Marlayna West

Yes, to Annatess2. I would never say to him the word ‘idiot’, I’m describing one of the issues to you, here. He is incredibly intelligent academically but not so socially. He’s a nerd, basically. Yes, I just called him a nerd and I would say that to his face.? It’s incredibly discouraging to be all horny, get all beautified and maybe into a sexy lingerie and then not be able to get his attention away from whatever he’s doing. I would be receptive to that (well,not the sexy lingerie on my hubby☺️) but I thought ANY man would, but I learned my lesson. It has been difficult for so long. We are the ‘opposites attract’ scenario. He’s not lovey dovey or expressive, he works hard and provides well. Often I think I’d rather live in a trailer house and be hugged and kissed than be in this big house with the all the green grass. IGGY, thanks. I have felt like saying I ‘need’ something was too demanding also, defining what I ‘need’ or maybe I just ‘want’. I haven’t died from lack of “all over body caresses & deep massage on (my)back & shoulders.” and feet too, but I really, really would love that. What separates ‘need’ and ‘want’ for you? I’ll figure out how to bring up the testosterone, I know it’s not the whole problem but it might be a start. Thanks again for all these awesome comments!

Yes, both LDS. Both chaste. Although my mind is a roller coaster, it’s a battle. I really believe sex rarely crosses his mind. He is a flirt/innuendo idiot. We have been married 28 years. I’ll encourage him to go to the dr. When I bring up the issue we both end up defensive and arguing and hurt and that is not at all condusive to love making. I went to the dr. today and I am trying a new antidepressant. The doc was a little surprised at our role reversed sex complaint. He suggested a testosterone check for hubby. Thanks for all the comments, it is a difficult topic to broach in person.

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Has anyone here actually revived a sexless marriage with lasting, (for the most part) happy results? I’m so lonely and bored in the marriage department. Sex isn’t a priority/ interest for my hubby. I’m tired of providing all the energy and interest but if I don’t, he won’t and even if I offer he won’t necessarily join in.