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    KScience reacted to Just_A_Guy in Married brothers on church dating sites   
    Be brutal.  Examples:
    ”In thirty words or less—what does ‘THOU SHALT NOT COMMIT ADULTERY” mean to you?”
    ”In thirty words or less—what does “I’M NOT THAT KIND OF GIRL” mean to you?”
    ”Do you actually wait until you’re bored with your wife before you start cheating; or do you commit adultery even when you think your marriage is going well?”
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    KScience reacted to Latter-Day Marriage in I recently got married and I'm struggling to go to church because my wife doesn't want me to go. What should I do?   
    Actually you can.  You are a custodial parent so you don't need her to give permission for you to take your daughter anywhere.   You can put your foot down and say you are going to church, and you are going to teach your child the things you believe in even if she doesn't go with you.  And she gets to do the same.  If she is going to church and wants to take her with her, she doesn't need your permission, but if you both want to do that at the same time you need to work our a fair schedule for it. 
    And your daughter is certainly no excuse for YOU not going, nor is this cowardly 'God made me this way' stuff.  God gives us weaknesses for us to fight against and overcome so he can make them a strength to us.
    Fear God or fear your wife (fear as in respect).  She is making you choose between the two and you choice will impact the exaltation of yourself, your daughter and your wife.  Stop being a sacred little boy acting on fear. 
    Christ did not come to be a peacemaker, he said:
    Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword. For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law. And a man’s foes shall be they of his own household. He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. And he that taketh not his cross, and followeth after me, is not worthy of me. (Matt 10:34-38)

    Your foe is of your own household.  Take up your cross and follow the Savior.  Stop making excuses, stop defending doing what you know you should not do, stop making excuses, stop letting fear of your wife rule your life.
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    KScience reacted to Midwest LDS in Need Urgent help. Brother in Law Probably is a Sociopath   
    I'm so sorry this happened to your sister. I will be praying for a speedy recovery for her, and that you guys will be able to receive the justice you are seeking. Just remember that he deceived most of the people who knew him, and we only knew what you said about him here. The comments were made in good faith, and most were an attempt to help you.
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    KScience reacted to Vort in Need Urgent help. Brother in Law Probably is a Sociopath   
    Based on what you have written: No. Sociopaths don't confess due to guilt feelings. They don't experience guilt feelings.
    Yes.
    No.
    I don't see a question here.
    Again, I don't see any question.
    Go right ahead if you think it will make you feel better. But they don't answer to you, and they're not likely to tell you even the least little thing about what they did, what they said, or what was done or said to them.
    I'm not devoid of sympathy for your situation. But you are not a principle actor in this scenario; you are merely a concerned bystander. For your own sake and for theirs, please don't forget this crucial distinction.
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    KScience reacted to Jane_Doe in Need Urgent help. Brother in Law Probably is a Sociopath   
    @faithful_father, I'm sorry you and your family is going through this pain.
    I myself went through a horror story of sexual abuse, suicidial by age 7, and lots mental health issues.  My husband comes from a similar background, had major outburst issues, and was literally told by a counselor that he was a sociopath.  I met him... well when he kicked me in the face with a soccer ball.  It was many rough childhood and early adult years for the both of us.  The road is.... honestly if you're not had a major tragedy in your life, I find mis people don't understand that-- don't "get" why a kid at the age of 7 would think she's so horrible that she needs to die to protect her family.  Don't "get" why a different kid would be so blind by rage to literally hog-tie & lock up any new authoritative figure.  They don't "get" that 'other' life and how it tears you in two.  
    However... they also don't "get" my love of the Savior on some levels-- how when I talk about Him being my Savior, I'm not just talking about saving from sins, but literally Saving my life from a horrible darkness.  When I talk about re-brith and Saul transforming to Paul, I speak as a person who's literally been there.  Who's had that horrible self-defining pain cast away and been made whole.  And likewise my husband: transforming from that rage-filled monster to a gentle & honest father.  
     
     
    You don't know what your BIL has been through.  You can't.  No other mortal can.  And honestly it's not your place too.  It's also your place to heal him, nor your place to dispense justice.  Though I COMPLETELY understand the impulse to want to tear BIL's throat out.  You want to protect your little sister-- that's natural.  
    But it's not your place to be her protector right now.
    Where she needs your right now: is to be a supporter.  To be there and supporter her, as she and BIL go on this journey.  It's going to be a long road.  She needs you to be there to listen, support her, and care.  Be there for her.  Maybe gently suggest counseling, even offer to help pay (if you're able to).  Be there, hold her, love her.  
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    KScience reacted to NeuroTypical in What happened to Sam   
    I figure he was one of the ninety and nine.  Walked righteously, did his part.  Back when people were choosing sides and there was drama, he was stalwart and true.  
    It is odd, that, well,

