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    seashmore reacted to SilentOne in What name would you choose?   
    What I was going for is that you said what I was about to say write.
    The Write Branch could maybe work. For some reason the word Branch makes me think Broken, but The Broken Branch maybe doesn't give quite the impression the Powers that Be want.
    My vote today would go to The Fourth Hour, but that isn't an option. IF they get rid of an hour, then Third Hour would be appropriate when that goes into effect. After that, I like The Written Ward or The Spoken Ward.
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    seashmore reacted to zil in What name would you choose?   
    The Written Ward (after all, we're not actually speaking).
    The Online First Ward
    Ward to the Wisecrackers
    ETA: That could be "Ward for the Wisecrackers"
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    seashmore reacted to zil in What name would you choose?   
    Would they really develop a whole new curriculum for RS and Priesthood, and announce release of a new curriculum for SS and Primary, and then cancel one of the two?  Or shall Sacrament Meeting just be the sacrament and off we go to classes with no talks?
    I think the rumor of cutting church back to 2 hours is nothing more than some people's wishes.
    The Mormon Blogernacle Enquirer
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    seashmore reacted to Vort in What name would you choose?   
    Here's to fervently hoping that does not happen.
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    seashmore reacted to Vort in What name would you choose?   
    Wouldn't "FourthHour" be better?
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    seashmore reacted to zil in Unexpected Interests   
    They are alphabetical.  L before W, C before F.  DisneyLand is in California.  DisneyWorld is in Florida.
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    seashmore got a reaction from zil in Unexpected Interests   
    I had some friends who had a son serving a mission that either includes or borders whatever one DisneyPlace is in (I get Land and World mixed up).  The mom grew up not far from there, so the rest of the family met some extended family at Disney and didn't tell the missionary until after. 
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    seashmore reacted to anatess2 in Unexpected Interests   
    Yes... but there's nothing in the handbook that says the parents are barred from the mission area.. woot woot woot.  But knowing my kid, he'll be super mad if I show up on his mission so I gotta just have to be super sneaky...
     
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    seashmore reacted to anatess2 in Unexpected Interests   
    @zil got me into fountain pens.  But that's not really unexpected because I love writing letters when I was a teen.  It kinda got overtaken by my fascination with programming emails (before emails became en vogue) so zil's fountain pens is like revisiting an old friend.
    Right now, I have this strange fascination with Tiny Houses on wheels.  This is unexpected because my husband and I argued when we bought our current house because I told him it is ONLY 3,000 sq ft.  So my oldest child is in senior year and my youngest child is in sophomore year.  Both are gung ho on serving a mission right out of high school.  I went to the Philippines this year for the very first time without my kids thinking it would be good for me to prepare myself for the separation.  It was the most miserable time of my mother life.  So, I happened on this video about a mom of twin toddlers who sold their expensive house in Seattle and moved into a 34-foot 5th-wheel trailer pulled by their RAM 3500 dually.  They are living like gypsies moving from campground to campground following music festivals.  And I thought to myself... lightbulb!  My husband and I can move into a Tiny House on wheels and drag the thing to pingpong to wherever my 2 kids go!  Brilliant!  I've been learning about Tiny House building ever since - it's quite a complicated thing... learned about solar arrays, composting toilets, even a foot-pedaled washing machine.  Now I'm into... "how to back-up/parallel park your trailer...".
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    seashmore reacted to SilentOne in Unexpected Interests   
    The Story Trek is a great show.
    I guess my unexpected interest is names. Derivations, trends in given names, etc.
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    seashmore got a reaction from zil in Unexpected Interests   
    While I do enjoy a good polka, I meant more like headbanging stuff.
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    seashmore reacted to Latter-Day Marriage in Not Perfect but with High Expectations   
    I assume by your saying that your dad is a member of the bishopric that he is not the bishop himself, and certainly although they love you and worry about you they are expressing those feelings in a way that is not helpful to you.  You need to talk to them.  Since you told them what happened I would suggest you ask your dad point blank if he feels you should go see the bishop about it.  If he says yes, do it. 
    I don't know exactly what the two of you did, but I'm a bit worried (because of ideas other teens I've encountered had) you might think that since you didn't have intercourse that you didn't break the Law of Chasity.  That idea is not exactly correct, the standard is to not have sexual relations outside of marriage, and you can have sexual relations without intercourse.  I hope you also understand that with the Law of Chasity (like most things) there are degrees of violations.  A moment of weakness is not the same level of sin as willful rebellion.
