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Here are my thoughts. Take them or leave them, as you see fit.
Full-time missionary service is an option for you, but unless you have received personal revelation from God instructing you to fulfill a full-time mission, your missionary service is strictly optional. You have no divine duty to serve a full-time mission. This does not make your potential service less valuable, just less imperative. The highest "calling" (if I can call it that) for a young LDS man or woman is to marry and begin living your eternal life as husband and wife. If you want to serve God to the fullest and enjoy the unspeakable happiness God has in store for you, then making yourself worthy and ready for wifehood should be your top priority. Again, this doesn't mean you can't or shouldn't serve a mission. Just keep your priorities straight. It sounds like your problem is largely one of timing, though I sense (perhaps incorrectly?) that there are other concerns in play. There are always other concerns. As for timing, you do your best and press forward. If your boyfriend/fiancé is trying to pressure you to do Thing A vs. Thing B, I think your wisest course is to sit down with him immediately and have a sober, in-depth discussion about your relationship, your mutual expectations, and your own personal desires. My sense is that he ought not be instructing you on the appropriate way to live your life by telling you that you should not (or should) serve a mission. The sooner you each clarify your roles, responsibilities, desires, and intended paths, the sooner you can begin to adapt and compromise. Consider this a wakeup call of sorts, and decide whether or not you're comfortable with your fiancé/husband instructing you on how to make your decisions and live your life. If you are, so be it. If not, you should probably confront that issue now and put it to bed.

As someone who lives with a lot of these, I’m just going to point out:
You don’t recover from depression.  You manage depression.  It’s likely going to be an issue all his life.  And if he can’t serve a mission for whatever reason, that reason is again likely to be something that will affect other aspects of life together—his ability to get along with people, ability to hold a job, ability to be a breadwinner, ability to help with kids, ability to sustain you in your life goals, etc.  I sort of get a vibe that you’re the “caretaker” in that relationship, and that’s gonna get old really fast.
Nineteen seems awfully young to get saddled with all of this.  I hope you tread carefully.

I think I'll give Discord a miss. I used to get into a lot of "bad stuff" there. Though I've cleaned my life up (or more precisely God has cleaned my life up) there's no point raking up old temptations.

Thirdhour had to be intentionally shut down this morning for a while, apparently there was a massive hack against 1.6 million wordpress sites that needed to be dealt with.
Here's a reminder that we also have a Facebook page.  It doesn't take the place of the forums, but it's a place where people can be kept informed at times the site is down.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/1680286298907600
You can join up there, and keep your anonymity here - I don't think there's a requirement to disclose your username or anything like that.  
 

Polygamy or not, it would still be my responsibility to take out the trash.

Then those who wanted to polygamize would polygamize and the rest of us would listen to our wife

But what does it mean to be equal in heavenly things? And what is the connection with being equal in earthly things?
We receive "all" the Father hath through Christ. In that sense, and as said above we are joint-heirs with Christ, we are equal in heavenly things. The connection, a theory, is the doctrine that all things were spiritual before they were temporal. We are to pattern this life (earthly things) after our pre-mortal life (spiritual things); after the manner which the Lord has set.
This connection also weaves the doctrine of being "one."
 

I think being equal in heavenly things refers to membership in the Church of the Firstborn, joint-heirs with Christ. Being equal in earthly things, under the law of consecration, means we abide the law in the proper spirit. The terminology in D&C 51 is, "every man equal according to his family, according to his circumstances and his wants and needs." So context, circumstance and subjectivity are considered as well as quantity of goods, requiring a high degree of spirituality to live "after the manner of happiness" (2 Nephi 5: 10-17, 27); as no happier people, having the love of God in their hearts (4 Nephi 1: 15-18); and following the principles of Zion where there are no poor among them.

My response is just based on personal experience and is most likely not found in resource. I had the privilege of visiting the spirit world. I was very ill a few years back and I had been vomiting intermittently. After a particularly bad session of vomiting I laid down and all of my pain went away. The last thing I remember feeling was my entire body had the fuzzy feeling, like when your foot falls asleep. I then found myself in an area of the spirit world where people had not known Jesus during mortal life. I was given authority to feel all of their emotions and identify each emotion in specificity. Some were even "speaking" aloud or projecting their thoughts. They were afraid, confused, angry. Some didn't expect to still be alive after leaving mortality. They had not planned for this ordeal and it was frustrating. They could not leave the designated area. I felt my brethren and I heard their pleas for relief. My spirit ached and began to call out to them. I testified to them that they had a Savior. That Jesus had suffered for them. Mid sentence I was removed from their presence and I abruptly awoke. I could feel my pain again. The Lord had mercy on me and sent me back to my wife and babies.
I testify to you that the spirits of the dead ARE suffering without their temple work done. It is OUR responsibility to help them along in a timely manner. The sooner the better to feel relief. Are not we all family? Are we not kinsmen of the Kingdom of our Father? We are ALL Children of God and the mercy of His Beloved Son is extended to all who call upon Him and enter into His righteous covenants. We help them enter into those covenants if ever the occasion warrants. This life is madness at times; thank goodness for the plan of salvation and the holy temples that are part of that plan.

