friedmann Posted December 24, 2012 Report Share Posted December 24, 2012 Hello everyone, I have moved away from my home ward in the summer to attend college and now I`m going to one of the many YSA wards over here. Yes, it`s a huge difference, but the more I get used to it, the more I like it. Anyways, with moving to a new ward comes having a new home-teaching companion, and here is my problem/question. For about two months now, I have not been able to get in touch with my companion. He`s not at Church anymore, I fear he`s struggling himself, but I just can`t get a hold of him. He doesn`t answer calls or texts and when I tried to visit him at home a couple of weeks ago, he wasn`t home and his family was not very excited about the idea of me coming back. I don`t know him all that well, simply for the lack of time we had to get to know each other, but he seemed outgoing and spiritually very capable. However, he also seemed to get offended rather easily. That`s my fear: He`s also on the committee that is in charge of FHEs, and shortly before he left, I offered him some (kind, I thought) advice by which the whole event could become more spiritual (having someone share a short thought in the beginning, that is). I fear that he has been so ticked off by that that he ended up leaving and quit talking to me. I know that there are many more potential reasons but I just feel some guilt and incapability of changing the situation to the better. Has anyone else ever experienced something like that? Is there maybe an official guideline I couldn`t find out about yet? Thanks so much, your help is really appreciated! Merry Christmas to all of you :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skalenfehl Posted December 24, 2012 Report Share Posted December 24, 2012 Hallo friedmann! Whenever I cannot "connect" with hometeaching companions, I do the hometeaching myself. You can only do so much, but do all you can with it. Hope that helps. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pam Posted December 24, 2012 Report Share Posted December 24, 2012 I totally agree with Skal. Make the effort to call your companion. If you can't connect, do it yourself. You will reap the blessings of having done what you need to do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tubaloth Posted December 24, 2012 Report Share Posted December 24, 2012 Talk to your Elders quorum president or your district leader. See if he knows any info that would help. Also they might be able to go ht with you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mirkwood Posted December 24, 2012 Report Share Posted December 24, 2012 Do it yourself if your companion won't go with you. I was that guy for many years until I got my act together. The fault was my own and nobody else's. Just like the fault is his for not attending church and whatever else. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dove Posted December 25, 2012 Report Share Posted December 25, 2012 I would suggest not pressuring your companion to respond...If you have already texted/called/visited him, you've been very clear about wanting to Home Teach with him. Now the ball is in his court to answer/respond to your invitations. Also, I wouldn't take it personally that he has basically checked out of church activity. What matters for you is your intent and frame of mind in offering the advice you did for FHE....If you were doing it in kindness and in the best intent to suggest how to make it better, your heart was in the right place. And that is what matters to the Lord concerning you. How he (companion) took it it between him and God, until he decides to tell you if it did offend him. Then he allows for a chance for the situation to be resolved between you and him. Do what you can do, as has already been said. Take joy in that, for anything beyond that is something you have no control over. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dahlia Posted December 26, 2012 Report Share Posted December 26, 2012 My HT's companion often has to pick up extra work on the weekend when the weather is good, so my HT just comes alone. No problem for me. I'd say that if your teachees want to have HTing in their home, it is better for you to go alone than for the teachee to go without a visit every month. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
friedmann Posted December 30, 2012 Author Report Share Posted December 30, 2012 Thanks for all your support! I think this is pretty much going into the direction that I had in mind...once a substential amount of people is back from their Christmas trips home, I'll go...by myself or not. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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