Guest FixingTheWrongs Posted March 7, 2012 Report Share Posted March 7, 2012 I’m having some very selfish thoughts lately and I can feel myself heading down a dangerous road, I don’t know what to do anymore. I think my wife has given up caring about her physical appearance and health. She has stopped excersicing the past few weeks on a regular basis, she recently had oral surgery and her face is all bruised and battered. She did really good for awhile and lost a fair amount of weight but needs to loose quite a bit more not only to look better but for her health. Everytime she goes to the doctor she seems to need another medication. She wants us to be intimate and have another baby. Sadly I don’t feel any physical attraction to her anymore. Mentally, Spiritually and Emotionally she is everything I need and want. I want to be attracted to my wife but I don’t think I can anymore with the path she seems to be going down. She makes excuses not to exercise(knee hurts, too tired)and I don’t know what to do to convince her this is something I’d like her to work on for our marriage. I told her about how a few women have noticed me more since I’ve lost quite a bit myself and this seemed to urge her to try harder for awhile but it only lasted about a month. What can I do to not just encourage her but GET her to start taking her health seriously? Now for my problems and yes they are irrational. I hate going to church and wish I could just stop. I hate seeing all the smiling happy beautiful couples and secretly wish some evil would befall them to not make them so happy. It just makes me more depressed and emphasizes my short comings and my wife’s physical looks. I’ve also fantasized about just going to a couple of dance clubs one night without wearing my wedding ring just to see what might happen. I don’t know what to do anymore. I’ve tried talking to her about this but she just gets angry. Told the bishop about how I was feeling and thinking but he just looked scared(IE didn't have a clue what to do), really didn’t know what to do or offer any advise other than counseling. How does one go about getting counseling in the LDS church and how much does it cost? I’ll see what it brings and if it can help me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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