Who cares if they wear pants. If their local leader tells them it's okay then whatever. I don't remember the last time being bothered by a sister wearing pants. I honestly don't even remember seeing someone wearing pants... like ever. Being of Jewish descent I sometimes like to grow out my locks and beard. I think it is interesting how temple workers and missionaries can't wear beards or longer hair (as males). Especially since there are a ton of paintings with the Lord WEARING A BEARD. They asked us not to, so I am going to just comply. If I ever get asked to serve in the Temple I will make sure I am within the standards. I could make a stink out of and ask them to ask the Lord to change His mind BUT I am just not that interested. It's not a big deal to ME.

"They get better when they distance themselves from negative messages or rejecting spaces while they are still healing."
This is not just for lgbtq in church but normal "sensitive" members too that feel they are not living up to their callings or church standards. Last month stk pres made his rounds in the wards and came down hard on us for the lack of missionary work. Every month in EQ they are forcing the ministering message due to the lack of results...its become a fear based environment that those who leave the church use as their reason.

I did for my police applications.  I had to account for my entire life for background checks. No gaps.  Otherwise no I have/would not unless applicable to the job I was applying.

Resumes have only one purpose - get someone interested enough in you to schedule an interview.  Anything that detracts from that purpose doesn't belong on a resume.
In fact, resumes are really crappy ways to get jobs in the first place.  Networks and human contact are how you get jobs.  Resumes are best used as an afterthought. 

I have included my mission service on every resume or college application I've ever sent out. I do this for a few reasons. 
A. I believe it shows my level of committment by demonstrating that I volantarily left home for 2 years to do something difficult.
B. It shows I'm used to interacting with people about potentially difficult to talk about subjects, which actually went a long way to getting me my current job. 
C. It let's my employers know a little bit more about me without them having to ask. If they are going to have a problem with me being a Latter-day Saint I'd rather they find out and not hire me, then have them give me grief later.
 

Oh my goodness. I can only imagine the hardship she will go through if she decides to take on a child on her own. If postpartum depression kicks in that baby is done for. I find it very hard to believe that she can't successfully be courted, YET wants to take on the responsibility of motherhood.  Maybe take one step at a time. I understand that it can be frustrating being alone but I am sure she can find a mate if she changes up whatever she is doing now. 
 

Who cares if they wear pants. If their local leader tells them it's okay then whatever. I don't remember the last time being bothered by a sister wearing pants. I honestly don't even remember seeing someone wearing pants... like ever. Being of Jewish descent I sometimes like to grow out my locks and beard. I think it is interesting how temple workers and missionaries can't wear beards or longer hair (as males). Especially since there are a ton of paintings with the Lord WEARING A BEARD. They asked us not to, so I am going to just comply. If I ever get asked to serve in the Temple I will make sure I am within the standards. I could make a stink out of and ask them to ask the Lord to change His mind BUT I am just not that interested. It's not a big deal to ME.

Who cares if they wear pants. If their local leader tells them it's okay then whatever. I don't remember the last time being bothered by a sister wearing pants. I honestly don't even remember seeing someone wearing pants... like ever. Being of Jewish descent I sometimes like to grow out my locks and beard. I think it is interesting how temple workers and missionaries can't wear beards or longer hair (as males). Especially since there are a ton of paintings with the Lord WEARING A BEARD. They asked us not to, so I am going to just comply. If I ever get asked to serve in the Temple I will make sure I am within the standards. I could make a stink out of and ask them to ask the Lord to change His mind BUT I am just not that interested. It's not a big deal to ME.

Audible gasp!  Pants in relief society, from our own website!
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/media-library/images/philippines-relief-society-meetings-1346150?lang=eng

 

This is my point as well. I don't care, nor should I care, whether women wear pants, it's none of my business and it's trivial. I do care if someone brings a protest movement into church, and drags the spirit of contention in disrupting my worship to make a point. Church is for worship not protest.

Everyone’s experiences are different, and I want to respect that.
But there are also some overall trends that I don’t think we can ignore.  
Where is Stephanie Lauritzen, who started the All Enlisted Facebook page back in 2012?
Where are the other women and progressive men whose voices were dominant in the conversation at that time?
Kate Kelley, and her then-husband?
Hannah Wheelwright?  
Nadine Nielsen?
By the way:  I’ll quit complaining about what women wear to church, when women quit complaining about what men wear when they’re putting a robot on Mars.  
#butitsdifferentwhenWEdoit

Here's an example of a great article to skip. "I think it's a wonderful idea to use a sacred communal worship service in memory and recognition  of our Savior and his Restored Kingdom as a platform to air my social opinions."
If Sister Coppersmith's managing editor activities have been for TH, that would explain a lot.

John 12:4-6
This story is old as dirt.
Beware anyone who wants to spend someone else's money on the poor.
 
Charity is you spend your time or money on someone in need

I am not one to talk about saving money.  I did not, and it looks like I'll work until I die. 
On the otherhand, I once looked at how much I spent on raising kids.  Without them it looks like I might have actually made the multi-millionaire status. 
The question then is...would I have saved or spent that money?
Hard question to answer. 
Having children has probably made more wealthy in other ways than riches and money, and far better in the long run.

Im rich in children.

"Children are entitled to birth within the bonds of matrimony, and to be reared by a father and a mother who honor marital vows with complete fidelity." --from The Family: A Proclamation to the World