Junior

I didn't sorry I meant to reply to you saying someone would have noticed even if he hadn't said he was sad. Then tell @JKing  my brother had a similar reaction. I didn't mean to quote both in the same message

I believe the church is true 

I believe the church is true 

Yes I know I mainly want my daughter to have it, so when she is older she will understand that my religion is important to me and I want it to be important to her. And I want her to have a blessing  

basically I work 8-22 Monday-Wed Fri--Sat and Thursday I finish 19. On Thursday I still get home at 22:30 because it's time for me to spend with my mom and siblings. Yeah I have a plan, I'm working so many hours at the moment because I'm an apprentice and I need to get my USPTA Professional certificate so I can become a tennis coach. I have my junior one so I assist in teaching kids and I do sooo much club admin and I run the evening social sessions, but basically until I have the certificate I can't give private lessons so it's almost impossible for me to make enough money now. But soon I am going to get the certificate and then I will be able to choose my hours more. 
 
Yeah the thing is she doesn't like it if I go to bed early like before 00:30 because she wants to spend time with me, and then the baby wakes up at 5AM and then I have to care for her because my wife says I haven't seen her since yesterday morning. I can't get any me time 😥I do find caring for my daughter quite relaxing most mornings but it doesn't help with the exhaustion I feel .
 
I have 14 hour work days and I know it's not good that I leave  my wife and baby for so long but I can't afford to work less hours. and I think my wife should understand that I have to work all these hours and give me a break to be on my own and relax . Before the baby was born she always let me have time on my own, because she understood that's how I relax and it's not an insult to her I just like being on my own, but now she doesn't let me have time to myself 

Maybe it bucks the trend of the other responses, but I will offer this. Without knowing exactly how much alone time you really have or how much more "me" time you want, I would venture to say that dads (and moms, too) all deserve a reasonable amount of "me" time. What constitutes a reasonable amount depends on the person and the family, and I don't think we on this side of the internet have any way of knowing exactly what that looks like for you (that's probably where a neutral 3rd party counselor could really help). It seems clear to me from this thread that you need (or at least think you need) more "me" time than you are currently getting.
One of the things I learned from Dr. Harley's His Needs Her Needs (mentioned earlier in the thread) is that if meeting your wife's needs causes you pain or causes you to sacrifice your important needs, you will eventually develop some kind of aversion or resentment towards meeting her needs. Do you like country music? Pull up "Too Cold at Home" by Mark Chestnut, and think about what it must be like to not want to go home. I expect it doesn't take a lot of searching to find men (and women) who will hang out at the bar, the golf course, take on extra work, etc. all so they can avoid going home. IMO, we don't want to become that guy who avoids going home because his wife won't let him have a little "me" time.
We are only hearing your side of the story, and even then it is a very incomplete picture of what's going on. It sounds like you might as a family just be in a difficult time of life, where you have extra demands at work/school which limits the time you have for everything else and you need to balance that limited time/energy between yourself, your wife, and your family, and that gets to be difficult. I think a good marriage has to find a workable balance between Work's (both Dad's and Mom's) time, Dad's time, Mom's time, couple's time, and family time somewhere within the constraints of the limited time that we are given. It appears to me that you are in the midst of discovering just how hard that can be. I wish I had a concrete answer for you, but I don't. Maybe some intense and careful introspection -- how much of what types of personal time do you really need (and how much of what you want can you really do without)? Where are the work and other outside demands on your time coming from and can you change them (say no to a project at work or delegate more to coworkers)? Anything else that your introspection leads you to consider? Your wife probably needs a similar exercise. Then come together (I can still see value in having a neutral 3rd party present for some of these conversations) and figure out what you can do as a family to balance everyone's needs.
I really wish I had more to offer.

read the post and look at the lines which end with a question mark 😂

oh I just realised, I'm crazy tired today lol

The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) discourages bed-sharing for the sole purpose of reducing the risk of suffocation. Bed-sharing with an infant exposes the infant to pillows, blankets, and bodies, all of which pose a suffocation hazard for an infant. (remember, the recommendation is a crib with nothing more than a tight fitted mattress sheet and the infant swaddled in a blanket)
If you're worried about rolling onto the infant and hurting her, you might consider a sleeper you can put her in inside the bed (https://www.target.com/p/baby-delight-snuggle-nest-dream-portable-infant-sleeper-gray-scribbles/-/A-51734772). A side sleeper is another option, but they tend to be considerably more expensive.
I'm not a huge fan of sleep training, myself.  But I was fortunate to have a job where I could go in late if I didn't get a good night's sleep, or just use vacation time if it was a really bad day. Not everyone has the same luxuries, and so sleep training may be the way to go. Ultimately, healthy, well adjusted, and happy parents raise healthy, well adjusted, happy children.  So do whatever keeps you sane.

Highly recommend this book.

