Lee

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  1. Bro I don't know the process of contesting having your temple recommend being taken away but you should definitely speak to the Stake President. I would just explain the situation clearly and I am sure he will act fairly and he won't take sides. Did you not speak with the Stake President about your marriage in the temple? You should have a feel of what his nature is like. Good Luck with your uncle, that sounds rough.
  2. Bro have some self control and don't worry about being around your fiancee alone, just because you messed up once doesn't mean you will do it again. I doubt it will take longer than 7 months to repent so you shouldn't need to push your wedding back. If it takes longer then it takes longer, you shouldn't be getting married if you don't have self control anyway.
  3. I missed missed Saturday's due to travelling ,watched most of Sunday's session but I was exhausted from my travels and I don't remember most of it Please let me know good ones to listen to. Much love.
  4. I disagree there will definitely be people who you think are all in who are only half in. Anyway what really is wrong with someone who has faith in the gospel but is not living up to those standards not being all out? When I was in Utah a year before I went to college I was half in, I went to church, sometimes took the sacrament, participated in family home evening with my parents etc, but I was breaking almost all the rules. When I went to college I was all out and that is worse than being half in, in my opinion anyway.
  5. That is why I assumed that it is easier to be a Mormon in Utah then anywhere else. I can't really comment on that but in Utah there is a lot of pressure to at least appear as a Mormon because almost all of your friends and family are. It isn't so much they keep up the appearance to get access to the things you mention but it is easier to still have fiends and family think you are a good Mormon. Also, they may still identify as being Mormons it is a big part of their life even attending church is so that is one reason they may not stop. So if those relatives and friends weren't in Utah then they wouldn't say they were Mormons? Or do you think they would be better Mormons if they didn't live in Utah ?
  6. Again I wouldn't know I have never done missionary work.
  7. Can't say I am familiar but I have had a very sheltered life
  8. No matter where you are just because someone is a Mormon doesn't mean they are a good Mormon or a good person. I was a terrible Mormon when I was 17 and a bit of a jerk but I was still a Mormon. So your point is that in Utah we call more people Mormons who aren't Mormons?
  9. Exactly That is why I think it is dumb to use Utah Mormonism as a phrase. Utah is great people just be hating for no reason.
  10. That is probably true. I imagine it is easier being a Mormon in Utah compared to anywhere else. I don't know because I have only ever lived in Utah except for my time at college when I wasn't active so I am just guessing that it is easier to be a Mormon in Utah.
  11. I was never taught that, not all Mormons in Utah care what hand you use, my parents never did and neither do I
  12. Honestly, bro I think I use my right hand because I am right handed not because I grew up in Utah.
  13. kids at school used to brag about it mainly on Pioneer Day. Actually, even adults mention it quite a lot like it is some certification of their character.
  14. That sounds dumb to me, sure some Mormons in Utah take things to seriously and some will like to tell you their ancestors were pioneers but you get that with Mormons everywhere. Utah is a great state y'all are just salty
  15. I have lived in Utah my entire life minus when I was away at college and I have never heard the term Utah Mormonism. What is it?
  16. It is tough for sure, but I wouldn't say I felt shunned. I went to church a few times when I was inactive and it was fine for me. Even went outside the temple when a friend got married.
  17. Maybe I am not sure. I just want her to be happy that is all, I wouldn't make her stay with me even if I loved her. If we were driving each other crazy then she is free to leave even if love is there. If she wanted to stay with me and try to be happy then obviously I wouldn't say no. If she feels I don't love her then I have failed as a husband and it is no surprise she doesn't love me. What is happiness if it isn't a feeling? It is my sole goal in life to be happy, I even tried some of the things you mention to be happy and it worked for sure, but it is just momentary happiness.
  18. I was inactive for two and a half years, it is annoying when people call you. I was never really rude though mainly because they probably knew my parents and I wouldn't embarrass my parents by being rude to people they know. Honestly, you do want to be left alone though it is a big adjustment deciding not to be active so it is important to have time away without being harassed.
  19. I didn't mean things like that. For example, I don't particularly want to drive 2 hours every Saturday to go and see my parents, I would much rather play golf or spend time with my wife but I do it because it makes my parents happy to see me and I want to make them happy because I love them. I am not doing it to get closer to christ it is out of love for them. If she told me she doesn't love me. Honestly, I would leave someone who did love me if I couldn't make them happy anymore.
  20. I think it is one part of love to get closer to christ. However, it is not the sole reason I act out of love towards my wife or family. I love them regardless if it brings me closer to christ, I do it to make them happy, or because I know it is what is best for them. I don't believe or regard love as an excuse or reason for anything. Love isn't any kind of justification for behaviour it is a feeling and an action it may be one of many reasons why you do something but in itself it is no excuse to act in a certain way. We would just talk about it, understand each others perspective.
  21. kind of. I think that love means more than getting closer to christ, I think when you act out of love you feel closer to christ but that is just one part of love. 1 day would be the limit, It isn't right to not act out of love for longer than that. I have never not acted out of love for more than a few hours at a time.
  22. Yes that is right. Sin can sometimes overcome love, sometimes I act out of anger to my wife and my parents but I still love them I just at the moment didn't act out of love towards them. The feeling of love is always there.
  23. I was raised like that, my husband suggested doing that with our nephew but I don't feel comfortable letting someone's child go hungry when their care has been entrusted to us.