Serviteur du seigneur

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  1. Hello Lady. First, it would do you well to know that attraction is nothing more than a chemical reaction to make animals reproduce. It may it you hard now, but it will slowly fade away until you won't feel not even the slightly sign of attraction to your husband. So becareful, Choose well, focus on things that matter such as inteligence, this one won't fade. And you can feel love for almost everyone, this quality is developed over a certain period of time living with the chosen one. But if you choose someone merely because he or she is "good looking", chances are your marriage is going to be pretty sad. Btw, i just want to say that you re not an animal, you are rational, so don't let attraction ( aka chemical reaction ) decide for you. If you choose someone based on good qualities ( the quality i most value in a girl is inteligence for example haha)you 'll probably be fine.
  2. Serviteur du seigneur

    Creeping mediocrity masquerading as virtue

    It's probably pretty much the same. Latinos are extremely happy inviting people and they often take part in other's beliefs just to see their friends satisfied. That's a portion of what happens to the missionaries, they just dont take it too far.
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    Creeping mediocrity masquerading as virtue

    The Rio north mission was probably one of the worst missions that has ever been. Extremely wicked. I've heard things about this mission that completely broke my heart. And I think they had to close this mission years ago, because of how far wickedness evolved there. I remember that i was recently converted and getting to know the missionary service better and i was walking around with the missionaries so i heard them chating about this mission. At that time, I even thought about leaving the church because the stuff i heard was hardcore and i was raised a baptist since i was a little kid and never have i known so much evil.
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    Creeping mediocrity masquerading as virtue

    That's so cool, congratulations on them ! Retention is what matters most. As matter of fact, the lack of retention because one had put greater importance on quantity can bring so much sadness... just one of these days, there was a returned missionary friend of mine almost crying because almost no one he taught kept going to church, and i guess that's the reason. How do i know ? " Man, i baptized so many people, yet almost none is active " The measure for success is how many one baptized, instead of the retention rate. Sadly.
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    Creeping mediocrity masquerading as virtue

    This number doesn't take into account reality. The missionary service in Brazil is not one of quality, its something focused in quantity. So, the baptisms they get usually don't last long, most stop coming to church in the second week. Also, i didn't saw many young people getting baptized. Unfortunately, they see the missionaries as jehovah witnesses and are frequently embarassed to be around them, because most people will see them as annoying. Being lds in Brazil is a sure bet one's going to get bullied.
  6. Thank you all ! I feel i've gathered much and useful information, i am now going to pray and ponder about these very good tips and will put the practical ones to work. 🤗
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    Creeping mediocrity masquerading as virtue

    Thank you all ! I think i have gathered enough very good tips from the brethren. Now i'll just ponder and pray about what would be the best decision.
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    Creeping mediocrity masquerading as virtue

    I will surely remember your tips in my next date. I don't like to tell personal stuff on the internet more than is needed. But here's some of my background, i have a bachelor's in CS and in accounting, i worked on both at the same time, while working on it i have been learning languages, and today i speak 4 fluently. I am specialized in accounting automatization and due to my skills i have acquired canadian permanent residency because they have a points based immigration system. No, im not using translator software and i have international dating experience in the US, CA and BR. The church feels the same wherever it is.
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    Creeping mediocrity masquerading as virtue

    Its possible. I'll take a better watch on myself When i pray about it, sometimes there's a feeling like i need to go there, you know ? I could just go to a better institution and forget about marriage And stuff. But i dont really know if its coming from the lord or it's just my own feelings. I have 6 years as a member, so i'm still learning. And thank you for your counsels sir, you seem to be a very good man.
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    Creeping mediocrity masquerading as virtue

