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Do i need to see m6 my bishop for talking dirty? Not full on sexting but just talking about making out and stuff? I honestly wouldn't call it sexting. I just don't know.

On another note, I can control myself very well and I kissed a girl slowly. I made out with her but didn't touch in the lower zone or anything. I'm 16. Do I need to talk to my bishop about this? I feel I can repent and have done my best but do I still have to talk to my bishop? Thanks!

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Why is the automatic answer always 'if you have to ask, go see the bishop '? Is that a sincere belief or are we afraid to give an opinion on the subject? In my opinion, based only on what the OP posted, no I do not believe it is necessary to see the bishop. If there are other details the OP left out, then maybe. Again, just my opinion but I don't believe the answer to every one of these questions to be 'go see the bishop'.

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Because some stranger on the internet is not authoritative nor do we have the full story (as you noted as a possiblity). Therefore anything we say can be wrong and there will still be doubts.

Bishops are authoritative, and they have the chance to get what ever details are relevant in a personal discussion. So if the bishop says you are good (and you were honest with him) then you are good. And if you aren't in a good place he is right there help you get to a good place.

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Why is the automatic answer always 'if you have to ask, go see the bishop '? Is that a sincere belief or are we afraid to give an opinion on the subject? In my opinion, based only on what the OP posted, no I do not believe it is necessary to see the bishop. If there are other details the OP left out, then maybe. Again, just my opinion but I don't believe the answer to every one of these questions to be 'go see the bishop'.

I hold no stewardship over the OP. His Bishop does. I'm just a random person on the internet. What if I didn't know the entire story but I told someone "nahhhh don't go see your Bishop" when in fact they should have?

None of us here, unless we are that person's Bishop, has a stewardship over them. So none of us here have the authority to tell anyone else on this site whether they should see their Bishop or not. More importantly that they shouldn't see their Bishop.

I could give my opinion all day long, but my opinion doesn't matter.

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Here are some thoughts:

1st - People do not need to see their bishop for immoral thoughts or conversations. If so, many members will be visiting the bishop regularly (probably a huge number of young women and young men would be visiting the bishop weekly).

2nd - If sexting incorporates nude pictures, pornography, then yes you need to speak with your bishop.

3rd - You mention "but didn't touch in the lower zone or anything." I am assuming you mean below her belt. If you touched her breasts, speak with your bishop.

4th - Heaving kissing, better to steer away from, isn't something you need to speak with your bishop about. Remember though, passionate (heavy) kissing is to bring about the passions within yourself and your partner...better to steer away from while single. Your masculinity is not diminished for being modest with your kisses. ;)

5th - If in your heart you feel you need to see your bishop, go see your bishop.

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The only problem I see with Anddenex outline is that it is that as far as the Person dealing with the issue knows Anddenex is just some guy on the internet... Is that enough to calm this person's fears? Maybe... We can't know... but we know the bishop can.

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I think the "auto answer" of "go see your bishop if you have doubts" is pretty sound advice. But that isnt always your first responder to all questions.

Maybe you should...talk to your parents? You could ask a youth leader their thoughts? You have many resources at your disposal, granted, most of the other church leaders will most likely say "talk to the Bishop" if there are any doubts. But there are more people than "Pam, the random internet personality" (which we all love by the way) and the Bishop to ask your questions to right out of the gate.

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I really don't want to be rude, and half the time when we get these kinds of posts, I wonder if they're made up, but gee - don't any of these people have parents? As embarrassing as it might be to talk to you parents about sex, isn't that what should have happened in the first place? And to bother the bishop about all this stuff, I don't know - when do you grow up and get past the need to 'report' to the bishop? I'm not talking directly to you, OP, these posts just floor me every time I see them.

I'm not talking about massive problems like porn addiction or seeing prostitutes, or even that issue with the boudoir photography, which struck me as all kinds of wrong, but all this angst over youthful experimentation, I don't know. Of course you want to learn to exercise control, but that's part of growing up. Why does it seem that LDS young people can't talk to their parents about such things?

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Do realize that what you see here is a very self selecting bunch. The number of youth in the church is quiet large... It would only take a small percentage of 'problem' cases to explain the numbers we are seeing here.

While its clear that we can always get better... Simply by the numbers for every one we see here their are many many more that can and do ask trusted adults so we will never see them

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Why does it seem that LDS young people can't talk to their parents about such things?

Parents have to establish a relationship with their children to be able to talk about such things. Problem is, there isn't really a guideline on how to do that. I wish more families would help their children understand that sex under the correct circumstances is a beautiful thing. Posts like this would probably happen less. Even if the OP isn't asking his parents, at least he's asking.

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