Danny Phantom

I actually did consider this, though it’s not the deciding factor. I’m certain I want to wait for her, because she’s doing really well and it isn’t so bad her it is an addiction. Well that and I love her like crazy. It honestly won’t be too long we’ll have to wait. I’m posting this I was honestly just curious to what wait times other situations yielded. I didn’t mean for it to be a “please help me decide” post. I was just mainly trying to ask for general curiosity of how long people in similar situations have waited.

Thank you! To update, she is going to get her temple recommend in about a week when she meets with her Bishop again. She’s been doing very well! On top of that, we’re looking at a late spring wedding!?

Thank you! To update, she is going to get her temple recommend in about a week when she meets with her Bishop again. She’s been doing very well! On top of that, we’re looking at a late spring wedding!?

Thank you! To update, she is going to get her temple recommend in about a week when she meets with her Bishop again. She’s been doing very well! On top of that, we’re looking at a late spring wedding!?

Thank you! To update, she is going to get her temple recommend in about a week when she meets with her Bishop again. She’s been doing very well! On top of that, we’re looking at a late spring wedding!?

Thank you! To update, she is going to get her temple recommend in about a week when she meets with her Bishop again. She’s been doing very well! On top of that, we’re looking at a late spring wedding!?

Honest, non-snarky observation: If your fiancée has struggled with pornography, that at least seems to indicate that she likes sex. Never having had to live either extreme, I believe I'd rather have a wife who dealt with (and perhaps deals with) a pornography problem than a wife who doesn't like sex.
I once heard someone say something similar about masturbation. A young woman opined that she wanted to marry a man who had never masturbated. Her leader tried to express the idea that vanishingly few young men had never masturbated, and most those few who had truly never done so probably had a defective sex drive. Masturbation is not a good thing per se, but at least it means the young man's sex drive and equipment is functioning within specs.

@Danny Phantom that is a tough problem to deal with, but it can be dealt with. God can fix this, he really can. The fact that she was open and honest about it to you right from the start is a great sign. That shows me that she wants to be open and honest with you no matter how painful or embarrassing the subject, a good quality in a wife. She had to know it might affect your relationship, yet she told you anyways. As far as your initial question, that's between her and her bishop, but generally it's more like weeks or months than years in my experience, just as a general rule. Go in with your eyes open, she may struggle with this from time to time in her life. But if you receive the confirmation of the Holy Spirit, I say go for it she sounds like the type who does not want this to be a part of her life. Just my two cents☺.

I would say times can vary based on the level of viewing and if it's an addiction.  I have heard missionaries needing to wait 6 months to go on a mission but that didn't mean they had to wait 6 months to go to the temple.  I have heard as little as 3 months but there is no hard rule in the handbook.  I would say she is doing pretty well and it's probably something she should let her bishop know about so you can plan accordingly.  I would be surprised if it was much more than 3 months or maybe a few more from what you are saying but once again it's case by case. 

That's totally up to her and how recovery goes.  None of us here remotely tell you a timeframe.  It's all dependent on where where she is currently, how fast she's willing to move from there to where she needs to be, and how focused on staying there. 
Note: looking beyond any wedding day, the big reason a person works to be clean of pornography is to be chaste before the Lord, their spouse, and themselves.  
That is 563% true!
Again, no one else can remotely tell you.  Pornography is wicked addictive and hard to combat and stay clean.
 

I was rather unsuccessful with the ladies myself (pretty much a crippling fear of rejection made dating an immense chore for me). When I finally worked up the courage to ask my future wife out, I did it in the most wishy, washy manner imaginable. I said, in an email, something along the lines of "If you aren't busy sometime, and if you are I don't blame you and I completely understand, maybe you would like to see a movie sometime...etc". She actually had to ask her brother and check if I was asking her out on a date or not, and was not just asking her if she likes going to movies lol. Fortunately, she was happy once she deciphered my intent, and she likes to tease me about it now, but if a girl senses your kindness and sincerity she really won't care about how you asked, she just will be happy you did☺.

You can always start out saying something like "Hey, I know asking you this over Facebook is kind of lame, but I've tired getting a chance to ask in person and it hasn't worked out and I don't want to put it off any longer so... "

If you acknowledge your not doing it the best way right at the start, people are likely to cut you some slack for it.