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    KScience reacted to Texan in Study Shows That Latter-day Saints Know Very Little About Other Religions   
    Just to show you what a simpleton I am, for years I thought Ganesh and ganache were the same thing: some sort of Hindu chocolate god.
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    KScience reacted to Midwest LDS in Study Shows That Latter-day Saints Know Very Little About Other Religions   
    Absolutely. It's why I always answer the door when a religious person stops by. 
    A. I'm genuinely curious.
    B. I bothered a lot of people when I was a missionary so I feel like it's my responsibility to answer the door and hear them out. 
    C. If I want others to listen to the truth of the restored gospel, I need to be willing to extend them the same courtesy.
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    KScience got a reaction from seashmore in Released - Not ready   
    I will only attend if the new president can't make it, and I have permission.  Hanging over someone else is not a good way to show that you have faith in their abilities. The Lord chooses those who are needed at a particular time for a particular reason.
      The new president will be WAYYY better than I am.  The girls run the program and are amazing.  
     
    Back to Grief Society for me....... It was hard enough being in adult Sunday School after being released from primary.  My place is NOT with the adults in the ward!!!
    So I plan on moving to my new ward, figuring out who the primary president is and being UBER friendly/helpful until someone gets the hint!!!  
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    KScience got a reaction from seashmore in Released - Not ready   
    Hi chaps, just need a safe place to vent tonight.
    I am moving out of the ward at the end of August.  I informed the Bishopric a couple of weeks ago so that they had plenty of warning. So last night I get a text from the 1st counselor asking if I can meet early on Sunday "for a chat". Today at a ward activity the 2nd counselor grabs me "for a chat" and I am being released tomorrow. 
    I am NOT ready,  we have Beehive camp, the girls have fun activities planned over the summer I was looking forward to and as a teacher I will finally have time not to be running around like a headless chicken.....  *pouting like a small child*
    So tonight I am making notes for the next YW pres, so that there can be a smooth handover....... and plan to approach the primary president offering my services for the next month
    Trying to find the positive....BUT.... Really still just pouting.....
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    KScience reacted to unixknight in Hi I need some advice for my temple recommend interview, i'm not sure what to tell the Bishop about my past   
    So... not meeting that responsibility means the responsibility doesn't exist?  That isn't how it works, brother.
    As I said, you're his dad already.  But until you actually do something about that, you're being a very poor one.
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    KScience reacted to unixknight in Hi I need some advice for my temple recommend interview, i'm not sure what to tell the Bishop about my past   
    So you're thinking... what?  You'll just keep quiet about it, lie when asked about being current with your obligations, and still expect to be worthy?  Not a good plan.
    You're a dad whether you're ready or not, bro.  The only choice you have is whether to be a good one or a bad one.
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    KScience reacted to Midwest LDS in Hi I need some advice for my temple recommend interview, i'm not sure what to tell the Bishop about my past   
    I understand not wanting to think about an earlier period of your life when you weren't living the commandments. But you can't move on from having a son. He always will be yours, no matter how much you try to distance yourself from him. Because of that, you owe him love and support. As @Just_A_Guy states as well, one of the temple reccomend questions is about being current on child support obligations. The Lord expects you to care for him to the best of your ability. You may not be ready to be a dad, but you are one and you need to do the best you can for him. You can do it, most of us aren't fully ready when we have a child ( I have a toddler myself) and it involves a lot of on the job training, but start with what you can do (if you aren't all ready) by sending money, clothing, etc. to your ex to help support your son. Trust me you will be glad you did.
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    KScience reacted to prisonchaplain in No more love   
    What would I do if my kid got hooked on drugs? Love her. What if she ended up in jail? I'd love her. What if she failed college and came home with a student loan and a host of people not to ask job references from? I'd love her.
    We understand that we love our kids no matter what. Sometimes it's tough love (no you won't be moving in for the 4th time, while addicted. I'll help you get into treatment though). However, we never stop loving them. It's what parents do--especially parents influenced by God.
    So...spouse isn't pulling fair share, and seems to ignore the pleas to help more and engage more. What to do? Withhold love? Use marital privileges as a bargaining tool? Of course not.  Ask the Spirit to empower, and you will find the love for him you need. I suspect he will respond in kind--and perhaps even with a measure of humility (I am an optimistic sort).
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    KScience reacted to Jane_Doe in I recently got married and I'm struggling to go to church because my wife doesn't want me to go. What should I do?   
    1) You quit acting like an abused doormat.  Quit the excuses.  Quit the tip toeing around with "I don't want to make anyone mad".  If she's not abusive and she's not going to attack you for this, then quit acting like she will.  You both and your kid deserve better than this.
    2) You get on your knees, talk to God, and recommit yourself to truly being His disciple.
    3) You sit down with your wife, as a husband and wife, and talk about things like adults.  You listen to what she loves about her faith and she listens to what you love about yours.  Share and discuss any concerns.  You love your spouse's faith because it is part of who they are.  Then you mutually reach a conclusion where you BOTH have a say and your BOTH share the joy you find in Christ with each other and your kid.  
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    KScience reacted to Texan in Boris Johnson new British PM   
    Maybe it's not my place to contemplate the nature of the celestial kingdom, but I've always imagined a place rather like some sun-washed Mediterranean village glued sideways into a cliff overlooking the sea where all the citizens and pets talk and act just like Jacob Rees-Mogg.
    Anyone who can weave the word floccinaucinihilipilification into a speech deserves a special place in our hearts.
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    KScience reacted to anatess2 in Boris Johnson new British PM   
    OMG, JRM is quite something.  I want somebody to needle him so bad just to see if he actually has a temperature above freezing.  That guy can say to you, "you are a stupid idiot" and you end up apologizing TO HIM for being uncouth.
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    KScience reacted to Texan in Boris Johnson new British PM   
    I agree, but I thought Questions to the Prime Minister were on Wednesdays?  Actually, I enjoy listening to Jacob Rees-Mogg more than Boris Johnson.  The man's words could cut you to pieces and you wouldn't even bleed.
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    KScience reacted to NeuroTypical in Boris Johnson new British PM   
    Love the videos.
    When it comes to looking at currency exchange rates, I'm just happy to take advantage of them when in my favor, and I don't much care why it happens.
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    KScience got a reaction from NeuroTypical in Boris Johnson new British PM   
    Scott you would need to show a much longer time scale to make a fair comparison and call it a "crash" (compared to 87, 98, 2008) the scale on Y axis does not indicate such a large decline. 
    Mores you need to watch more Parliament on a Thursday, Prime Minister's Questions are always lively and full of banter.  Its one of the reasons that females have historically been put off becoming MP's.  Not terribly productive but entertaining.
     
