FairChild

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  1. As for jewelery, engraving is always a nice touch.
  2. Another nice person gift would be if you took photos and wrote along with it to create a journal or a small book about the friendshipping and joy finding you both are currently sharing this winter. If you add little tibits of scripture along with sayings that inspire combined with poems of joy, love and friendship, well, if someone would create such a personal gift, he would have my heartstrings in his hand.
  3. If I read correctly, you can be fired at any time, however, I see nothing that states at any time you chose, you can just quit. Am I reading the regs wrong?
  4. I remember Checkerboy. Congratulations on getting married. Which sites did you go to and what finally worked? How did you meet her? Spill it all and tell us more. FC
  5. I'm not sure exactly what you are looking for, but if it is permission that you need to leave him, you have mine. If you are not secure $$$ wise, then continue on the path you have started and work towards financial independance. Also gather any important documents such as birth certificates, marriage certificates and such. I suggest journal writing as a way of documenting what is going on in your household. It also may help you sort out your feelings so that you can decided what it is that you truly want out of your life and the life you want for your children. It sounds as if he is using forms of mental abuse as well as financially controlling your behavior. You have not mentioned how well he treats your children, but if he is good to them, allow that relationship to continue. If not, document, document, document. If you can, write down any past actions that you can tie into dates, events or other such happenings along with names of people that witnessed these events. Some lawyers will give you a free first consult. I would call around and see if it would be possible for you to make an appointment to find out what your options are. I would call the local abuse shelter and talk with the councelors there. Often they can tell you who is good to work with and the names of people to aviod working with. Counceling sounds as if it were in order right now. Would be good if you could both go together and if you could see someone just for yourself as well. Stay safe. Take care of yourself. I don't think you should lightly let go of a marriage, but I do think there are times you just may need to. Home should be Heaven on earth, not Hell in a handbasket. Be good to yourself, be fair to both you and him because in turn, that does affect your children. You both need to be accountable for this marriage, but if he is not honest, lies, doesn't help with $$$, discourages you from improving your life and your family's life and you are so dissatisfied, lack trust, unhappy and and lack a working relationship, I would say it is either time to fix your problems or change the path you are on. When I was divorced (yes twice in my case) I had 2 scriptures that kept coming back to me. One is that man is that he might have joy and wickedness was never happiness. Is this the example of temple marriage you want to share with your children? If not, then either fix it or move on. It sounds as if they are in a pretty toxic household right now. Remember, you can want him to do things, pray for him to do things, but his behavior and choices are his to make, you can't control him. If you leave, it won't be easy, but things will be possible. I always suggest you start with prayer.
  6. I once had a bishop that served only a few months. His job suddenly changed and it required him to moved a distance of several states. FC
  7. Even if you are the most hated man in the ward, you are still loved by all of us. FC
  8. Hi Nikkie85. This is a great place to meet people. I hope you stay for awhile and good wishes for that which you want. FC
  9. Try typing his name into the location bar where you type the web adress at and then hit return. I have found people that way. You can also type your own name in and see what the web says about you. FC
  10. Software and hardware for a Commodore computer. Anyone got suggestions on how to get rid of it?
  11. Merry Christmas yourself jaredites. And a very Merry Christmas to everyone else.
  12. I believe that people that have mental challenges such as retardation or autism choose to live with their handicap and it is Heavenly Father's way of allowing a precious spirit to gain a body all the while protecting them from Satan's onslought so they could have the chance to reagain Heavenly Father's presence once more.
  13. Welcome. There are many wonderful people at this site. I hope you come here frequently. FC
  14. You have lived with and loved this woman all these years. You had a family and made a home with this woman. Where do those negative thoughts come from? If it is not bringing you closer to your spouse, family and/or Heavenly Father, it must be coming from Satan. Do you really want to let Satan's thoughts, evil intentions, hurt and harm come into your mind? Are you allowing him to dig in and have a piece of your family? Why does Satan have the chance to taint your soul without you struggling to stop him or make his influence go away? Perhaps you need to know we all have "what if's". What if "I had waited to marry another virgin?" What if "I never knew there had been another man before me?" What if "I had slept with someone so the sexual scorecard would be even?" No one's life is perfect. I hope you are able to control your thoughts and emotions on this subject and not using them to punish or hurt your wife. If you are, then you are the one that needs to repent.
