Manners Matter

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  1. My counsel would be to search out better news sources.
  2. If I remember correctly, some time between 2016 to 2018, the Church said all verses should be sung for the Sacrament hymn. I've been trying to find where that was stated/written but no luck. I'm also trying to find if not singing all the verses for the Sacrament hymn was part of the changes when we went to just 1 hour (I can't imagine it would've been given the reason for the change just a few years prior). Any help with finding references for either/both of the above would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
  3. You may not have chosen it but I know of someone who did. (Nothing lasting was coming from dating the opposite sex so they decided to date amongst their own.) I know of someone else that has seemed to always have a rebellious streak that has said they're gay but I won't be surprised if that doesn't last.
  4. Something occurred to me a couple years ago. Since parents should have a year's supply for every person under their roof, when the kid marries, they pass a year's supply on to the kid. If they're in a small apartment, it might take some ingenuity to store it but better to be safe than sorry.
  5. Prayers sent. If you haven't already, you may want to get in touch with a naturopath (they look at the body as a whole) and/or someone that does biomeridian testing. Regarding the latter, I knew someone that had health issues that the doctors weren't able to figure out but biomeridian testing (painless by the way) provided answers. These are just two options but there are others. Oh - as you call around, ask if they know of other resources. You may be surprised. Hope things improve for you and your family soon.
  6. You're combining two different things. Disaster relief comes from the donations made to the humanitarian aid fund.
  7. @JohnsonJones First, I'm sorry for the situation you describe. Second, good job on being a safe avenue for her even though it's uncomfortable. Third, I applaud your granddaughter for not applying to BYU when she's not feelin it. Too many are there just to take advantage of the tuition. Fourth, you're not to blame or 'not strong enough'. A couple thoughts: - sometimes people innocently stumble upon negative things on social media - sometimes they search it out because they're annoyed about something and 'misery loves company' (the hope is they quit doing that sooner than later) - sometimes they've sinned and turn away instead of repenting (I know of a family who's oldest decided they're atheist but this was after they got pregnant) My point is is that there might be an underlying cause and the social media was just the outlet. It's always best to get to the root of the issue and deal with that if you can. Anyway, I just read* Sheri Dew's remarks at a devotional Nov. 2. Her audience is college kids and it may help your granddaughter. Hope some of this is helpful and that you and your granddaughter can find your way through this. *you can also listen to it here - Prophets Can See Around Corners (byuh.edu)
  8. Set things up from the get go that makes it so they don't want to stay longer than absolutely necessary. "Hi, welcome - here's your to do list and the rent you'll owe at week's end."
  9. Had the same thought especially after noticing he seemed to be sitting during his talks*. *The camera would pan out while he got to the podium, the flowers were above his head (unlike other speakers) and there was a black square behind him that you could see when the camera was a side angle.
  10. Just wanted to chime in and say that I'm sorry things are challenging right now. {hugs}
  11. Pass along the info and hope for expect the best outcome. (go into it with a positive mindset) If they don't take you seriously, that's on them and you did what you felt to do. If they try to boss you around, just set boundaries and ask that they be respected. Oh - also allow them the space to have changed/learned some things from the previous experience.
  12. What a breath of fresh air this was to read! Thank you for sharing. If only every ward/stake gave such consideration.
  13. Glad it has helped. More that has come to mind: have had that calling so many times/years, just not up to it again/another week (ie organ), had a bad experience with it in the past (ie yw pres), some people are very difficult to work with (things may look fine on the outside but the inner circle knows differently), dealing with a friend's unruly kids could ruin the friendship (nursery/primary/activity days/ym/yw) Sometimes there are valid reasons, other times excuses are at play but they feel justified because everyone's a volunteer. It might help to see how the 'no's' help you appreciate the 'yes's'/stayers a lot more and expressing it always and often can make a difference for all involved. Side note: How releases are handled matters. I know someone who felt they were 'fired' because they couldn't do as much as the previous person (different life circumstance, etc). I also know someone (convert) who went inactive because of how the release was handled. She loved her calling and was great at it (prim pres) and not only was she not ready to be released but it was handled very poorly. Also, it's not fair (for lack of a better word) when some get to stay in a preferred calling long past anyone else. It's also not cool when someone is left in year after year even though mistakes/disfunction abounds. I know timing can be overlooked with all the things that need juggling but others do notice. Anyway, just some things to keep in mind. All the best!
  14. Well, this puts a different spin on it. As to why someone would turn down a calling/ask to be released - moving (and may not be letting the cat out of the bag yet), health reasons they want to keep private, depression and/or anxiety (again - keeping quiet about it), struggling with infertility so nursery/primary not a good fit, dealing with spouse issues and never know when another shoe will drop (again - things people aren't aware of). A couple other examples - lack of confidence (ie primary music leader) and lack of support from the ward (choir director and no one shows up). Another reason I've heard - the outgoing person was so A+/loved, they can't possibly fill those shoes. That's all that's coming to mind right now but hope it helps a bit. Just thought of another one - not worthy but not ready to see the bishop (ie some callings would lead to being asked to give priesthood blessings more often, teaching a lesson on things you're struggling with would just feel off, etc). Also - spouse not happy with the time spent on the calling but they don't want to throw them under the bus or reveal they're not able to find balance/scale back to resolve the issue. Don't feel like they're doing a good enough job. Just remembered another reason I was told by someone I visit taught years ago - an older gentleman was told by his dr (non-member) that he should 'retire' from the stress (or something along those lines) so he did. He still went to church every week but that's it.