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    seashmore got a reaction from EllieBelle2015 in BYU-I Don’t   
    My vote is to do both of your future selves a favor and break it off for good.  Save his number as "NO!" so you know not to pick up or reply.  Tell him exactly why you are ending the relationship and avoid saying anything about "maybe in the future if..."  Write him a letter if you have to.  It may hurt him now, but it will hurt both of you much worse if you continue down the path you're on right now.  I also recommend you work on doing what you need to do in order to feel emotionally available again.  (Said the pot to the kettle.)  Otherwise, you're keeping yourself open to entering this same situation again. Look for someone who helps you overcome temptations, not give in to them. 
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    seashmore got a reaction from Sunday21 in BYU-I Don’t   
    My vote is to do both of your future selves a favor and break it off for good.  Save his number as "NO!" so you know not to pick up or reply.  Tell him exactly why you are ending the relationship and avoid saying anything about "maybe in the future if..."  Write him a letter if you have to.  It may hurt him now, but it will hurt both of you much worse if you continue down the path you're on right now.  I also recommend you work on doing what you need to do in order to feel emotionally available again.  (Said the pot to the kettle.)  Otherwise, you're keeping yourself open to entering this same situation again. Look for someone who helps you overcome temptations, not give in to them. 
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    seashmore got a reaction from zil in BYU-I Don’t   
    My vote is to do both of your future selves a favor and break it off for good.  Save his number as "NO!" so you know not to pick up or reply.  Tell him exactly why you are ending the relationship and avoid saying anything about "maybe in the future if..."  Write him a letter if you have to.  It may hurt him now, but it will hurt both of you much worse if you continue down the path you're on right now.  I also recommend you work on doing what you need to do in order to feel emotionally available again.  (Said the pot to the kettle.)  Otherwise, you're keeping yourself open to entering this same situation again. Look for someone who helps you overcome temptations, not give in to them. 
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    seashmore got a reaction from Grunt in Endowment   
    Found another great talk last night.  It has a lot of focus on how to regard the temple and the ordinances performed therein.  It originally addressed the endowed brethren, but much of the application here is universal.
    https://www.lds.org/general-conference/1990/04/keeping-the-temple-holy?lang=eng
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    seashmore reacted to Jane_Doe in Endowment   
    It's not just a convert thing.  I was raised LDS.  My dad's side is blue-blood pioneers.  And I spent 10 years studying and worrying and chasing questions before getting endowed.  
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    seashmore got a reaction from dsnell in Why I Love to See Latter-day Saints NOT Take the Sacrament   
    I agree with you 1000%
    Once upon a time, I noticed someone a few rows ahead of me pass the tray down the row without reaching in.  As mentioned in the article, I wondered for a flash what his reason might have been since he had always seemed to be a little bit of a "Peter priesthood."  I decided that since I didn't know why he was passing it up, I would pray for him, that he might have strength and courage to overcome whatever he was up against.  I did that every week for probably about a month, and the joy that I felt when my brother in Christ finally took the sacrament surprised me a little bit.  I think it gave me just the slightest idea of how Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ feel when we repent and fully turn our lives toward the straight and narrow.
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    seashmore reacted to prisonchaplain in Trying to Get to the Temple   
    Thank you @JohnsonJones and @anatess2. Everything you say is spot on. I'm curious as to how people react to the idea that if two people are in love and are heavily tempted, the church community might do well to prepare them well for marriage rather than focus so heavily on reminders about chastity. This is a problem in the larger Christian community. People are waiting until almost 30 to marry, but still have few skills that give them confidence to succeed.
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    seashmore got a reaction from Grunt in Endowment   
    I was just thinking about you and this topic the other day! 
    Another resource not yet mentioned is the special "Temples" issue of the Ensign.  (Oct 2010)  The article by then-apostle-now President Nelson has some specific scriptures to read, study, and ponder.  It's a large excerpt of this article he wrote in March 2002.
    Someone mentioned talking to your stake or ward's temple prep teacher, and if you don't know who that is (or your ward/stake doesn't have one assigned), contact your bishop.  I was very blessed to prepare for mine when I did.  I was the first person in my YSA ward to prepare/receive them not in conjunction with a mission or sealing.  At the time, we did not have any temple prep classes or teachers, and my bishop decided to assign my RS President and one of her counselors to teach me the lessons.  (I was the RS Secretary at the time, and they were/are good friends of mine.)  Because I was the only one taking the class, they/we received permission to do the lessons in the RSP's home, which was about 6 blocks from my apartment.  We met Sunday evenings, and I always chose to walk because it gave me time to ponder the lessons. 
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    seashmore reacted to zil in Why are men above the age of 26 not allowed to serve a mission?   
