bonanzafan Posted July 16, 2010 Report Share Posted July 16, 2010 I am struggling to keep the law of chastity with a girl I've been dating for a few months. I have met with priesthood leaders and have even had a bishop's court. I don't know how to change what's going on. I'm realizing that I have submitted my will to Satan and cannot break myself free of this. I'm a returned missionary. I grew up in a family of all strong members of the church. I'm about to lose even more privileges. I feel like my weakness is that I'm so lonely inside and so is she. I don't feel like we are right for each other, emotionally and personality-wise. We're just two lonely people doing dumb things. Can you help me with your opinions, please? Please. I'm just so sorry to be where I am. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FunkyTown Posted July 16, 2010 Report Share Posted July 16, 2010 I don't feel like we are right for each other, emotionally and personality-wise. We're just two lonely people doing dumb things. Can you help me with your opinions, please? Please. I'm just so sorry to be where I am.Dump her. Quickly. It will hurt both of you, but you have to do it. If you feel that you aren't right for each other, you're leading her on.Forget the chastity issues: You are acting like a jerk if you are having sex with someone you don't see a future with. That is a jerky thing.I don't think you -are- a jerk, but you're definitely acting like one and you want to and should take responsibility and dump her. Not in a place where you can have makeup sex, as if she is lonely she will try to use it. You don't want to hurt her and you don't want to be a jerk. It's time to back away. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Justinator1 Posted July 16, 2010 Report Share Posted July 16, 2010 Don't see her anymore. That more then anything else right now will help you. Get rid of the temptation and don't allow it back. Second would be, if you are looking for acceptance and companionship, find it in the scriptures and prayer. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MisterT Posted July 16, 2010 Report Share Posted July 16, 2010 I recommed you never be alone with her again, unless you are to be married. I also would recommend you seriously investigate prohilactics; I know where you're going because I've been there. And for the want of a piece of latex, I ended up with a life-long responsibility. Not that I regret my children, i don't. I simply regret the circumstance I've brought upon them by my own inability to control my powers of procreation. But like I recommended first, dump her and find someone who will uplift you and keep you from doing things that will make you miserable for the rest of your lilfe. I'm not going to touch on the religious aspect of this; you know the teachings of the church. What I am saying is in order to be happy in life, truly happy, you can't have regrets like this on your conscience. You may be forgiven for them in time, but you will always feel like dirt because of it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wingnut Posted July 16, 2010 Report Share Posted July 16, 2010 If you don't think you're right together, and you want to stop this behavior, then why on earth are you still together? Break up with her and don't see her anymore! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blackmarch Posted July 16, 2010 Report Share Posted July 16, 2010 I am struggling to keep the law of chastity with a girl I've been dating for a few months. I have met with priesthood leaders and have even had a bishop's court. I don't know how to change what's going on. I'm realizing that I have submitted my will to Satan and cannot break myself free of this. I'm a returned missionary. I grew up in a family of all strong members of the church. I'm about to lose even more privileges. I feel like my weakness is that I'm so lonely inside and so is she. I don't feel like we are right for each other, emotionally and personality-wise. We're just two lonely people doing dumb things. Can you help me with your opinions, please? Please. I'm just so sorry to be where I am.If its a girl that you don't want to spend your future with by getting married... I'd suggest writing up a letter of deepest apology, and then put distance between you and her and dump her, and never be in a situation where you are alone with her.I would also suggest start studying the scriptures daily and praying often daily.Just to start with IMO Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justaname Posted July 16, 2010 Report Share Posted July 16, 2010 Just think, when this girl gets married someday, she is probably going to get to explain to her future husband about how she slept with some guy that really had no interest in her at all. He was just there for sex. Then this poor husband is going to envision a faceless man, YOU, that took something from this girl that was supposed to be his. He is probably going to be pretty hurt. He is going to wonder why he is feeling the weight of such a grievous sin that he didnt even commit. Then there is the fun part where you might get to explain to your future wife how you shared the most private, sacred, and intimate moments, that were supposed to be with her, with a 'lonely' girl whose only use to you was the fact that she was willing to put out because it made her feel like she was wanted and loved by someone. Only she wasnt, which probably makes her feel even worse than before. With every other time you guys mess around, this sacred act is being cheapened more and more. Both of you are selling something who's value is without measure at a flea market price. The only way its value will be returned is by forsaking your sins, repenting, and holding it sacred until you are married and get to share it with one who is truly deserving. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MisterT Posted July 16, 2010 Report Share Posted July 16, 2010 Eloquent way of putting it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BobHawaks Posted July 18, 2010 Share Posted July 18, 2010 · Hidden Hidden Well dont go see your church leaders, then the whole ward will know whats going on. Link to comment
BobHawaks Posted July 18, 2010 Share Posted July 18, 2010 · Hidden Hidden Dont worry about it, you got hormons just like everybody else. Just stay away from the porn. Link to comment
BobHawaks Posted July 18, 2010 Share Posted July 18, 2010 · Hidden Hidden Dont worry about it, you got hormones just like everybody else, just stay away from porn. Link to comment
Snow Posted July 20, 2010 Share Posted July 20, 2010 · Hidden Hidden I am struggling to keep the law of chastity with a girl I've been dating for a few months. I have met with priesthood leaders and have even had a bishop's court. I don't know how to change what's going on. I'm realizing that I have submitted my will to Satan and cannot break myself free of this. I'm a returned missionary. I grew up in a family of all strong members of the church. I'm about to lose even more privileges. I feel like my weakness is that I'm so lonely inside and so is she. I don't feel like we are right for each other, emotionally and personality-wise. We're just two lonely people doing dumb things. Can you help me with your opinions, please? Please. I'm just so sorry to be where I am.I don't know about all the other bad advice you might get on this thread but I am going to give you some sure-fire advice. Start spending your time posting frequently on a religious message board. Even if you had time left over for sex, your girlfriend will think you're a geek and dump you. Link to comment
justaname Posted July 20, 2010 Share Posted July 20, 2010 · Hidden Hidden I don't know about all the other bad advice you might get on this thread but I am going to give you some sure-fire advice. Start spending your time posting frequently on a religious message board. Even if you had time left over for sex, your girlfriend will think you're a geek and dump you.Snow, considering you post an average of 3-4 times a day, is this advice coming from personal experience? Link to comment
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