Bini Posted June 15, 2012 Report Share Posted June 15, 2012 Maureen, I heard from an acquaintance that IVF is not recommended unless you've TTC for several years. That was what she was told by an infertility specialist here in Salt Lake City.Some other thoughts back on topic. Although I am adopted (and so were 2 of my other siblings out of 10 children), I remember telling my husband that if I couldn't get pregnant and infertility procedures were unsuccessful, I did not want to adopt. I wanted a child of my own blood. I wanted to see myself and my husband in the child - not someone else. Of course, now, I realise that these were nothing short of selfish reasonings. If infertility procedures are not an option or are unsuccessful, adoption is a wonderful thing, for the child and the adoptive parents. If for whatever reason I am unable to naturally get pregnant the second go around, adoption is something we would consider. There's a lot of children out there, unwanted children, without homes, just waiting for a second chance to a new life. My uncle has five natural children and he and his wife fostered two special needs boys. One had mild retardation and the other had downs. I remember in my early childhood visiting my cousins and also growing up with these two boys - they were apart of the family. One has since passed away but the other still resides with my uncle and aunt. I know my cousins learned at an early age a special set of skills and compassion that most children don't learn (if ever) from having these boys in and apart of their lives. You could just see how that family was blessed from having them in their home. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Backroads Posted June 15, 2012 Author Report Share Posted June 15, 2012 Are you and your DH not open to persuing adoption?We might, if it comes to that. I'm personally not opposed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted June 15, 2012 Report Share Posted June 15, 2012 For the benefit of anyone reading this but not anyone specific, I wanted to post this link because it's something near and dear to my heart:Reece's Rainbow Adoption Ministry | International Down Syndrome Adoption Ministry | Reece's Rainbow Adoption Ministry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beefche Posted June 16, 2012 Report Share Posted June 16, 2012 For those who don't know.....IVF and IUI are two different things. In vitro fertilization is (simply) introducing the egg and sperm in a petri dish and then injecting one or more of those fertilized eggs into the uterus. Intrauterine insemination is injecting the sperm into the uterus to facilitate fertilization. Maureen stated she had IUI done, not IVF. And each couple is different. For some, it may be better to wait for IVF until they've TTC for several years. For others, it may be ok if they've TTC for only a few months. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Backroads Posted July 19, 2012 Author Report Share Posted July 19, 2012 So... I'm no longer ranting about this anymore... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzie Posted July 19, 2012 Report Share Posted July 19, 2012 The wife of a good friend of mine wasn't able to get pregnant for the first 10 years of marriage. All of the sudden and without medical intervention, she became pregnant with twin boys. Two years later, thinking her chances of becoming pregnant again were slim, she got pregnant again...with twins! (boy and girl). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 19, 2012 Report Share Posted July 19, 2012 So... I'm no longer ranting about this anymore...For any particular reason??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Backroads Posted July 19, 2012 Author Report Share Posted July 19, 2012 Yup. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 19, 2012 Report Share Posted July 19, 2012 Yup.HOORAY!! Congratulations and best wishes for an easy, healthy pregnancy! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
applepansy Posted July 19, 2012 Report Share Posted July 19, 2012 Congratulations Backroads. I'm excited for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenamarie Posted July 19, 2012 Report Share Posted July 19, 2012 Congratulations!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beefche Posted July 19, 2012 Report Share Posted July 19, 2012 Yay! You must have seen a pair of kids that were driving their mother batty and decided that maybe that wasn't for you, right? Or was it that you decided to get a puppy instead? No, it must be that you decided to collect vintage dolls and spend tons of money traveling to festivals around the world to get them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beefche Posted July 19, 2012 Report Share Posted July 19, 2012 BTW, congrats. We look forward to hearing about the morning sickness, the bloating, the mood swings, the weight gain, the.....on second thought, just congratuations. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jennarator Posted July 19, 2012 Report Share Posted July 19, 2012 Congrats!! How exciting! :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Backroads Posted July 19, 2012 Author Report Share Posted July 19, 2012 Yay!Thanks!!! You must have seen a pair of kids that were driving their mother batty and decided that maybe that wasn't for you, right?Nah, I'm a big sister and I taught first grade as well as worked at Scout camp.Or was it that you decided to get a puppy instead?My cousins' child-replacing puppy looks like even more work.No, it must be that you decided to collect vintage dolls and spend tons of money traveling to festivals around the world to get them.I already own way too many vintage dolls. I have to keep them in storage because they scare people.Thanks everyone! I'm excited. And freaking out. It's a bit of both right now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maureen Posted July 19, 2012 Report Share Posted July 19, 2012 (edited) Congrats Backroads! Due date? I'm going to guess March? M. Edited July 19, 2012 by Maureen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
