In June of last year, my Son moved in with us, my wife and myself. Some quick background he had been living with his Mom, Her Parents. The grandmother passed away in Feb 2010, she was the leader of the family. Grandfather remarried a year latter. My ex is physically disabled and very dependant on others making her decsions for her, constantly needs to get an experts opinion. My main concern is my son Bruce, he expresses very little emotion, when we raise our voices to him he shuts right down. A perfect example was this week he lost his binder for his History class, when I dropped him off this morning I instructed him to check the resource teacher,s office and the regular class room, he was unable find it. This afternoon he was shocked when we sent him back into the school to check the lost and found. We stopped and used his money to replace the folder. He was asked what his plan was to catch up the six weeks of notes he has lost, Bruce did say he would borrow a folder from a friend and catch up the 6 weeks of notes. Later this evening we talked about how he needs to approach his teacher, present the problem of having lost 6 weeks of work, and then present his solution. Bruce is also going to approach his physics teacher, and ask for help in developing testing skills, as bruce can score 100% to 80% on regular assignment, but tank on his quizes and tests. We have tried to stress the importance of education and doing your best. We have stressed the importance of Bruce being the one to initate the outreach for help. In the past the outreach for help was always initated from his Mom, which resulted in embaressing Bruce and forcing resinment, and ultimitly no work being completed. It is our hope that by putting the onus of asking for help on our Son will inspier him to complete the tasks he needs to reach the goals for the day. Just looking for someoutside input (this is his freshman year in High School)