    If he agrees that this is not a matter to take to the bishop and you feel the same way, then politely tell your parents what you are telling us here.  Tell them the best thing they can do to help you is forgive and move on.  They need to give you a chance to prove yourself. 
    Also, you parents may feel some level of guilt over this and blame themselves to some degree for not doing a good enough job as parents.   You might want to say something helpful to them about that as well.
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    seashmore reacted to zil in Not Perfect but with High Expectations   
    Welcome, @WandererO!  Do what @MarginOfError said!  It'll be OK.  If necessary after that, explain to your parents what you've explained to us:
    1) That you understand and appreciate their worry about your spiritual well-being
    2) But that constantly bringing it up is hindering the repentance process, causing you to dwell on the sin over and over and over, but that's not how it's supposed to work:
    https://www.lds.org/scriptures/dc-testament/dc/58.42?lang=eng&clang=eng#p41
    ... if the Lord is willing to drop it, we should be too.
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    seashmore reacted to MarginOfError in Not Perfect but with High Expectations   
    The best advice I can give you comes from the cover of The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy.
    Don't Panic.
    From what you've described, you've shown all of the traits of repentance.  Your parents are concerned the a priesthood leader may need to be involved.  There's no harm in this.  Schedule a meeting with yourself, your bishop, and one of your parents.  Go over the issues with him just like you did with your parents, and listen to whatever advice he has for you.
    Whether or not this affects your worthiness to take the Sacrament or go to the temple depends on, for instance, the frequency of your transgression, the severity of it, and the inclinations of the bishop.  There isn't much you can do to control any of those at this point.  If you are asked to abstain from those practices for a time, submit yourself to that.
    As for your friends asking you to attend the temple, all you need say is "That time doesn't work for me."  If they press or try to rearrange on your behalf, you may feel free to say "Go ahead without me. I'll go along the next time I'm not feeling so pressured."  
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    seashmore reacted to WandererO in Not Perfect but with High Expectations   
    This is a long complicated story and I have multiple questions. Many of which I have partially answered myself but I want some advice as well.
    I am the daughter of the relief society president and a member of the bishopric. I am also a counselor for the Laurels president in Young women's. I love the gospel but I am definitely not perfect. 
    I have been dating long distance for over 9 months and am so in love with my boyfriend. He is so respectful of me but has been struggling with the church for a bit. Recently I reached a point in my life where I was struggling with many things and my testimony was failing me. We were best friends before we started dating and before he moved and I tell him everything and we are so comfortable together. Recently I got to see my boyfriend for a lot longer than usual and because of my comfortableness around him and my joy in being reunited after a long time, we quickly became overly physical together. We both knew we were never going to break the law of chastity. The problem was that we had allowed ourselves to blur the lines. Justifying that because we were not breaking a commandment it was acceptable.  Many of the Strength of Youth principles were broken. He was completely respectful of me but as stereotypically, he is more physical in our relationship and I am more emotional. So a week after he left I had been thinking about it for a while and realized that even though my boyfriend is so enthusiastic about marrying me and me him, we shouldn't be arousing those strong feelings before marriage. The next time he visited I got to talk for a long time about it with him. I expressed how I felt and he was very good about it, we set new boundaries, he was so sorry that I had felt guilty and was going to try so hard to keep me from ever feeling guilty again. I expressed my feelings about the church and how much I wanted to gain that connection with it again that I had lost the previous month or more. We really settled ourselves.
    I felt really good about the whole situation. But once I had discussed it with my parents: how we had gone a bit far but I had worked it out and it wouldn't happen again. They were supportive, especially about the part that I had been losing my testimony. I talked to them, began reading my scriptures again, praying again and felt peace... for a little bit. I feel as if my parents completely view me based on this discussion I had with them. EVERY time I am alone with them they pick up the discussion of repentance, Strength of Youth on chastity, policing my boyfriend and me more and how I might not be able to take the sacrament for a bit. This surprised me because I didn't think it was as serious as that due to the peace I previously felt about the situation. I was already embarrassed about disappointing them, now I can't move on from it because of how often they bring it up. I brought it up with my boyfriend and his parents know of the whole situation, and he didn't take the sacrament last Sunday out of guilt. I have been praying for forgiveness and guidence for the situation and felt so much peace from these spiritual experiences that it had not occurred to me that I would no longer be worthy of partaking of the sacrament. Each time a parent brings the conversation up I feel horrible again. I feel as if I actually had sex outside of marriage due to the extreme way they are taking it. I know that they care about me. But I no longer can focus on that peace I felt discussing the topic with both them and my boyfriend because every time I remove it from my mind one of my parents brings it back to full focus and make me feel horrible about myself. I have told them over and over that I talked to my boyfriend about it before them and how respectful he is and how we have established boundaries, but they continue to bring up how I should have acted in that situation. 
