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My wife started school again recently, and on her first day, while they were introducing themselves, another girl in her class recognized her last name and asked if she knew me. My wife responded and said that she was my wife, and that we had been married a little over a year. This girl revealed to my wife that we had dated about three years ago, and they got to talking about all the things that they have in common. As it turns out I must have a type, they both went to the same liberal arts college, and they're both working on their second bachelor's degree in the same subject, they were both partially home schooled growing up, and have similar family make-ups and personalities. The biggest difference between them is that my wife is about 9 years younger than this girl, otherwise they would've met years ago. To give a little background, when I dated this girl I wanted to marry her, and she pretty much broke my heart. I pined over her for a long time before moving on, and about a year later I met my wife, who is the love of my life. Needless to say, this is a very awkward situation for me because I hadn't thought about this girl in a very long time, and then my wife comes home and tells me about her new friend who I used to date, and suddenly I'm having a lot of conflicting feelings. These feelings are further complicated by the fact that they really are so incredibly similar, lately I've been thinking that after this girl broke my heart I must have gone looking for someone exactly like her and found it in my wife. I also wonder if this girl is comparing herself to my wife and thinking the same thing. And while it's more likely that I just had a type of girl that I liked, it's still very difficult emotionally. I know that it would be wrong for me to be friends with one of my ex girlfriends, but is it okay for my wife to be her friend? Should I tell my wife that her being this girl's friend is making me uncomfortable, or do I just need to get over it? My wife doesn't have too many friends right now, especially at school, and I don't want to tell her that she can't be friends with this girl, but I'm feeling like my mind is doing "The one that got away" dance far too much, especially when it's my wife that is bringing up the topic. Any thoughts?