BrotherBear Posted January 11, 2010 Report Share Posted January 11, 2010 Last night I attended a fellowship party with a friend and my girlfriends. Well, evidently one of my girlfriends brought a friend (she's non-LDS) and he had been drinking. As we all posed for a photo shot he bit me (not hard) on my back and it really freaked me out. Also we had a chiminea going and he kept talking about roasting my cat making me really uncomfortable. It made me really uncomfortable but I'm not sure how to deal with my non-LDS friend. She's expressed interest in LDS and I'm afraid if I approach her I'll end up rubbing salt in the wound. Got any ideas? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Just_A_Guy Posted January 11, 2010 Report Share Posted January 11, 2010 This doesn't seem to be about religion as much as just plain boorish behavior. I'd just tell my friend that you're sure the guy's very nice when he's sober, but you don't much care for him when he's buzzed and if he shows up like that again, you're leaving.If he does anything like that to you again (based on your profile, you appear to be in Utah) you probably have grounds for a civil stalking injunction. You can apply for one without a lawyer--there just need to be two separate, threatening/annoying instances. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest xforeverxmetalx Posted January 11, 2010 Report Share Posted January 11, 2010 Could be just me, but I think someone biting you and talking about roasting a cat has nothing to do with religion or even religious preference. That could freak anyone out. So it would depend on what you think about your friend because of him, as far as if she agrees that kind of behavior is acceptable, drunk or not. But then that's still a personal issue rather than religion. But anyway... unless you're going to be seeing your friend's friend more often, I don't see it being a problem in the future. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BrotherBear Posted January 11, 2010 Author Report Share Posted January 11, 2010 Right now I'm in CA as a student, my parents/family are back in Utah so I listed that as home. Just kind to have someone bite me, very weird. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jbs2763 Posted January 11, 2010 Report Share Posted January 11, 2010 so its a dude that bit you? or a chick? you are a dude right? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Just_A_Guy Posted January 11, 2010 Report Share Posted January 11, 2010 BrotherBear would seem to be a female, based on her profile. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hordak Posted January 11, 2010 Report Share Posted January 11, 2010 BrotherBear would seem to be a female, based on her profile. :)I was wondering why HE would bring more then one girlfriend to the party:)First i'm confused about the avatar (hey look it's hemi) and the poster named Brother bear turns out femaleman this is confusing Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pam Posted January 11, 2010 Report Share Posted January 11, 2010 Yeh I noticed that too. I kind of go by avatars..but since we have 2 with the same..I REALLY have to look now. lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jbs2763 Posted January 11, 2010 Report Share Posted January 11, 2010 so if you're a she and the biter was a he? i s that right? maybe it was a super lame attempt at 'flirting'? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moksha Posted January 11, 2010 Report Share Posted January 11, 2010 If he does anything like that to you again (based on your profile, you appear to be in Utah) you probably have grounds for a civil stalking injunction. You can apply for one without a lawyer--there just need to be two separate, threatening/annoying instances. Right on. Roasting a cat is not only against the Utah Health Code, but is also non-kosher. Biting on the back whether at partys, church or the office should always be discouraged. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa569 Posted January 11, 2010 Report Share Posted January 11, 2010 (edited) Was the drunk friend aware that everyone else there was part of a religious gathering? I've been around missionaries a lot over the past 15 years, despite my not attending church during that time-- I'd be at my uncle and aunt's house while the missionaries stoped over for dinner or something. One thing I have noticed that really annoys me, is that non-LDS people (and sometimes even non-active members) really enjoy "messing" with religious people. People who are normally very well behaved will act out more (even sober) just because missionaries or church people are around. I guess its a form of rebellion, showing off, or just trying to get a rise out of/shock them. Alcohol or no, if the guy knew it was a church activity, this could have been the case. One night, when I was at my aunt and uncle's for dinner, and the missionaries were there, my cousin (she's not my aunt/uncle's daughter, but their niece) was also staying over. When the male missionaries got there, my cousin ran up to the guest bedroom and changed into some mini shorts and a skimpy tank top, then came prancing back downstairs in front of them! I couldn't believe her! She kept flirting with them too, and my aunt eventually had to pull her off to the side and tell her to go upstairs, and not come back down until they were gone. But normally, she never did stuff like that! People do it to priests too, sometimes. So I'm sure church people, epsecially missionaries, see it all the time. But they just learn to blow it off, or stay away from those people. I agree that you should talk to your friend about this. I like the first idea of attacking the alcohol, rather than the guy who bit you. That way its nothing personal. Edited January 11, 2010 by Melissa569 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BrotherBear Posted January 11, 2010 Author Report Share Posted January 11, 2010 Hahaha. I'm a chick. I'll update my avatar with a picture of me so it's less confusing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hordak Posted January 11, 2010 Report Share Posted January 11, 2010 One thing I have noticed that really annoys me, is that non-LDS people (and sometimes even non-active members) really enjoy "messing" with religious people.Guilty. Every time a meet a member who doesn't know me and they explain they are Mormon i respond with. "Your the ones with all the wives right?"(I do it out of love, me and my friends used to constantly play practical jokes on each other.Think that 70s show)I would never take it as far as you example, i would look horrible in daisy dukes:o,But biting is bad, especially from a hygiene stand point. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BrotherBear Posted January 11, 2010 Author Report Share Posted January 11, 2010 I can't get my avatar to change, I've uploaded it three different times and it says "Accepted" and the tidbit about browser cache.THis is the picture:http://www.lds.net/forums/attachment.php?attachmentid=346&d=1263219475 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
talisyn Posted January 11, 2010 Report Share Posted January 11, 2010 He bit you? What a weirdo lol. Ask your friend if he always bites people when drunk, it'll at least give her the heads up if something's messed up with the guy. Cute picture Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bini Posted January 11, 2010 Report Share Posted January 11, 2010 But you look so feisty! I would have turned around and bit him back! But what a weirdo, seriously. I probably would have shouted WTF and punched him. I don't like people touching me.. At all.. To point though, it's never fun when one person is buzzed or smashed and everyone else is sober. It just starts to get really annoying with their obnoxious behaviour. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Iggy Posted January 11, 2010 Report Share Posted January 11, 2010 Biting others is something children in pre-school do and get punished for. It is not something young adults do. I would steer clear of him drunk or not. Whether he was drunk or not, he is still someone you need to be careful around. Alcohol doesn't make nice people do bad or inappropriate things. It is used as an excuse to do bad or inappropriate things. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beefche Posted January 12, 2010 Report Share Posted January 12, 2010 Brother Bear, go here. If that doesn't work, then ask Mahone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Just_A_Guy Posted January 12, 2010 Report Share Posted January 12, 2010 Sometimes even if you've changed your avatar properly on LDS.net, you need to clear out your internet browser cache before the change shows up on your computer. EDIT: Except I just did that and your avatar is still unchanged. Never mind . . . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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