I never acted that she was an abuser. I'm going to try and go to church on Sunday.
I'm just going to kindly say to her that I have to go because I miss it, but I will come straight back and drive to her grandparents and we can spend the rest of the day together 

We've only been married 6 weeks it's not like we got married and magically the next day we were the perfect family. We're still figuring it out but I love and respect my wife 

I have a testimony that the church is true. I do try to put the church first 

Hey Junior?  Just full disclosure here - I didn't really feel like an adult until both my kids had been born and I was in my mid '30's.  That said, I was an adult, I just didn't feel like one.  I had to act like one, even though I didn't feel like one.  I had to make principled decisions based on what was right, instead of what was popular, or what would have me liked, or what would make someone mad.  That's part of being an adult.  
When I was an immature dependent child, I was all about "my dad doesn't want me to" this, and "I want to try but my mom said" that.  But once I got married, I had to put all that childish nonsense away and start making decisions based on principles.  
It's your time, brother.  You are learning how to be an adult.  Be quick about it, because your wife and child need you to be one.  You don't have to be mean, rude, or unrighteous.  Just right.

Hi and welcome back Junior!  
Since you got a girlfriend hostile to the church, and you had sex with a girlfriend hostile to the church, and impregnated a girlfriend hostile to the church, and married a girl hostile to the church, you now have a wife hostile to the church.  It is what it is - time to make the best of it.  You can start by accepting that the woman you picked, is hostile to the church, and you won't be changing her any time soon.  No really, accept that.  Stop talking about it, stop thinking about it, just internalize that's the way it is, and probably will be for a while.
So she's a new mom, you're a new dad, and kid is a new kid.  Your entire life should revolve around what's best for wife and kid right now.  You need to comfort, care, and please your wife and kid.  When it comes to pleasing your wife or pleasing the bishop, do whatever pleases the Lord.  I'm guessing right now that means being around wife and kid - 14 weeks and complications and wife can't drive yet?  Yeah, she needs as much of you as you can possibly give her.  You go to work and sometimes shower, the rest is about your family.   You can sleep later. 
So that's my suggestion.  Give it 6 months, and come back and let us know how things are with a 6 month old in the house.

Hi @Junior I was exactly like your girlfriend. I wanted all new things for the baby and I bought expensive items with the mindset of these won't collapse, a wheel won't fall off etc. I can say that half of the things I bought I never used. I was also like your girlfriend in that I constantly worried about things going wrong, I really needed my husband to reassure me that the cot wasn't going to collapse. It sounds to me like you need to be the voice of reason to her, she won't always thank you for trying to reassure her but it is kinder than indulging her worrying, you've got to balance her emotions out. 
With regards to an $800 stroller I think mine cost around $700 but it is a stroller and a carseat. So perhaps you could compromise with your girlfriend and purchase an expensive stroller that doubles up as a car seat, so you don't have to buy a car seat too. I sort of agree with your girlfriend that second hand just doesn't feel as clean as new but a baby monitor set doesn't need to be as clean as a new set. The baby should never come into contact with it. 
 
I was naive when my son was born and I am still naive now. Being a parent is a journey no one is totally prepared and no one is an expert. 
   That's so sweet, you sound totally committed to your baby which is the most important thing. 

Yes but because the baby is going to be born in the USA I want to provide for them to the common standard in the USA, which I would say includes purchasing a stroller and other luxuries. I don't think everything has to be new or super expensive though.  

She's extremely clueless. And you both need to MAKE time to be a parent.  

I don't want to spend that much money on a stroller not because I am cheap but I need to save some money for emergencies when the baby is born. But my girlfriend thinks it is important that the baby has the best things so I will probably end up buying it for that ridiculous amount of money.
Well, being expensive doesn't equal being the "best". Last time I checked, both of you are going to be parents, not just her.  Having said that,  I think your girlfriend needs a serious reality check because she seems to be living in la la land. I also think you need to man-up a little bit and stop talking like she is putting a gun to your head. She isn't, you are going to be a father so time to put the namby-pamby behavior behind.

She does have appointments but I don't always go with her to them because usually I am at work but since mid way through her second trimester she has been doing really well. 

I think that the baby will be fine if you use those second-hand items. My baby was born 5 weeks premature. He weighed only 5 pounds. Everything I have for him is second hand--clothes, crib, baby bathtub--everything. He has been just fine. He is 2 months old now and hasn't gotten sick once.

It is simple really....  When one is trying to repent they need to stop digging deeper into sin.  Just changing your sin of choice is not really helpful.
When one goes through the temple they make promises and are given instructions.  This includes directions on wearing the garment.
If a person is trying to repent they should not think that is is wise or helpful to disobey the instructions given by the Lord through his leaders.  Therefore someone who is temple endowed and trying to repent should be also trying to faithfully obey every command (including wearing the garment).  
If during the process of working through one repentance with the bishop (or other representative of the Lord) they instruct one to stop wearing the garment for a time then that is the most current and most personalized instruction/commandment and it trumps the more generalized temple instructions while in force.
Thus the wearing or not wearing of the garment is an act of obedience (or disobedience as the case may be).  Obedience is helpful (and really required) to the repentance process while disobedience is counter productive to the process.

A big part is keeping the Law of Chasity.  

The temple garment is a symbol of the highest promises we make to God in the temple.  If a person completely betrays those promises, then they should not be wearing the signs of those promises.  Practically speaking, this comes into play during serious church discipline instituted by a church leader (for example ex-communication).  
It depends on the why and the individual course of action.
For example, if a person is ex-communicated, they are asked not to wear their garment.
If you're actively fornicating, things depend on that individual and their individualized plan with their bishop.  

Hey man you shouldn't talk about my girlfriend like that. If you said that to me in person you'd be unconscious