    My other question on temple worthiness has to do with me being a president's counselor in the Young Women's. I was asked by my president if I could do baptisms with her early in the morning this week. I asked my mother if I could take work off the morning my president had planned (I am employed by my mom). She surprised me by saying that she didn't think I was worthy of the temple anymore and that I would have to talk to my bishop first about whether I could partake of the sacrament or attend the temple. I didn't know how to tell my Laurels president. I don't know what to do. I ended up telling her that I wouldn't make it the day they were suggesting so they moved it to a different date. Putting me in the uncomfortable situation of not being able to tell the truth or lie. They all have such high expectations for me. I am so involved in all my church activities and people see me as the daughter of my parents, who have such important roles in my ward. I am not perfect though.
     
    So I guess the advice I want to know is: When I talk to the bishop what could I expect? If he tells me I can't go to the temple, how do I tell my young women leaders and presidents that I won't be able to go no matter how many times they change the date? Any other advice would be wonderful. It has been a period of roller coasters, with my testimony and questions. I am so stressed about whether my feelings of peace are false and if I really should be feeling guilty every second of the day over this. I don't know if I will ever be comfortable going to my parents again for their advice. So very lost I would appreciate any advice
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    seashmore reacted to Jane_Doe in Caught between husband and adult son   
    (Big picture thing here)
    Your husband is mentally ill and needs counseling (whether or not he'll accept that treatment is another story).  But you have zero control over his choice.  I would also recommend counseling for you, just learning ways the best to work with a mentally ill partner (cause it is stressful and hard).  
    (Now to your specific question)
    You husband can't forbid you from seeing your son.  So leave hubby at home and go visit your son.  And then visit your hubby at home without the son there.  If that means you celebrate Christmas twice, so be it.  
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    seashmore reacted to NeuroTypical in Caught between husband and adult son   
    From what you describe, the answer to your question is one word: Separately.
    When you visit your son, your hubby won't be with you.  So go visit your son and stay in his life.  
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    seashmore reacted to Sunday21 in Immigrate Manitoba   
    We have quite a few meeting houses in Man and soon...a temple! https://canada.lds.org/the-winnipeg-temple-it’s-coming
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    seashmore reacted to Vort in Romantic Music   
    Our theme song is Bad, Bad Leroy Brown.
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    seashmore reacted to Traveler in Romantic Music   
    What would you consider romantic music to set the mood for you and that special someone at a private dinner? 
    I have always been partial to anything by 100 Strings.  More recently I could include “The Piano Guys”.
     
    The Traveler
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    seashmore reacted to Just_A_Guy in Unexpected Interests   
    My sophomore chem teacher once talked us through the entire process of cooking meth.  He then announced that he’d seen our lab work and was fully confident that if any of us tried cooking meth on our own, we’d just end up killing ourselves.  (Getting the temperature right is apparently pretty tricky, and doing it wrong can have disastrous consequences.) 
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    seashmore got a reaction from Sunday21 in Should I Ask to be Reassigned? (Temple Worker)   
    It started off as NaNoWriMo meetings in Saturday nights in November. It just extends into a year round thing for many folks. It's only serious during November (sometimes for Camp NaNo in April and July) but there are always at least five or so people there. Enough that Village Inn lets us permanently reserve their party room from 7pm to close. 
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    seashmore got a reaction from zil in Unexpected Interests   
    People never expect me to like heavy music. My dad grew up as a DJ, so I grew up listening to all kinds of music and still do. I spent a lot of time with a guy who only listened to progressive metal/rock, and he taught me how to find odd music. I also like folk rock and YouTube parodies/mashups. (I have a playlist to keep track of them called "We Do the Weird Stuff," from a line in a Dr. Horrible song.)
    I have a wide variety of hobbies and interests, but I suppose Australian entertainment fits in the least. TV shows and movies, mostly.
    Curling always catches people off guard, until I mention that I curled in high school and grew up a block away from one of the oldest clubs in the US. I'm hoping to join the local club next season, if not this (based on deadlines and costs).
