bjw,By reading your posts, one thing stands out that maybve you should be aware of. When you said that you had to cancel your appointment and a week has gone by and they haven't called you back to you. Your only conclusion is that they are avoiding you. You are placing way too much focus on yourself. Your first thought should be, oh, maybe they didn't get my message (if that's how you canceled), or, maybe the secretary forgot about it (hey, it happens), but to automatically think they are avoiding you shows that maybe you are thinking eveything is always about you. Give people the benefit of the doubt, as you would want them to give you the benefit. How would you feel if the first thought they had when you canceled your appointment is, "oh, he must be afraid to come in because he is hiding a sin." That would be silly, wouldn't it? But that is what you are doing to them...Also, sounds like you are participating with the gossipers in relation to the EQ problem. I just think if you stop being so critical of people and stop thinking it's all about you(and I'm not saying this in a mean tone, but a concerned one), that things will get much better. People are not perfect. Neither are you, I'm sure. ~Kate