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  1. It becomes my business when she is asking me for rides, etc. How would you handle that?
  2. It's not that she's inactive, she's an active member of the church. I wasn't suggesting she is not attending of her own free will. And it's not the guys I'm worried about, it's her. She already has tried dating someone and been pretty crushed when things went badly.
  3. Before you assume I'm horrible from the title, hear me out. Recently I was out with a friend and we ran into a friend of hers, who I guess used to be her nail tech. We invited her to sit and eat with us, and while we were and chatting I learned she is a convert to the church of a few years, divorcee of a few years, single mom, and looking to date men who are members. We started talking about dating as we are all single and I teased my friend that she never comes to the Young Single Adult Ward despite being in her 20's. This acquaintance says that she had never heard of singles wards before, and what a fun idea it is. I mention that they should come together sometime with me. The next week my friend puts all of us in a group chat and says we should go to church together. We carpool and this acquaintance really enjoys it, and says she is going to talk to her Bishop about transferring records. However, here is the kicker. I knew she must be a little older as she has grade school aged children, and she mentioned she married young, but she has one of those faces that you can't really tell how old she is. But come to find out she is at least 42, and has a son who is 23! She told us that she does not have an interest in dating men her age, and wants to date guys who are like 25, and not really older. She has come to this singles ward several times, and each time she leaves her grade school age kids home to play video games without taking them to church. She also asked me to take her to FHE and young adult activities. I told her the singles wards are typically for people no older than 30, but she says she doesn't know where else to meet young guys. She says the YSA Bishop told her it would be fine to transfer her records, but I'm imagining he is assuming she is actually YSA age. My friend who has known her a lot longer, says she thinks she is definitely trying to reclaim her youth that she spent married to her former husband. But it's weird. She really is a sweet lady, and as someone who has gotten to know her the past couple weeks I can tell she has good intentions, but I definitely think someone telling her that she would be better off in a family ward should come from someone she knows instead of a stranger in the ward, or be offended. Is it even any of my business? She keeps contacting me to see if I'm going to church or if we can go to activities together. How would you handle this?
  4. Multiple other studies have shown LDS to be in the top, ahead of athiests and agnostics. So don't let this one study depress you.
  5. Yes, maybe that was off base to paint a small canvas with a broad stroke, but obviously I don't think every single person on an online site is a creep, otherwise I wouldn't be on there or keep my profile up. But it is true that online dating facilitates hiding creepy status. Seems like I really touched a nerve with this one...
  6. If this is someone's true thought, then logically they should also be opposed to letting migrants come here with children/spouses/other dependants in other countries. It disgusts me when people from any country leave their children or spouses, even if it is to get financial footing. My mission comp's dad moved to Canada to "better provide child support" and never came back. He was a recommend holder at the time. I also think if the church is going to question people about being a law abiding citizen before baptism, they should also question them in terms of how well they are fulfilling thier familial role. You can't fill your familial role if you choose to revoke vertain rsponsibilities in order to live in another country, or times even another state.
  7. Ok, knowing 'hundreds' of people who have liked online dating doesn't discount the hundreds of experiences I have had Personally with online dating. A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush, bud. And yes, I was generalizing. Do I really think every single person online is a creep who can't get a date? No, and in fact I did even not say that! But it's true that online dating makes it easier to conceal creepiness, hence why creeps flock there. It sounds like you have no done much online dating, and are therefore unqualified to lecture me about the flaws in my perception of dating in the modern world.
  8. Honestly, I'm starting to realize that online dating is for people who can't get dates in the real world, or can't conceal how much of a creep they are in the real world. I'm having a much better dating experience not on online sites. I keep my profile active, but have just set my bio to say, "not on here much, if you see me in person dont be shy and say hi!" it's worked 🙂
  9. dddd

    Matthew 6:5-6

    Honestly, it is about intention. If you do it to be seen of men, then YOU go ahead and stop. But you can't magically mind-read another's intentions from an internet post, bub. The thought I had about others saying that was it is to generate hope and foster a feeling of unity and support in otherwise powerless situations. And for me it achieves that. Remember Alma 34:17. When you shoot down others for praying and sending thoughts because you're being judgmental, you're no better than someone like AOC who condemns it because she hates religion/thinking.
  10. Don't worry, I don't message people unless they message me, but if they make attempts to pursue me while still married I feel an obligation to speak up
  11. Well you are actually right. I know for a fact this man is still having custody disputes. He told a separate friend of mine that it would be about the end of the year before his divorce would be final, and also told her his bishop gave him the ok to date. She actually arranged a visit with both of them and his Bishop to clear this up and this Bishop said no...he should not be dating. Big surprise there, this guy is BSing. I want to smack down hard but don't wnt to be the reason this guy leaves the church or whatever, like BS-ers are prone to do
  12. I've done this in the past, but I'm seeing it so frequently that I feel the need to let them know it's NOT ok on an LDS dating site. People get "ghosted" for so many reasons these days that ghosting them does not send any message.
  13. This just happened to me today. A guy says his last court date is next week. What would be an appropriate way to respond to this?
  14. I loved your sense of humor in this post, and do agree that they need to make a heavier strength of youth pamphlet! I carry around the mini ones and apparently that is not eno