reaction from SpiritDragon in New Year's Resolutions   
    I prefer to call them "goals" instead of "resolutions," anyway.  And, as soon as I'm done here, I'm off to that weight loss group.  I'm the heaviest I've ever been and would like not to be.  I tend to gain weight when I'm depressed, which I was most of 2018.  Things are looking as up as they can be (I took all my Vitamins today, so that helps) and I signed up for curling, which is good physical activity.  Or at least more physical activity than I get walking around the office and the house every couple of hours.  Once our basement is finished and I can make enough space, I'm going to start doing yoga/pilates/tai chi to improve my flexibility/strength.  I'm too busty to be comfortable with high impact exercise.
    Other goals of mine are hard to pin down right now.  I think I'm going to try and journal/blog more, at least once a week, as practice and to hone my writing skills a bit.  I have an urge to be a published author someday, and that can't happen until I write something!