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    seashmore reacted to KScience in Ten to One   
    No idea what the statistics are....but looking round my female heavy ward would generally agree.
     
    However 2 weeks ago I had the exact opposite (Friday night after work so maybe that's the difference) and had 3 sisters and nearly 20 men. Last week was stake session and again more men than women.  Will see what the ratio is tonight and see if there is a pattern emerging.
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    seashmore reacted to askandanswer in So, we had the missionaries over for dinner   
    One? He's in a companionship.
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    seashmore reacted to Just_A_Guy in So, we had the missionaries over for dinner   
    “Missionaries for Dinner” sounds like the name for a summer zombie-slasher film that would do very well in Provo.
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    seashmore reacted to zil in So, we had the missionaries over for dinner   
    Or maybe we go Scandinavian: Elder Askandanswerson.  Yes, I like that better.
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    seashmore reacted to Vort in So, we had the missionaries over for dinner   
    My oldest served in the Colorado Springs mission, where his AP was a guy named Aaron Fielding. My second son left six months before the oldest got home, and served in the Louisville mission, spending most of his mission in southern Indiana. There he met the Fielding family—including their oldest son Aaron, recently returned from his Colorado Springs mission. We ate dinner with the family when we went to tour the mission after my son got home. Warm, friendly, wonderful people. These days, Aaron is acting on some BYUtv sketch comedy some of you may have heard of. Studio Sea, or something like that.
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    seashmore got a reaction from zil in Can women have a healthy relationship guy bestfriend and their boyfriend at the same time? Based on what happened yesterday, I would conclude NO   
    Based on the OP, it seems you're both pre-mission.  If that's the case, y'all are fairly young.  Here's what I would tell my YW if they were feeling the same way you are about a situation like this: dial it back about fifty years.  Would it have been reasonable for you to expect in the moment updates about her plans?  Not really.  Do you trust her that she didn't do anything awry while you were away?  If you don't, ask yourself why and talk about it.  Hint: you should probably trust her to not get frisky with him.
    Now, if this YW you're dating were one of mine and she came to me with your reaction, I'd ask her if she thought it was reasonable of you to expect her to notify you every time her plans change last minute if they don't effect the time that she will be spending with you.  Personally, I don't think it's reasonable.  In fact, it's a yellow flag that you have the capability of being possessive, jealous, and possibly overbearing in the future.  (Yellow flags are not red flags, just reminders to proceed with caution.)  These are not traits that contribute to healthy relationships.
    Good news, forgiveness is possible and commanded.  Fix it and forget about it. 
    Also, it's entirely possible that she put on those nice jeans for you and not him.
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    seashmore reacted to anatess2 in Special Music for Sacrament   
    Our music director must be your brother.  We sing that way too much.
     
    Never heard of it!  Probably because we're in Florida.  But we do sing Once There Was  Snowman in Primary when most of the kids have never seen snow. 
    Enjoying the youtube video of it now.  It's quite majestic.
    Wish we had one of those.  They all play slow in my ward.  And @zil hits it right on the head.  I used to be a chorister and I would try to make eye contact with the organist to get him to follow my lead because everything was dragging.  Not happening...  But we had this one organist who is a BYU graduate from a music major.  I knew she is not playing slow because she can't play faster so I asked her if she can play faster.  And I was major surprised when she said she didn't realize she was playing slow - she was just playing in time with the congregation.  She said she's been playing in sacrament meeting for years and she doesn't follow the chorister because the chorister follows her!  So, I told her I can set the tempo if she follows me... those were awesome but she moved to Utah a few weeks after that.  I also used to ask the congregation to stand for intermediate hymn if we're playing an upbeat song which automatically gets the song played a bit faster.  But then we got a new bishop who put a kibosh to standing for intermediate hymns.
     