    I have Brazilian citizenship and can assure you that most girls there might be even more requiring of details such as if someone served a mission or not, than those in utah. In fact, there are almost no converts nowadays in that country. So most of the girls i met there were also born in the church. Look, I dont know if you have been knowing but, the church is not really growing overall ( i can guess reasons for that!!! ), it's been a long time since i saw any converts of my age, most are much older. Some of the reasons for that is though we know the church is true, we are excluded from the dating scene because we are inferior to those born in the covenant, and i'm really starting to think they believe they are more worthy spirits because they were born in the church, i will look it up sometime. Another possible reason though, is that most people of my age are not interested in religion. But i really think it's because we are having a hard time getting in the lds man made culture, they don't let us converts marry their holiest covenant born daughters. Idk, it's hard. Look, i'll try to practice and make my social skills even better, but you might have been getting the wrong idea about me. I'm a fine gentleman and am considered good husband material until i say i didn't went on a mission. I could go on searching and trying to date converts around my age, but things have changed pal, i'm a young lds convert, go out in the streets, people of my age don't believe in God anymore. From time to time, i still meet faithfull converts, but they are already married and usually in their 40's.
  11. The ratio of man to women in BYU idaho is 42 mans/ to 57 womans. They really say thats pretty easy to get married there, but the risk is present.
  12. No. I was told that it wont make a difference whether i'm on undergrad or gradschool, they say most dating happens in the singles ward in the campus. Even if i went to BYU and got out single, it would not be in vain because their MBA is respected. Now, in BYU idaho getting out without a spouse would be a total waste of time. But they don't want to get married.
  13. It is much more respected than their law program, specially in areas such as accounting. It's usually ranked somewhere around #24. It's a good deal to go there for an MBA and pursue the JD somewhere else, but not the other way around.
  14. tier 1 comprises the 14 best. BYU is far from that, I think it's tier 3 or 4. But is still better than U of U, believe it or not.
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    Creeping mediocrity masquerading as virtue

    Girl : where did you serve ? Me : I'm a convert. I joined the church when i was 16 but my parents didn't allow me to go on one when the time came. Now i'm too old for that and i'm more into marriage. Girl: Cool ! Well Serviteur, i think it's getting late and i need to go... And thats that. My conversation with almost every girl around my age ends up like this. I don't know why you're having trouble believing that, its so common to me, to this day i have to go through the embarassment and the weird looks when the teacher asks me where did i serve my mission during a crowded sunday school lesson and i have to tell everyone the story again. It's really tiring to have to go through those shames over and over, but i have had experiences and all the answers i have received indicates that this is the most correct place to be.
  16. Business and possibly big law in the future JD/MBA.
  17. BYU is a mid tier graduate school, while its not bad, there are better options out there. But if i went there and got out married it would totally be worth it. And BYU is also the best university in lds populated areas. While University of utah is like #48 in some rankings.
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    Creeping mediocrity masquerading as virtue

    Dude, the conversation stops at that. The second i mention i didn't serve, girls usually just want to get away, they would ran if it wasn't considered too weird. For them its like hanging around with a dangerous sinful man, because not serving turns you automatically into that type.
  19. I need to go to graduate school no matter what, and i'm still approaching my mid 20s, so thats why i was thinking about BYU. And Yeah, ive tried most apps and sites, the majority of them is filled with people 20 years older than me, its just not the place.
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    Creeping mediocrity masquerading as virtue

    Might be a good measure, but a person is much more than where he or she served a mission. The lady could ask about my conversion story, she could ask about my callings. You just gotta really get to know someone before you turn him down because he lacks a mission in his resume.
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    Creeping mediocrity masquerading as virtue

    I think its all about culture now, not faith. Currently having a hard time with that. No young woman wants to relate to me simply because i didn't went on a mission. I really dont know if i'll make it to marry someone in the church.
  22. Yeah things are hard nowadays. Im starting to think that happens because everyone is looking for the "perfect one" and just not considering that we all have missing points in our lives. I mean, back in time people were really less selective, and i feel technology is deeply involved with that.
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    What happens if you do not get an answer

    I understand and i have read extensively about this. Well, you've seen him, it would be a terrible sin to deny him now. According to church literacy you have a much bigger risk of going to the darkness, so you have to be much more brave now.
  24. I know Vort. I'm just afraid that there might not be space for guys who didn't serve like me. I'm already going for my last attempt, that might be in the Y. Thats the easiest place for a lds to get married, if it doesn't happen there, i might just stop thinking about this.