@Dillon In my late 20s, I developed the dating philosophy "If he's not man enough to ask me out, he's not man enough to marry me." #whyimsingle It's interesting that you think you know how the majority of women think without actually being one. And if it's really true that *all* of the women you know act (and allegedly think) the way that you claim they do, I feel sorry that you don't have a wider circle of friends. 
@Danny Phantom Someone mentioned asking out via text, and I would discourage that. Texting/Facebook messaging for  longer getting-to-know-you type conversations is fine. Some girls (like myself) don't mind and may even prefer that method of communication. However, when it comes to the invitation to the physical date, in person or phone call is best. It's more personal. If you aren't comfortable asking for a date straight up, offer to carpool to the next FHE or ward activity and get to know her that way. I'll remind you that Elder Oaks's definition of a date (as given in one of his legendary addresses on dating vs. hanging out) is: paired off, planned out, and paid for. If that seems intimidating, I remind myself that a date is spending 1-3 hours with someone where the majority of the focus is on the other person. 
Good luck and let us know how it goes!

I have to second you on this, actually.  I have this new Mutual LDS dating app, and I have to say that I have encountered countless girls on there that say something like "Just looking for people to chill with, nothing more." or "Just on here for the free dinners." in their 'About Me' section.  Honestly, it's ridiculous, and I'm really tired of seeing that.  I mean, I get people have their reasons, but if you're going to put "Just on here for the free dinners." on there, I'm sorry, but that is a really scummy thing to do.

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@Danny Phantom
go for the kill. Buy a ring (can be cheap... like $50), get on one knee, and ask the question.

@Danny Phantom you may be young enough not to have appreciated this wonderful piece on the topic in question, I believe it's worth the 1/2 hour it takes to watch:
 

You must be "the law" because I believe in obeying, honoring, and sustaining you.

I can't say half of the ones I come up with because they sound dirty.

Like... lose that zero and choose a hero?  That doesn't sound dirty at all!

Pick-up lines are underrated. No woman can resist the charm of their endearing cleverness. They work really great at attracting high-quality chicks for a minimal investment of effort. Make sure you use Mormon Pick-up Lines®:
"Are you virtue? Because you've been garnishing my thoughts unceasingly." "Did an angel fall from heaven? "Cause if they did, and if they saw you, boy, they'd sure get jealous." (Never hurts to mix in a touch of Jack Handeyism, just to keep 'em off balance.) "What?! Your name is Britney? Like in my patriarchal blessing?!" (If her name is something other than Britney, you'll just have to figure that one out for yourself.) Don't be afraid to make up your own pick-up lines. Just try to keep them scripture-related, and you're golden. Hint: Steer clear of the Song of Solomon. Women are strange, and some take offense at having their breasts compared to game animals. Plus, in modern English-speaking countries, "sister" is not really a term of endearment for a romantic interest.
"You remind me of the sword of Laban, because your workmanship is exceeding fine." "I must be sleeping, because I"m having a vision...of you." [while dancing] "If not for Martin Harris, there would be another 116 pages between us." (Warning: If she never went to seminary, this one might go over her head. But then she'll just think you're a Spiritual Giant, so it's all good!) Even better if you can work in some oblique humblebrag about your mission. Throw in a foreign word or two, if you can manage.
"All that time tracting in the Louvre, and I never saw an objet d'art like you." "Who could have known that humbly serving the dirt-poor but wonderful people in the favelas of Rio would lead me to standing here with someone like you, minha querida?" "I remember walking with my companion in Florence, seeing the happy couples, and thinking that, one day, it would be me -- like I am here with you, bella scema." (Make sure she doesn't speak Italian.) Seriously*. A good pick-up line is all you need to start on the path to eternal bliss.
*Not seriously

The first time I saw you I had to confess to my bishop....
...wait..........
....no....that's no good.

You must be the prophet because I keep finding myself following you.
 

"If you're like the gold plates, a priceless treasure, I want to be one of the eight witnesses -- I want to see you, heft you, examine your pages, and testify by my own touch of your physical reality."
Ain't nothin' creepy about that!