    I'm an ambivert with introverted friends, so people don't always realize I enjoy going to athletic events. However, I don't like going alone, especially to high school games (feel like a creeper). There's just something about experiencing crowd mentality that I find infectious and uplifting. It's where I do the best crowd watching, and love seeing people's reactions when I give a gravelly "woop woop woop" after a good play. 
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    seashmore reacted to Iggy in Unexpected Interests   
    I people watch too. Started when I was about 12 and was allowed to take the city bus to downtown Seattle on Saturdays. I would watch the people on the bus.  I couldn't understand what they were saying - - couldn't make out the words, just the tone - - I put that together with body language and made up my own stories.
    I loved to window shop, which actually included going inside the stores and *shopping with my eyes*. One of the places that held my interest until I graduated High School and moved out of Seattle was the Pike Place Market https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pike_Place_Market
    I spent nearly all day there, watching, learning, enjoying. Not just the customers - but the vendors. And all of those smells. From the Oh So Very Fresh fish, oysters, scallops, and other creatures from the deep, deep sea to spices I couldn't even pronounce, fresh fruits & vegetables ~ in the season thereof, even meats being cut up to order. The wandering further along there  are the shops - selling incense, scented candles, shawls, rugs from far away countries.
    I had to be home by 5:30 pm, and I made that curfew by the *skin of my teeth*. So the weird &  unexpected part(s) ~ how many 12 to 18 year old girls prefer to be alone, people watching, exploring exotic shops, discovering the wonders of fish, meats, produce markets where the vendors have been hawking their wares pretty much like they have been doing for centuries?
    Rrandom: I also would go to the Woodland Park Zoo not only to see and watch the animals there, but also the people. It was fascinating to see how the people reacted to each other, their children and then the animals. 
    Another favorite spot was the Seattle Center - not only the displays, artists, musicians, etc. But walking through the Food Marts. Oh what wonders to behold!! All those foods from far away places, and then the Americanized foods of course.
    I really didn't have much money to spend - often just $5.00 in my pocket and the 20 cents for the round trip bus fare. [yes it was many years ago - 1964-1970]
    Nowadays my people watching while shopping has evolved into people interaction. I have to grocery/household shop and I do the major part of it on the 4th Wednesday, Thursday or Friday of the month ~ after our big payday. That is a 25 mile one way trip to 4 to 6 stores, with eating breakfast in my favorite restaurant before I go to any store. I don't people watch there, I read a book and eat.
    Then I head out to Walmart with my shopping lists from Fred Meyer, Safeway, Thriftway and my *shopping book list* - where I have written down our needs that don't happen to be on sale at any of the stores. I compare prices, if Walmart is cheaper - I buy. While I am shopping, I interact with other shoppers. Usually I am the one to start the conversation. Generally my comments are upbeat or funny or inquisitive. Like once  eggplants were on sale for 0.89$ each, they were large, and the most beautiful color. This tiny little Native American (or are they now called First Nation) elderly woman was picking one out. I remarked how beautiful they looked and how my Mother's first and last attempt to cook some ended up in us kids have hard, round, smallish hockey pucks to toss around and have our dog fetch back to us. She then gave me the directions on how to make Eggplant Parmesan. She selected two of the largest ones and I then went to buy the ingredients I needed.
    There isn't a shopping day where I don't interact with other customers and the store employees - being upbeat, pleasant and with good humor, helps me endure the pain that hits my poor aging body by the third store. Before the last store, it is time to go back to the restaurant for lunch and a much needed rest. If after the last grocery store my feet are not screaming at me and my lower back, hip to foot is not burning (sciatic nerves in overload), then there is a stop at Dollar Tree on the way home. Just to see what they have, and to purchase anything that jumps out at me saying: Buy me, You can't do without me, like the Spicy Brown Mustard, and the bags of buttered popcorn for hubby, or any pasta bowls (which are as rare as hen's teeth).
    Then it is Home Again, Home Again, Jiggity-Jig.
    Now while I am on a roll  🙄 I also love to iron clothes. Since the majority of my clothing is natural fibers (linen blends, cottons, and cotton blends, etc. ) it is a good thing that I like it. Even to the point of purchasing a Rowena iron and double padding my ironing board! I absolutely love to see the wrinkles disappear! Oh - wait - loving ironing - that is a Major Weirdness!
     
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    seashmore reacted to zil in Unexpected Interests   
    If that doesn't qualify as unexpected, I don't know what does!