     
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    seashmore reacted to zil in Special Music for Sacrament   
    C'mon.  You really expect us to believe this person sets the tempo?  Everyone knows it's really the organist who does that.
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    seashmore reacted to Fether in Special Music for Sacrament   
    Perhaps a prelude musical number that plays right before the bishop goes up and begins the meeting?? Not sure if the church has a standard for that.
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    seashmore reacted to zil in Special Music for Sacrament   
    Actually, this would be nice a lot of the time - some pianists/organists play hymns at their slowest tempo, which is almost always too slow!  Time to play them at their fastest tempo - keep folks awake!
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    seashmore reacted to askandanswer in Special Music for Sacrament   
    So Carb, with the meetings shortened by about 10% are you going to conduct the hymns 10% faster? 
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    seashmore reacted to zil in Special Music for Sacrament   
    I've never seen or experienced that.
    70min Sacrament
    10 min break
    40 min Sunday School
    10 min break
    50 min RS / Priesthood
    Handbook 2, if they haven't changed it already, shows the above schedule: 70-10-40-10-50.
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    seashmore reacted to MarginOfError in Special Music for Sacrament   
    Point of order, Sacrament is being reduced by 10 minutes (not 15).
    A well organized bulletin can preserve some of the remaining time.
    Adding more people to pass sacrament is a good option for large wards.
    Having one less speaker really won't hurt anyone's feelings.  In my ward, we're planning on going to two speakers, plus the occasional (every 2 - 3 weeks) youth speaker.  If we find it difficult to fit special musical numbers in, we'll schedule youth speakers and musical numbers to be the equivalent of one adult talk, and then have one other talk that same day.
    It also wouldn't be unreasonable to have someone speak very briefly on a special experience in their lives, special musical number, and a talk that is the actual sermon.
     
    There are a LOT of creative things you can do to utilize the time in Sacrament meeting.  (all of which you could be using now)
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    seashmore reacted to zil in Special Music for Sacrament   
    Given that they're cutting the opening prayer and all hymns from the second hour, apparently the music part is being downplayed.  Perhaps this does indeed mean that choirs and/or special musical numbers will either fade or be used more rarely, maybe even only as a special music-oriented meeting.
    You can fit two speakers in there, they just can't take 15 minutes each.  Ways to free up more time for the talks and/or music:
    No announcements - or the only announcement is "please see the bulletin for announcements" - I know this will be painful for a lot of people, but only until we adjust. Shorter talks (some will be greatly improved by this; some words of instruction about stand-up comedy or family introductions may be in order when folks are invited to speak). More young men passing the sacrament - in my ward, they could easily add 2 more people and thereby speed things up and it would actually be more reverent (and better able to handle fluctuations in attendance) - I can't for the life of me figure out why they don't, unless we don't have enough worthy young men and they don't want adults to do it.  (This does not mean I'm in a rush to hurry through this portion of the meeting, just that logistically, it could be done and still be reverent.) Some callings and releases are being moved from Sacrament meeting to the 2nd hour.  Don't know that this will save much time for the Sacrament meeting, but minutes are made up of seconds...
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    seashmore reacted to anatess2 in Can women have a healthy relationship guy bestfriend and their boyfriend at the same time? Based on what happened yesterday, I would conclude NO   
    So, two days ago, I went to see Bohemian Rhapsody with my husband of 20 years on my left and my male best friend of 22 years on my right.
    And that's all I have to say about that.
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    seashmore reacted to Just_A_Guy in Making a Murderer   
    I remember back when this first came out that it turned out the film’s producers had been highly selective with the information they portrayed in the film.  Beyond that, I don’t remember much.  There’s so much outrage-porn out there these days, it’s getting hard to gauge when a true travesty has occurred.   
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    seashmore got a reaction from ctr2961 in Being Single in a Family Ward   
    Not yet. 
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    seashmore reacted to anatess2 in Is anyone doing/recently done an undergraduate degree or college course?   
    This approach towards teaching is for grammar school and maybe high school only.
    College is a whole 'nother thing.  They're not kids anymore needing to learn to be literate.  Rather, you're aiming for a degree that proves your competence in the area.  You teach what is needed to achieve the COMPETENCY.  The students achieve the competency or they fail and take the class again to gain the competency.
    Your question of "Maybe I should cut material"?  is the WRONG question and is doing the university and the students and the community to which these students have to contribute, a disservice.  Your question should be... "Am I teaching the correct amount of material to achieve the COMPETENCY?" 
    If you're teaching one of those useless classes that is just there to suck money out of college kids then maybe it's time to look towards finding a useful class to teach.
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    seashmore reacted to zil in Is anyone doing/recently done an undergraduate degree or college course?   
    I'll give a final useless thought (useless because these students are clearly bound and determined to starve to death on your government's dime): The reason I hated history classes (except one in college) was because everything was centered around facts which could be looked up.  This person did that thing in this place on that date.  Yawn-edy-yawn-yaaaawwwwnnnnn!   There was no rational way I was going to consider all that meaningful to me.  The one class I did like taught concepts by showing how they had played out in history.  There were still people who did things in places on dates, but those weren't the focus and we weren't tested on those - we were tested on concepts.
    This is my way of suggesting that if what you're teaching is a bunch of look-up-able facts, expecting the students to memorize these and later figure out on their own how they're relevant - well, expect them not to.  Instead, teach them principles or concepts, and use the facts to demonstrate those principles in action.  Test them on the concepts and principles - because, frankly, work is an open-book test.  You can look up the numbers, you can google the law, etc.  What you can't google is an understanding of how to put the concepts to use.  (Although you might even be able to do that, but if you don't know at least some stuff, you won't know if the page you're reading was written by an idiot or a genius.)
    But yeah, require the babies to read in prep for the course, don't start the class with a summary of what they read - start with an assumption that they read, and some will step up and be blessed by the class while others will fail - boo hoo.
    PS: The good news is that one day, the world will end.
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    seashmore reacted to askandanswer in Last vote for forum name change   
    Mark 15:25  And it was the third hour, and they crucified him.
    So now the name of our forum commemorates the hour at which Jesus was crucified? 
    Or is it more to do with a description of the people who frequent the forum, as described in Matthew 20:3
    And he went out about the third hour, and saw others standing idle in the marketplace, forum
     