  15. A pair of tickets to see a movie. Hint: If you get gift cards located where you are for a person located in a different area, Google a map and make sure there is a store nearby to redeem the card.
  16. How about starting with weight loss? FC
  17. I've always been the bedmaker. My cats are too darn lazy and the dog was too short to reach high enough to put on clean sheets. The fish is allergic to my fabric softener. What I want is for a hubby at least once durning the marriage make the bed all by himself. After all, he sleeps in the bed too. Why should I have all the joy found in bedmaking and then keep it all to myself.
  18. FlyLady.net: Your personal online coach to help you gain control of your house and home helped me when I was doing a lot of home organization. It's worth a look.
  19. Natural healing? Oh have I got questions for you if you don't mind answering them.
  20. First remember that Santa can't come to a dirty house. Neither can the Easter Bunny or tooth fairy. I do like schedules. That way every one knows exactly who has what to do and it can't get shoved to the side because no one "knew" that they were responsible for X, Y or Z. I think it helps to have a list that can be checked off daily. You can do that by making a list, then putting it into a plastic page protector. You write on it with an eraseable marker, wipe it off and start using it again the next day. Start sooner rather than later training the peopole in your house. If they don't know how to do things, have a family home eveing where you teach everyone (old enough) how to do their own laundry as well as vaccuum and other household chores. Good luck. Please let me know how it goes. FC
  21. It doesn't take much weight loss to help some people with specific medical problems such as high blood pressure or diabetes. Perhaps what your friend really needed was a blessing to help him focus and maintain goals that he has set. It does seem as if he is trying to work on something important to him. I could see a blessing for this purpose could be the same as one for encouragement/discouragement problems. If you don't feel personally comfortable doing this, I suggest you fast and pray and perhaps allow your friend to have someone else holding the priesthood give him the blessing. I wish you well in your choices.
  22. What did you do to show your wife yesterday that you love her? Or what did you do to show her that you appreciate all that she does? What did you do today? What will you do tomorrow? Perhaps you could write her a love note and leave it where she could find it unexpectedly. Perhaps put it in the freezer or on her pillow. Write a list of the things that you love about her and give it to her and put a copy of it in your wallet. Give her some of her favorite candy to show her how sweet she really is or use it to express how sweet you are on her. Perhaps you could buy her just one of her favorite flowers and surprise her with it when you walk in the door. It doesn't need to be expensive. Just something loving, caring or tender from your heart would do just perfectly fine. I think the more you focus on how much you love this wonderful daughter of the most loving and caring Heavenly Father will help you grow and become a better husband, father, friend, lover and person. It is easier to focus on you and the thoughts that run through your head. It takes work and courage to change, to improve yourself as well as your marriage. The more you love her and the more you show her that she is indeed a valuable, wonderful and amazing woman, the more you will forget what bothers you. Focus on what is truly important here. Your wife, your marriage, your family and finally then yourself. The more you will do for another human being, the less you will focus on what bothers you in your own life. Let us know how you are doing. You are important too. If you can't forget and forgive, then please, seek qualified emotional help for what you can't let go of. What you are holding onto is a dangerous posion you are sipping from frequently and it only harms while doing you no good.
  23. I lost a very dear friend to cancer this last Easter. Before Frank died, an oncolgy nurse came into the room to check on him and stayed to chat with me a few minutes. She said that she had lost her own mother to cancer on Christmas day and was angry about it for quite a few years until she realized what a wonderful time it was for her mother to go be with Christ. To be with him on the very day we celebrate his birth. After that, she said that Christmas had even more meaning and joy for her once she had realized that. I felt better about Frank's death knowing he went at the time of Christ's ressurection. I still think about that. Knowing that, it helps and I have peace as well as joy. I hope this helps.
  24. I think the best thing to do is become the best possible person possible and teach her by example. she will find out soon enough that you are LDS, but what a wonderful chance to let the Gospel light shine through you. If you are not comfortable, I agree, you can tell her you don't want to discuss religion on the job and that there are things that you will need to agree that you disagree about. A little honest, thoughtful prayer never hurts at a time like this. FC
  25. Hey Trixie! Glad to meet you and your glorious kitty cat. Welcome to the site. FC