applepansy Posted July 19, 2012 Report Share Posted July 19, 2012 Thanks everyone! I'm excited. And freaking out. It's a bit of both right now.Its ok to freak out a little bit. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 19, 2012 Report Share Posted July 19, 2012 My twins are almost 1 1/2 years old and I'm still freaking out a little bit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Backroads Posted July 19, 2012 Author Report Share Posted July 19, 2012 (edited) My twins are almost 1 1/2 years old and I'm still freaking out a little bit.The problem is I will probably have twins. However, I've been mentally prepared for this since I was a teenager.Unless my cousin managed to nab the twins for the next generation. Here is her twins, my twin, and me. Edited July 19, 2012 by Backroads Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bini Posted July 19, 2012 Report Share Posted July 19, 2012 I think I'd go bananas if I had twins.. B.A.N.A.N.A.S. Then again, my MIL had twins and said it wasn't as bad as some say it is. She said you just learn to do everything twice and in a row, one after the other, zip zap done! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 19, 2012 Report Share Posted July 19, 2012 You are adorable! Fraternal twins are genetic through the maternal line, as you probably know, so if you do have twins you'll have my congratulations and sympathies! Have you and your brother been close your whole lives? I wonder what it will be like for my boy/girl twins. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bini Posted July 19, 2012 Report Share Posted July 19, 2012 Awwwwww cute babies! OK hubby, I'm ready for number two now :] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 19, 2012 Report Share Posted July 19, 2012 I think I'd go bananas if I had twins.. B.A.N.A.N.A.S. Then again, my MIL had twins and said it wasn't as bad as some say it is. She said you just learn to do everything twice and in a row, one after the other, zip zap done!That's pretty simplified LOL. Getting up at night for two babies, chasing 2 toddlers in different directions, cleaning the messes of 2 (or one big mess that they worked together to make). . . And the older ladies who had twins also have that wonderful amnesia that makes us forget how much things like childbirth and having 2 toddlers can suck. my MIL said she doesn't remember it being that hard, and I wanted to punch her in the face because she also had a night nurse so that she could sleep. I know that if I could get consistent sleep, everything would be easier. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bini Posted July 19, 2012 Report Share Posted July 19, 2012 That's pretty simplified LOL. Getting up at night for two babies, chasing 2 toddlers in different directions, cleaning the messes of 2 (or one big mess that they worked together to make). . . And the older ladies who had twins also have that wonderful amnesia that makes us forget how much things like childbirth and having 2 toddlers can suck. my MIL said she doesn't remember it being that hard, and I wanted to punch her in the face because she also had a night nurse so that she could sleep. I know that if I could get consistent sleep, everything would be easier.Laugh out loud!I don't know if you were around when I had made forum posts during my PPD but I pretty much felt like punching everyone in the face, and while very un-ladylike, I also wanted to kill a few people.. I actually felt like jumping off a cliff myself at one point! No doubt having multiples is a lot of work. But I think having multiple children VERY close in age, regardless if they're twins or triplets etc, is quite challenging. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Backroads Posted July 19, 2012 Author Report Share Posted July 19, 2012 You are adorable! Fraternal twins are genetic through the maternal line, as you probably know, so if you do have twins you'll have my congratulations and sympathies! Have you and your brother been close your whole lives? I wonder what it will be like for my boy/girl twins.Thanks. Yeah, I've also heard the lore that the twins will still skip a generation. However, at some point in the family line an alternate twin generation hopped in, so now it's fraternal twins every generation for someone.My twin and I aren't any closer than with any of our other siblings. When we were little, everyone thought me and our younger brother were the twins and we were closer for a while. The only freaky twin moment is when my brother had jaw surgery. My jaw hurt all day, and I was not aware the surgery was happening that particular day.My due date is March 18. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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