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So I am currently re-married and was never sealed to my first husband. My current husband and I are ready to be sealed. I have 3 children from a previous marriage. Myself and my ex are in good standing with each other. I would like for my 3 children to be sealed to myself and their step dad. My ex will most likely give verbal or written permission if requested. I have been told by my bishop that their step dad will have to adopt them which would mean their real dad would have to sign over his rights. I don't see how that could be the Lord's will. Especially if our religion revolves so much around the family. Also an adoption would take a financial toll on us right now which I can't see that as being the Lord's will either. I could really use some detailed information here. If it is possible for us to be sealed together what steps do I need to take EXACTLY so that I can make this happen. Who do I talk to if not my bishop. Stake president? Temple president? What are the key words I need to use? I realize that what is most important is for the children to be sealed to their spouse when they are ready but in the mean time it has been my dream forever to find a worthy man who is willing to be sealed to us all and now I've got one <3 Please advise...

Hi, there. I have not posted to this site to date but have found information that others have shared and advice given very helpful to my own situations and those situations of people I know and love. I will keep this straight forward and hope that people will share their feelings and advice freely (but not too freely...lol). I have been married 7 years to my current husband (this is my second marriage). It has been unfortunate that we haven't been able to find peace in either our relationship or the relationships between my husband and the children from my previous marriage. We have experienced a great deal of adversity and trials and have found the cracks in our already unstable marriage to seem insurmountable at times. However, because we believe in giving the marriage everything, we have continuously tried to overcome. My husband and 10 year old son have been at odds for our entire relationship. My husband was emotionally abusive and chose to resort to corporal punishment (something I do not believe in as a normal way of punishing) when dealing with him. He was open about the how he felt about him ..... cause of all of our problems, better when he wasnt there, etc. My son began acting out and got progressively worse over the years which caused my husband to come down even harder on him, etc etc...the cycle got worse and worse. I forgave my husband over and over again when he would do things that I felt in my heart were abusive because I received counsel from my bishop that that was the best thing for me to do. Everything came to a head a few weeks back when he physically restrained my son by twisting his arm behind his back (my son has a promising hockey career ahead of him and he could have broken his wrist or arm). I warned him not to do it because I could see where he was headed. We almost separated last year over his relationship with my son and the one thing that kept us together was the promise on his behalf that he would never put his hands on him again and that he would really try to have a better relationship. That lasted about 3 months and things went back to the way they were. Because of what happened, my son's father filed a protective order against my husband preventing ANY contact with my son....no physical, verbal, etc. This means that in order to see my son, I have to leave my house and meet my son at my mom's house, which has resulted in my parental time being drastically reduced . I am so angry at my husband that I can't see straight and I feel TORN. My bishop is one who believes that the covenant is everything and that as long as we are living up to the covenant, then things will be ok. I used to believe that but I also feel this need to protect my child. I have been thinking about leaving but we have two children together and am devastated over the thought of them being without their dad. <Sigh>.....really struggling with this one..... I have not one doubt that my son and husband have to be separated. It came as an answer to fervent prayer. Just not sure what to do now?