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Hey everybody, I just went through my first endowment this morning. I am getting married next week to a wonderful man who is my best friend (dated for almost 2 years, engaged for 7 months). I am looking for support from any other members who did not have a positive first experience. That may seem like a strange request but I have a fiance and parents and in-laws who talk about the temple like it's the greatest thing they've ever experienced and talking with them is only frustrating me. This is not what I expected to feel a few days before my temple wedding. I need some support from someone who can actually relate to how I am feeling right now. I took my ward's temple prep class, read the pamphlet, took a BYU temples class, and talked about the temple at length albeit in general terms with my bishop and my family. Then I went through today and I felt tricked. I was not prepared for how weird it seemed to me. Even though I can't say anything in there was harmful, going into a room and doing and saying things by command made me very uncomfortable. It really came off as a cult ritual to me, and I have grown up in the church! Add on top of that that I am a pretty circumspect person and I felt surrounded by female temple workers who were projecting emotionally at me and so ANXIOUS for me to like it that I felt I wasn't given a chance to experience my own emotions. Add on to that that I strongly dislike the garment. I've been reading these forums for the last few hours to try and get some perspective from members on the garment and the temple in general. It looks like it has been discussed ad nauseum on these boards so suffice to say I have a "uniquely" proportioned body that even the measurement lady at the distribution center said would be hard to fit. And I found out in the temple that indeed they didn't fit right, and it's uncomfortable, and my goodness do I feel ugly in them. I have always dressed conservatively and covered myself, and can't really see what underwear has to do with spirituality...especially when I have to wear "worldly" underwear with them anyway to take care of feminine support up top and feminine menstrual needs below. It's not that I didn't know it was coming, but I guess it wasn't so bad when I wasn't wearing them. I am so frustrated right now because I feel like this is nothing at all like the church I experience every Sunday, and I'm not sure I like it all. Insights appreciated