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@Spring girl. Yeah. I told him to get into counseling ect. He's said he's handled the issue by never going home for more then a few hours. I know he has masturbation and porn issues. But it's just like. Over the top to hear the whole thing with his sisters. He told me right after I had some similar issues with my older brother....at that point I just decided most everyone's messed up and in the end, you can't really trust anyone.

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@Spring girl. Yeah. I told him to get into counseling ect. He's said he's handled the issue by never going home for more then a few hours. I know he has masturbation and porn issues. But it's just like. Over the top to hear the whole thing with his sisters. He told me right after I had some similar issues with my older brother....at that point I just decided most everyone's messed up and in the end, you can't really trust anyone.

:( That's not really the truth though, lizzy. Yes, it's good to be cautious, and yes, everyone has baggage, but there are trustworthy people out there.

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Thanks for the comments everyone, I'll check out the book that was suggested for sure. As a female there are things about males that I can never understand fully because it is impossible for me to experience what they experience. I honestly don't think that my son has been exposed to anything bad, but has learned this simply from the reactions of his own body. I do think he might be genetically geared with a stronger motor though if that makes sense?

We are going to fast together this Sunday, and go through the repentance process. As a convert, I wish I had understood what repentance really was before I took the dunk, he is preparing for baptism, and faith and repentance are the preparatory steps that are supposed to be taken prior to that ordinance. if converts are supposed to repent, I'm not sure why 7yo's would not need to understand and do this? I don't think the second you turn 8 you are magically able to start sinning - I think accountability is a gradual process, and that by the time you are 8 most have come to a point where they understand right from wrong etc. etc.

(Bible Dictionary | R Repentance:Entry)

Repentance. The Greek word of which this is the translation denotes a change of mind, i.e., a fresh view about God, about oneself, and about the world.

I like the bible dictionary statement about repentance, that it is not some shameful/humiliating thing, but rather turning around to a new perspective/understanding of things.

I really do love my son, it really did hurt to discipline him like that. Different kids require different methods, I honestly think he would have ignored/brushed off/made a joke out of anything that was less severe. I'm hoping that he has finally understood how serious it is to respect our own and others temple. We'll go from here, and see how things progress.

thanks again for all the good advice.

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Just because he doesn't live with his sisters anymore doesn't mean he has solved his problem. He may be ashamed of the things he's done and doesn't want anyone else to know, but if he wants help he's going to have to tell someone that can help him. Porn is an addiction, the affects it has on the brain act just like any other drug.

I don't think everyone male is screwed up. We live in a very sexualized society and we just have to learn to suppress our physical desires. It's very hard.

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Hidden: Fasting, repentance, prayer and everything else is all good in normal circumstances but I would strongly I repeat, strongly suggest that you take a psychological approach to this problem and get your son (and family) the help of a therapist right away.

Based on the limited information you have provided, your little son exhibits a predatory behavior that could be the result of many factors from psychological issues to sexual abuse. Spanking him, yelling at him it's not going to "cure" him neither make him understand what he is doing wrong specially because he is repeating the behavior.

PLEASE, get help for him and your family right away. All the best.

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Unless there is a whole lot more to the OP's story....then I think he is over reacting to a SEVEN year old. He is curious (predatory??)....boys are different than girls. I would suggest loving him and speaking with him about the differences.

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Sounds to me like you are just perpectuating some kind of abuse, albeit not sexual, yourself. Have you thought about getting counseling for him?

Sounds to me like the OP could use a little herself.

Having read this entire thread now, I'm a lot more disturbed by the OP's behavior than by her son's. To me, it sounds completely typical for a seven-year-old boy.

I also don't like the idea of teaching modesty in the context of how we dress. I like teaching about clothing choices as one aspect of being modest. Otherwise it ties modesty too closely to sexuality, while there's so much more to it than that.

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Sounds to me like the OP could use a little herself.

Having read this entire thread now, I'm a lot more disturbed by the OP's behavior than by her son's. To me, it sounds completely typical for a seven-year-old boy.

I agree....my 7 year old tries to peak on me and hubby all the time. I would never spank or yell at her for doing so. It is a curious age, so many wonderful and new things. Human bodies are beautiful and I would hate to raise a child that would believe other wise.

Spanking and yelling is a little extreme when the child just needs to be reminded a naked body should be private. And throwing religion into the mix is just a no-no.

I don't understand the molestation comment....If there is this going on in the home then professionals that deal with this need to be called in to help with the whole family. Teaching a child about sex and sexual relations doesn't mean they understand. I have told my children about sex and my 7 year old still thinks babies are made when someone kisses too long.

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I was never curious about what boys looked like because I always knew. But then, that was in the days when parents would pile the kids in the tub together every night for their bath before putting them to bed so it was natural.

What also came naturally for me was modesty. Not because of what I was told or taught but just from the natural sense of needing privacy when I was in a state of undress, which developed as I got a little older.

I remember the time my brother walked into OUR room and I was in my slip. He couldn't care less but I wanted him out until I was finished dressing. I threw such a fit when he wouldn't leave that I got a spanking for acting like such a drama queen, I guess, lol.

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I agree....my 7 year old tries to peak on me and hubby all the time. I would never spank or yell at her for doing so. It is a curious age, so many wonderful and new things. Human bodies are beautiful and I would hate to raise a child that would believe other wise.

Spanking and yelling is a little extreme when the child just needs to be reminded a naked body should be private. And throwing religion into the mix is just a no-no.

I don't understand the molestation comment....If there is this going on in the home then professionals that deal with this need to be called in to help with the whole family. Teaching a child about sex and sexual relations doesn't mean they understand. I have told my children about sex and my 7 year old still thinks babies are made when someone kisses too long.

I think that every parent - and especially the OP - could benefit from reading this book.

It talks about normal sexual development from birth to adulthood, and most people are surprised at just how normal and universal some of the things are that shock them in their children.

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I think its normal but, he doing it all the time? mmm in was also curios at that age "I think most boys are" about seeing a girl with no close on. How about setting up a embarrassment trap that will make him think twice about not doing it, were he is caught with relatives around? BTW, does he get embarrassed or does he feel stress when shamed in front of other people?

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How about setting up a embarrassment trap that will make him think twice about not doing it, were he is caught with relatives around?

Please do not consider this.

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