     
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    KScience reacted to Latter-Day Marriage in I recently got married and I'm struggling to go to church because my wife doesn't want me to go. What should I do?   
    She is NEVER going to accept it as long as you take this 'I'm not going until she accepts it'' stuff. 
    You are surrendering your role as the spiritual leader of the home to her and telling her that her acceptance if more important to  you than obedience to God.  It is your job as her husband to LEAD your wife and family by example.  To be blunt, you need to man up, grow a pair, stop being a p-whipped little boy.  I don't like talking like that but I'm trying to break through this wall you have built in your mind.  Stop making yourself a hostage to her mood.  Do you really think God is OK with you not going to church because  your wife doesn't like it?  He isn't.  Why should He help you change this in your relationship with her if you lack the faith to obey Him?
    And I didn't say tell her you don't care about her opinion, just that you don't agree with it and you have to do what you believe is best.  She may be resentful over not getting things her way for a time, but that is her choice.  She could choose to put some trust in your judgement and be respectful of your opinion even through she doesn't agree with it.  My father was resentful of the church at first, he came around when he saw what it did for my mom. 
    Tell her in a kind and loving way that you hear what she is saying but you don't agree and will attend church as your conscience demands.  Ask her how she would feel if the tables were turned and you were trying to stop her from going to her church.  No matter what she says, stick to your guns, go to church, take the heat and pray for God to soften her heart.  It is God that will change her feelings on this and He can only do that if you are exercising the faith to live the gospel.
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    KScience got a reaction from Just_A_Guy in I recently got married and I'm struggling to go to church because my wife doesn't want me to go. What should I do?   
    Junior if you stop going to church to appease your wife at what stage will you be able to go back to church without hurting her feelings more or making her feel like you have chosen church over her?  It will only get more difficult as you will have changed your behaviour and then will have to change it again.
    If you honestly (and the only person you have to answer this to is yourself) want to go to church then just go, things will probably not be as bad as you are anticipating, and if they are you will find a way to deal with it. There will always be a reason not to go - find the reason why you MUST go regardless of the potential actions of others.
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    KScience got a reaction from Midwest LDS in Boris Johnson new British PM   
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    KScience reacted to Fether in I recently got married and I'm struggling to go to church because my wife doesn't want me to go. What should I do?   
    Ether 12:6 comes to mind.
    ”faith is things which are hoped for and not seen; wherefore, dispute not because ye see not, for ye receive no witness until after the trial of your faith.”
    this is the trial of your faith. Do you act in faith and go to church and see what kind of miracles God can do (like perhaps your wife having a similar experience as @JGarcia).
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    KScience got a reaction from Just_A_Guy in I recently got married and I'm struggling to go to church because my wife doesn't want me to go. What should I do?   
    Junior if you stop going to church to appease your wife at what stage will you be able to go back to church without hurting her feelings more or making her feel like you have chosen church over her?  It will only get more difficult as you will have changed your behaviour and then will have to change it again.
    If you honestly (and the only person you have to answer this to is yourself) want to go to church then just go, things will probably not be as bad as you are anticipating, and if they are you will find a way to deal with it. There will always be a reason not to go - find the reason why you MUST go regardless of the potential actions of others.