    So you can find the "menace to society" quote floating around the internet with various ages (and even both genders) linked to it.  But I couldn't find the one I heard, so I'm thinking it's a special quote known only to the select few (and I'm about to make the select few into many):
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    seashmore reacted to zil in Why are men above the age of 26 not allowed to serve a mission?   
    There's an overabundance of women in the Church and a dearth of men.  Therefore, it is only rational that they want every man who's nearing the age at which he really ought to be marrying to be in a state where he can date and then get married (missionaries can't do that).  You may want to put off marriage until you're 30-something, but the Church would prefer you not wait longer than necessary.  I suspect statistics show that if a man doesn't get married by age X, his probability of ever getting married starts to plummet.
    Meanwhile, all the expired females who didn't get married can go serve missions as they choose.
    My recommendation is that you look into the exception route, and if there isn't one to be found, get married before you expire, and save some single woman in the Church from expiring herself.
    ...can we quote Brigham Young here?  Something about "over 30" and "shot" and "outer darkness by another name"?
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    seashmore got a reaction from zil in Why I Love to See Latter-day Saints NOT Take the Sacrament   
    I agree with you 1000%
    Once upon a time, I noticed someone a few rows ahead of me pass the tray down the row without reaching in.  As mentioned in the article, I wondered for a flash what his reason might have been since he had always seemed to be a little bit of a "Peter priesthood."  I decided that since I didn't know why he was passing it up, I would pray for him, that he might have strength and courage to overcome whatever he was up against.  I did that every week for probably about a month, and the joy that I felt when my brother in Christ finally took the sacrament surprised me a little bit.  I think it gave me just the slightest idea of how Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ feel when we repent and fully turn our lives toward the straight and narrow.
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    seashmore reacted to Iggy in Endowment   
    @Grunt your ward should have Temple Preparedness teachers, talk with your Bishop and tell him that you want the class. You will then be given the manuals, pamphlets, etc. Once you finish all of the classes with your Ward TP teachers, it should take 6 weeks, give or take. You will then have an interview with the Stake TP person. THEN you will have your recommend interview with your Bishop, and follow it up with your Stake President.
    You will be taught from the manual: Endowed From on High: TemplePrep. . . .  https://deseretbook.com/p/endowed-high-temple-preparation-seminar-teachers-manual-lds-distribution-center-72702?ref=recommend-product&variant_id=26356-paperback
    Which is available through the church for 3.00 w/free shipping, or you should get it for free from your TemplePrep teacher.
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    seashmore reacted to zil in Endowment   
    PS: The Holy Temple, by Boyd K. Packer is highly recommended for this purpose (the book, not just the pamphlet).
    https://www.amazon.com/dp/0884944115/
    https://deseretbook.com/p/holy-temple-boyd-k-packer-4212?ref=Grid | Search-1&variant_id=106475-hardcover
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    seashmore reacted to zil in Endowment   
    It is necessary, but the Church will not require it of you to remain a member.  Some members may never, in mortality, have the chance to go to a temple (though that is decreasing as more are built).  Some members, for whatever reason, may never feel prepared to go in this life (e.g. it used to be that unless you were getting married or going on a mission, you didn't receive your endowment, but that's different now).
    Regardless, sooner or later, the work will be done - if not by the mortal, then by proxy.
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    seashmore reacted to mordorbund in Favorite LDS Athlete   
    Meh, I just start with my favorite dead athletes and baptize them LDS.
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    seashmore reacted to Midwest LDS in Favorite LDS Athlete   
    Rulon Gardner. Watching him beat Aleksandr Karelin in the 2000 Olympics was one of the most exciting things I'd ever seen. That Siberian looked like he could bend iron bars between his fingers! Definitely cheered in my living room that day.
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    seashmore reacted to Fether in Favorite LDS Athlete   
    My mission president received revelation that whilst in pre-earth life, we as a mission went two millenniums in a row undefeated in basketball. It was Peter and the rest of the 12 that finally broke our winning streak.
    Im not one to go against leader’s revelation so I am basing my response on that. 
    I am my favorite Latter-day Saint athlete
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    seashmore got a reaction from Grunt in Why I Love to See Latter-day Saints NOT Take the Sacrament   
    I agree with you 1000%
    Once upon a time, I noticed someone a few rows ahead of me pass the tray down the row without reaching in.  As mentioned in the article, I wondered for a flash what his reason might have been since he had always seemed to be a little bit of a "Peter priesthood."  I decided that since I didn't know why he was passing it up, I would pray for him, that he might have strength and courage to overcome whatever he was up against.  I did that every week for probably about a month, and the joy that I felt when my brother in Christ finally took the sacrament surprised me a little bit.  I think it gave me just the slightest idea of how Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ feel when we repent and fully turn our lives toward the straight and narrow.
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    seashmore got a reaction from SilentOne in Christmas Music   
    The first is TSO, as @mirkwood mentioned.  Specifically "Christmas Eve in Sarajevo."
