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    dddd got a reaction from Sunday21 in Sexual abstinence before marriage...   
    Well guys he broke it off with me last night so either he's working on it or he gave up so there's that. 
    Thanks for the advice!
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    dddd got a reaction from Overwatch in am I right or am i overreacting?   
    So you're saying romance can mean different things to different people but whatever I think is wrong? Cool.
    Here's a life lessons for you, kidddd. Some people don't care about others opinions and worry more about safe proofing their marriage and family.
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    dddd got a reaction from Overwatch in am I right or am i overreacting?   
    I've never wondered that
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    dddd got a reaction from Overwatch in am I right or am i overreacting?   
    Personally after marriage that's my goal. Aside from being romantic !! it would defs deter people who want to be homewreckers.
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    dddd reacted to JayKi in How Long Is Too Long To Wait For A Temple Marriage?   
    I dont want to judge but using things like Mutual is bad idea 
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    dddd reacted to FunkyTown in How Long Is Too Long To Wait For A Temple Marriage?   
    Yeah. The men aren't really stepping up with regards to this.
    It bodes ill for what will happen in the next little bit.
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    dddd got a reaction from pwrfrk in I want to sleep nakieeee   
    But am endowed. Can I?
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    dddd got a reaction from Sunday21 in Should we encourage little children to take the sacrament?   
    Either you don't have children or as not as involved in coraling them during sacrament as you could be 😂 Other wise you would have noticed that children will SCREAM BLOODY MURDER if they don't get a crumb of bread. This taking away the Spirit (; So yes so think they should
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    dddd got a reaction from mrmarklin in Marriage 101 FOR DUDES. From a totally unqualified man   
    The Bible says cleave unto your life and none else, so basically your wife has a biblical pass to put you on the couch.
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    dddd reacted to Eleven in Do you believe in being "destined" to be together?   
    looks like you got alot of people disagreeing with the destiny thing. to be honest though, i think it is right and its better that way. We live under a God of agency. NOTHING in our lives should be predestined. not that im going to get mushy, but wouldnt a loving couple RATHER say " I myself out of my own free will chose YOU when i could have chose anyone else out there" instead of saying "..yea we got stuck together.." lol. hopefully you can see the levity in my post, but in my opinion, i dont believe in pre destined couples, but i do believe in soul mates in a very different way. i believe you BUILD each other into your soul mates. you could be compadible with many people, but you wont have a soul mate until you pick one and decide that you two are going to work towards being the best person for each other. because lets be honest, NO ONE will be perfect for anyone. BUT, through time, you can get closer, and become someones soul mate..
    anyways, just an idea to throw in the water bucket
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    dddd reacted to texas1992 in Do you believe in being "destined" to be together?   
    I am a divorced man who thought that my first wife was my soul mate. We were married for 21 years. However, I have met a woman and our personalities match almost completely. I don't think that it could ever possibly get any better. Do I think we are soul mates? No. We are very compatible and if we get married I believe that we will be very, very happy. However, no matter how compatible we are a great marriage takes a lot of work. I have learned this from my first marriage. The minute you stop working at keeping the flame burning is when you are in trouble.
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    dddd reacted to classylady in Do you believe in being "destined" to be together?   
    I believe that my husband and I are a good match, but definitely do not believe that we were predestined to be together. I'm not saying that it's not possible, but I just can't see how it would be a routine thing. If I believed that marriages were predestined, then for sure my husband and I were not meant for each other because he had previously been married and sealed in the temple to his ex-wife. If marriage was predestined, then his predestined match would have been with his first wife, not with me.
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    dddd reacted to NeuroTypical in Do you believe in being "destined" to be together?   
    Meh. I don't think you are deluded. I do think it's possible. Here's hoping you and your family continue to be this close for the rest of this life and into the eternities.But for the record, I'm training my girls in the following scenario:
    Guy: "We were meant to be together! I had a revalation - the veil was partially lifted - and I saw you promising yourself to me in the preexistance!"
    My Daughter: "That's fine - but I've changed my mind. Sorry, but I'm going to have to ask you to stop calling me now. I'm seeing other people."
    LM
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    dddd reacted to ericdav in Do you believe in being "destined" to be together?   
    i have no idea where to look for my companion.....yeah..says thje lord has prepared her and im like a deer in headlights ive prayed numerous times still nothing i know its about faith but at least give me a hint.
