Chad Allen

Thank you for all that responded to my post and sorry for the delay in my getting back to you. There has been a lot going on including going to Trek as a Ma and Pa and avoiding making as much contact as possible with the bishop; talking to the Stake President; participating in my oldest son's wedding, and going to marriage counseling. At this point I feel that providing explicit details would be a betrayal of trust. But I will tell you that my wife told me that about 3 years ago she emotionally left the marriage due to a medical condition I had and she felt I had pushed her away. From that time she would not engage with me on an emotional level but just on a surface level. I tried several time to engage her to get her and I to connect emotionally but she said with each attempt she had no desire to connect. All we had in common was our kids and church attendance. She has admitted to me that she was with holding any emotional and spiritual intimacy from me and felt they were fulfilled by the bishop and their interaction and was cleaving to the bishop to have these needs met. I feel that there is hope for our relationship. The part I am having the hardest time with is my angry feelings towards the bishop and having to see him each Sunday as i have lost all respect for him.

I just discovered that my wife was having an emotional affair with our Bishop and close friend. We have been family friends for years before he became Bishop. Do to my wife's calling she spent a lot of time with the Bishop and communicating more than regularly through text, messaging, phone calls, and ministering interviews. After connecting the dots I confronted my wife and she admitted to having a emotional bond with him. I have also talked to the bishop and found that he was an enabler to her. Where to go from here?