    My favorite of theirs, though, is "Christmas Canon."  If you ever get a chance to see them live, DO IT!
     @SilentOne does having two posted today make up for it?
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    seashmore got a reaction from JohnsonJones in Restaurants Cleaning While You Eat   
    Please don't take this as my calling you out personally, but the posted schedule is for the business, not the customers or workers.
    if the restaurant/retail establishment closes at, say, 9:00, then they have every right at 9:00 to say, "We are now closed, and you have to leave," regardless of whether or not you have received the goods/service you hoped to receive.  They most often don't, because making money is important.  Also, sometimes labor is allotted based on sales per hour, so they may allow a sale to justify keeping their employees there for more time.  Whenever I worked food service and closed, it usually didn't bother me if people came in 10, 15 minutes before close.  I usually had enough work to do around them that it didn't impede my closing duties schedule/routine.  But I would vacuum you out if everything else was just about done.  The people there immediately at open bothered me more, mostly because they expected full hilt service the moment the door was unlocked.  Heard a rumor that Old Chicago has a limited late night menu so they can keep that cash coming in while employees work on pre-closing duties in the kitchen.
    In other viewpoints, having customers stay past closing (food and/or retail) can be a safety and liability issue for the employees, especially the one doing the nightly deposit.  A grill and fryer should be completely cooled before leaving (ya know, cuz hot stuff can turn into fire) and most employees working nights in food service are minors, which puts them under labor laws that vary by state.
    Influencing my thoughts on this topic are: I worked for three chain restaurants in 7 locations (3 states), my mom managed a different chain restaurant while I was growing up (and most of my friends worked for her), my sister has been a store manager for one chain for 7 years (5 locations, 3 states), and I live with roommates who have a combined 15 years retail experience, including 5 years management.  We were just having a discussion the other night wherein we all agreed that arriving five minutes before closing for anything more than a quick in-and-out is a dick move.
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    seashmore got a reaction from Midwest LDS in Restaurants Cleaning While You Eat   
    Please don't take this as my calling you out personally, but the posted schedule is for the business, not the customers or workers.
    if the restaurant/retail establishment closes at, say, 9:00, then they have every right at 9:00 to say, "We are now closed, and you have to leave," regardless of whether or not you have received the goods/service you hoped to receive.  They most often don't, because making money is important.  Also, sometimes labor is allotted based on sales per hour, so they may allow a sale to justify keeping their employees there for more time.  Whenever I worked food service and closed, it usually didn't bother me if people came in 10, 15 minutes before close.  I usually had enough work to do around them that it didn't impede my closing duties schedule/routine.  But I would vacuum you out if everything else was just about done.  The people there immediately at open bothered me more, mostly because they expected full hilt service the moment the door was unlocked.  Heard a rumor that Old Chicago has a limited late night menu so they can keep that cash coming in while employees work on pre-closing duties in the kitchen.
    In other viewpoints, having customers stay past closing (food and/or retail) can be a safety and liability issue for the employees, especially the one doing the nightly deposit.  A grill and fryer should be completely cooled before leaving (ya know, cuz hot stuff can turn into fire) and most employees working nights in food service are minors, which puts them under labor laws that vary by state.
    Influencing my thoughts on this topic are: I worked for three chain restaurants in 7 locations (3 states), my mom managed a different chain restaurant while I was growing up (and most of my friends worked for her), my sister has been a store manager for one chain for 7 years (5 locations, 3 states), and I live with roommates who have a combined 15 years retail experience, including 5 years management.  We were just having a discussion the other night wherein we all agreed that arriving five minutes before closing for anything more than a quick in-and-out is a dick move.
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    seashmore reacted to zil in Restaurants Cleaning While You Eat   
    "Please step out of the vehicle."
    "Get out of the vehicle."
    Bust the window and yank the guy out of the vehicle.
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    seashmore reacted to Midwest LDS in Restaurants Cleaning While You Eat   
    I actually do try to avoid going to any store five minutes to close if I can avoid it. I don't think there is anything inherantly wrong with it, but I've been where the workers have been. You just want to be done for the day, and then someone wanders in, takes 20 minutes to figure out what they want, and then you're late getting home. I remember when I delivered pizzas for Pizza Hut and someone ordered a pizza at 11:55. Of course she was on the other side of town, did not tip, and paid with a dang check. So I try not to do that to anyone else if I can help it, and if I can't I move as quick as possible so I don't hold them up. 
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    seashmore reacted to zil in Restaurants Cleaning While You Eat   
    Huh. Dr. N (father of the family who started this business I work for) used to say "Fast, Cheap, Good - pick two."  This is the first time I've heard a variant of it (haven't even heard a repeat of it, which is kinda surprising because it seems to me like a universal truth).
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    seashmore reacted to clbent04 in Restaurants Cleaning While You Eat   
    And a magical, little sweeper you were!