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Interesting, Vort. Seems like you need to take your own advice and read the THREAD more carefully. Remember how I stated that those things are in different paragraphs that talk about different things??? I'll give you a clue - intimacy and housework.
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I guess I just wanted some ladies on the board to empathize with, and relate to, as I know that I am not alone in PMS. Right?
OK - if that's what you're after -
Yes, I experience PMS but luckily for me (and hubby) not for an entire week. I won't go into what I deal with physically but all I have to do his let my husband know it's the "time of the month" and he knows to be a bit more understanding, etc. He knows that until he goes a day every month feeling like he's been punched in the gut or stabbed in the back, he doesn't have room to complain about it.
Also, as mentioned previously - magnesium may be helpful.
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Had another thought - Have you looked at sites like sistermissionaryfashion.com? I haven't shopped there myself but modesty is guaranteed and I'm sure they'd be reasonable priced.
Also, as far as winter fabric - corduroy comes to mind.
Hope that helps!
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Just fyi - The free viewing has been extended but expires in 5 days.
Please watch it and spread the word. It could really make a difference for you or someone else.
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This may be the worse advice ever....so your kids should be your house keepers, and you should withhold intimacy until he falls in line?
Of course its her job to make sure that the house is clean and that dinner is made. She is a stay at home mom. Maybe he is doing her to many favors by getting out of bed every day going to work to provide for his family.
I am not saying that he shouldn't help out around the house of course he should, but jeez.....
Omega - Kids should have chores and enough of them that they aren't shocked when they reach adulthood and have to do their fair share. Also, see my response to Vort above just so we're on the same page.
Stay-at-home moms are busy, too. They're not sitting around twiddling their thumbs. So, quite frankly, a 'mom's job' is to teach and one way to do that is to delegate the tasks at hand.
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notquiteperfect, on 10 Mar 2015 - 08:02 AM, said:
As far as 'no intimacy' playing a part - he should be able to handle a week (didn't he have to handle more than that after having the kids - assuming they weren't adopted?).
So basically, I'd turn this into 2 weeks than 3 etc till he got a clue.
Speaking only for this snippet quoted above, this might be the worst advice possible. Never use sex as a bargaining tool or withhold it as a punishment. That is like 180 degrees from what you should ever be doing. Terrible, terrible idea.
Vort - You cut off the rest of that paragraph that talked about having him help around the house more. It was a separate paragraph for a reason.
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I have two siblings that live in St George/Santa Clara so I've visited there a number of times. I prefer green over red but they love it. I also have another sibling that moved there to be closer to them but didn't even last a year - it wasn't for her and she didn't see them as often as she thought she would.
Anyway, if you feel 'called' to a certain place, there's probably a reason and you'll never know how it will really go till you act. If you do move, I hope it works out even better than you hope. Good luck.
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You mentioned that you're a stay at home MOM so no, it's not "your job to keep the house neat and tidy" - it's the kids! How else are they going to learn and be ready to be on their own and be good companions/roommates/spouses?
With that said, it sounds like you don't ask him to help out enough during non-pms times. If he were helping more, he wouldn't complain about it during that time of the month. As far as 'no intimacy' playing a part - he should be able to handle a week (didn't he have to handle more than that after having the kids - assuming they weren't adopted?).
So basically, I'd turn this into 2 weeks than 3 etc till he got a clue. Honestly, you're doing him no favors by doing too much. I know a couple who is currently apart (valid reasons) and the husband has no clue how to clean up after himself, etc. and the wife doesn't want to go visit because she doesn't want to have to play 'maid'...
Also, did your husband not grow up with a mom or sisters? If so, this shouldn't be a new concept for him. Maybe he needs a reminder.
I'd be telling him that you need support not attitude and give him a glimpse that it could (and might) be worse.
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Duff (and whomever it applies) - Have you ever considered that things we're asked to do is for our *benefit*?! Despite what you may have heard, coffee really isn't good for you (nor are pierced ears - since you brought it up).
Also, sometimes I wonder if some of the things we're asked to do are Heavenly Father's way of letting us prove how much of a disciple we're actually going to be - regardless of history, changes, etc.
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What do you think of the Relief Society having a "tea party" using herbal teas?
I have mixed feelings on this. I realize that there are many herbal teas that don't break the Word of Wisdom but for many people who live the "Spirit of the Law" this would be an activity that might alienate some.
