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This is a spin off the Sexless Marriage thread. A reference was made to the Good Girl Syndrome. I take that to mean girls have been taught to be modest, chaste, and even sexually shy. Good girls do not look for such things. They may internalize the idea that marital intimacy is "dirty." I get it...kinda. However, at least consciously, that line of thinking should be easy to oppose. After all, do we not also teach our daughters (and sons) that within marriage intimacy is commanded by God? 1 Corinthians 7: 2 But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. 3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. 5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. (New International Version) Once the lie is exposed, it should be relatively easy for a couple, within counseling, to begin working towards intimacy. Yet, I sense from some posts here that such is not the case. Why?