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    dddd reacted to BrendaM in Do you believe in being "destined" to be together?   
    I don't believe in "soul-mates". I tried to convince myself one time (well, more than once)....that my eternal companion is a stud-muffin king who was born during the dark ages, had a very spiritual side and we will meet up in the millenium.
    Then I came to my senses!
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    dddd reacted to Just_A_Guy in Do you believe in being "destined" to be together?   
    In advice threads we generally try to take a poster’s expressed concerns at face value.   
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    dddd got a reaction from unixknight in Sexual abstinence before marriage...   
    That's honestly surprising they're not divorced or subject to Church discipline . As someone who considers herself worthwhile i would never permit a man to do that. It's honestly one of the most selfish things I've heard. And not much better in my mind than the Mormon "megadate" where couples go get civilly married for a day or a week just to have sex then divorce. If they wanted to be financially dependant on their parents, it was straight up dishonest not to tell them. And that IS NOT enjoying all the privileges of matrimony FYI!!! I have a lot more to offer as a marriage partner than just sex. Hopefully they do too. Sick some people think that's all there is too it. Trying to find a loophole around sin is sin itself. To me I would compare that scenario to someone who doesn't wanna confess to smoking but decides to hotbox with their friends. Still sin.
    Wow. Just wow. I dearly hope you weren't intending to proffer that story as a SUGGESTION to ME because that's offensive. Any man I marry is gonna man up and be a man and act like one.
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    dddd got a reaction from unixknight in I want to sleep nakieeee   
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    dddd got a reaction from Jane_Doe in How Long Is Too Long To Wait For A Temple Marriage?   
    Thank you! I looked at Pres Nelson and his wife and thought if they could do it why not me but they are very healthy lol. And I feel at peace with the decision but it totally makes me feel like I have missed the marriage train somehow.
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    dddd got a reaction from Overwatch in How Long Is Too Long To Wait For A Temple Marriage?   
    Thank you! I looked at Pres Nelson and his wife and thought if they could do it why not me but they are very healthy lol. And I feel at peace with the decision but it totally makes me feel like I have missed the marriage train somehow.
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    dddd reacted to Overwatch in How Long Is Too Long To Wait For A Temple Marriage?   
    I think you did the right thing based on the second reason. If he was ready I would have encouraged him earning your family's trust. If you were willing to deal with the age difference then I don't see a problem. Just remember that he will always be 18 years older than you as long as you are both alive. When old age hits, sometimes it comes like a thief in the night and goes downhill quick. Be ready to care for an ailing man sooner than later (most likely) OR you might be his fountain of youth
    But seriously. You are an adult, again, if he was ready I would have said go for it. I think you are doing the right thing at this moment. Seeking advice from The Lord, Leaders, parents and now your peers. 
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    dddd reacted to Jane_Doe in How Long Is Too Long To Wait For A Temple Marriage?   
    The two great commandments: love the Lord God, and love your fellow man.  A spirit can indeed keep those and honor their bond with God.  
    LDS don't believe your physical body dies and then you magically know what's true or not.  No, people still have learning to do.
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    dddd reacted to Lee in Marriage 101 FOR DUDES. From a totally unqualified man   
    I have contingency plans to ensure I can be a husband and father but from a distance
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    dddd reacted to JayKi in Marriage 101 FOR DUDES. From a totally unqualified man   
    To me asking for blessing and permission are same thing because if I dont get blessing then I wont propose until I do. If I were to propose without proving myself then it would show I am no real man. When men ask me to marry my sister if I say no I expect them to prove they are worthy if they decide no to respect my decision that is his choice but I wont respect his engagment to my sister and he wont be family to me. Luckily, except my older sister my sister are respectful of my opinion so they will follow my instruction of whether they marry or not with the man. 
     
    But I do not support anyone being anyone else property, you can not control another person and should no try to. But to guide them is okay
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    dddd reacted to TurboGirl in How Long Is Too Long To Wait For A Temple Marriage?   
    I read that too, and that seems to be the answer when there is no good answer, God will just work it out in the end. I know that my Grandpa before he died hated the church and refused to do. After his death all his temple work was done for him and he was sealed to my Grandma while she was still living. My dad told me a couple of years ago that my uncle had received confirmation that my Grandpa had accepted the work...so does that mean it's all good?