Your thoughts?
Growing up, my mom put an emphasis on "avoiding even the appearance" so I abstained from all teas and the like. But then as an adult I started learning how healthy *herbal infusions* are and decided to loosen up a bit (though I don't patronize coffee spots if at all possible). My friend calls them herbal drinks so her young kids don't get confused about the Word of Wisdom.
Anyway, as far as 'alienating some' - we do it all the time. We have crafts even though not everyone is crafty, sports activities even though some aren't athletic, Mother's/Father's Day even though some aren't parents, etc.
Seeing how much I enjoyed 'Tea Time' on the cruises I've been on, if our RS had this as an activity, I'd go and probably have a great time!
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Do I honestly believe that God cares if I drink coffee or tea? No I don't. Especially considering that the WoW wasn't made mandatory until much later.
Duff - It wasn't made mandatory in the beginning to give the Saints time to adjust (ie mercy). I'd post a link to prove my point but I've got to get ready for church so maybe later unless someone else gets to it first.
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From YW manual 1, lesson 38:
To be sure the young women know that the Word of Wisdom is a binding commandment for us today, read the following:
“The reason undoubtedly why the Word of Wisdom was given—as not by ‘commandment or restraint’ was that at that time, at least, if it had been given as a commandment it would have brought every man, addicted to the use of these noxious things, under condemnation; so the Lord was merciful and gave them a chance to overcome, before He brought them under the law. Later on, it was announced from this stand, by President Brigham Young, that the Word of Wisdom was a revelation and a command of the Lord. I desired to mention that fact, because I do not want you to feel that we are under no restraint. We do not want to come under condemnation” (Joseph F. Smith, in Conference Report, Oct. 1913, p. 14).
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John - I'm sorry that you've experienced these things. Based on what you've described, it's quite likely that you have developed a heart-wall (for protection) so love can't get in or out. *Please* go to healerslibrary.com to find a practitioner that can help change this. You are worth it!!! x
To understand more, there's a book you can read - The Emotion Code by Dr. Bradley Nelson (a trained Chiropractor and practicing Mormon)
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This is very good and free till the end of the day. (approx 1 hour 30 min)
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...do the missionaries that went on a mission funded by the ward (because their family could not pay for them to serve a mission) also get to keep them?
Excellent question and I would hope not.
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Since this is out-of-the-blue for you, can you offer to pay at least half?
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It's been 4 weeks since we have had church. The whole Ward is less active now. Lol
hahaha Pale - hopefully it's not one of the month's they use the numbers to determine the funds! :)
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I haven't studied Free Masonry or the history of the Temple Endowment but is it not possible that Free Masonry is Satan's counterfeit since he has one for everything? Just something to consider.
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Char - I'm sorry you're struggling with infertility. If you've only been to Western doctors, know that they don't have all the answers (obviously!). I've heard of an herbalist/naturopath that's taken on 'difficult' cases/clients that are now raising kids. I've also heard that the BodyCode can help with this (go to healerslibrary.com to find a practitioner). Also, candida overgrowth may be a factor so you may need to address that (both spouses because it can be passed from one to the other).
I hope this helps. I have more to say but I've got to go right now. x
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Welcome to the site and to the Gospel!
Two things come to mind -
First - I think your family is reacting this way partly because they might feel threatened. They've known you a certain way and they're not sure how this decision and life path will change you. They may also be concerned about if this will pull you away from them, etc.
Second - Maybe point out that one of the 4 missions of the Church is to help the poor and needy then show them articles (both lds and secular) of all that the Church does for people all over the world whether they're members or not.
Hope this helps. All the best!
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First, I don't think it's ever wrong to bring up particular concerns to a teacher. They won't know any differently unless/until you do so. Just make sure you make it clear you want to fulfill the assignment and aren't just trying to get out of it so ask for another option.
Just because some have been ok with it, doesn't mean all are or that you should be. Some people are more sensitive to certain things than others and that's just fine. Content in certain movies (not R) would bother me for days so I learned to just avoid it altogether.
I hope your teacher is understanding. Good luck!
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As mentioned, there are all sorts of missions. A good number of them can be done locally and don't have the 'couple' requirement. You also don't have to wait for retirement (8 hrs/week minimum, 6-24 mos).
https://www.lds.org/callings/missionary/church-service-missionary/get-involved?lang=eng
Is PMS comparable to infidelity?
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Having him help out more.