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    seashmore reacted to zil in Being Single in a Family Ward   
    No.  There are certain statuses which enable one to choose from a limited number of options:
    18-30 (Young Single Adult / YSA), if there's a single adult ward for your area, you can choose it or your regular ward Single Adult not even sure what age range(s) this covers, but if there is a specific ward for older single adults, you can choose that or your regular ward Language-specific: sometimes there's a branch (perhaps even ward) for those who don't speak the local language fluently, and they can choose either to attend that or their regular ward In all cases, you choose between the special ward designated for your status and geographic area, or the ward in which you reside.
    The only other case I know of is when someone requests for personal reasons to have their records transferred to another ward in their stake (or perhaps the neighboring stake).  Examples I've heard of are work schedule and personal conflict with someone in your geographic ward.  In this case the stake president(s) has to approve the change, and your records are transferred.
    Anything else is you just acting on your own without your records transferred.  If your records are not transferred, these things are more-or-less true:
    You appear to be inactive in your ward (though it's possible someone(s) in your ward will know otherwise by observation or you told them) You cannot have a calling in the ward you do attend (because they don't have your records) You may not be able to renew your temple recommend (attendance questions) If you have people "assigned" to minister to you, it's unofficial, as would be any ministering you do It has some degree of financial impact - e.g. if you pay tithes and offerings, it would go against your ward's numbers, but the expense of you (if any) would go against the ward you're attending (e.g. you attend their activities, or get manuals or the like from them). It's something of a headache for the leadership of both wards - someone from the old ward may be assigned to fellowship you, on the assumption you're inactive; meanwhile the numbers are all skewed and you don't show up on reports, blah blah blah. A lot in the Church really is handled kinda like a business as far as records go That said, better that someone attend Sunday meetings and feel of the Spirit and be reminded of / learn the doctrine than to not go at all.  Ideally, they'll at least try to meet with the stake president and see about having their records transferred - even if denied, at least the bishop of your ward will know his ward has some problem or other.
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    seashmore reacted to Vort in Being Single in a Family Ward   
    In a sense. There are requirements for singles ward membership. I'm confident that being unmarried is one of those requirements. But, for example, there exist certain language-specific wards which, AFAIK, are opt-in. You can choose to attend a Chinese-speaking ward if there is one in your area.
    Beyond singles' wards and the uncommon example of language-specific wards, I'm pretty sure ward membership is strictly geographically based, with all exceptions approved by the stake presidency or presidencies of the specific cases involved.
    Please note that I'm speaking strictly from my own understanding and not from any position of authority.
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    seashmore reacted to MarginOfError in Being Single in a Family Ward   
    Yeah, I should clarify:
    When an individual has a choice of attending either the conventional ward in which boundaries they reside, or a Single Adult unit, it is the individual who decides which ward to attend. Priesthood leaders are then expected to ensure records are in the unit of choice and the member is accepted into full participation.
     
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    seashmore reacted to carlimac in What name would you choose?   
    They used to put out yearly manuals for FHE. Maybe that's what it's about. 
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    seashmore reacted to Vort in What name would you choose?   
    The Grafted Branch.
    Nah. Way too obscure. Not really meaningful, either. Plus it encourages graft, which is a sin. "The Nepotism Branch" might be the better choice.