negativity is slowly killing me!

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My husband has become more and more negative in the past few years. I try to put a positive setting in things he is negative about but it doesn't help. I don't even want to talk to him any more because every word is so negative. I dread him coming home now. What can I do to change this? To help him be positive.


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We can't change him... but maybe we can help you?

My advice would be to agree with his negativity... and help him see that things aren't always as bad as they seem? A little reverse psychology could help go a long way.

Of course, you can always ask him for an invitation. An invitation to his pity party... because so far, he's the only one there.

Have a little fun with him and get him to smile and show that you're 'on his side'.

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Sometimes all we need is a little validation of our feelings to allow ourselves to feel something different.

You can point out the positive things later but not right then, give him a chance to say what he's feeling and it be ok.

Could also start spiking his food with B vitamins and Magnesium supplements. Those are our happy pills around here. lol

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  • 2 weeks later...

If I try to talk to him about it he just does this big, I'm a bad person, no one likes me sort of thing. I have agreed with his negativity I have tried to help him see the positive. I just don't even want to talk to him cuz it is so discouraging.

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I have tried to change the subject about something positive, and he is on meds, I actually have been thinking about taking to the dr, she is a friend of ours. Just let her know how he is, maybe she can mention something.

Yes. With depression, sometimes the medication can stop working or people's body's can develop a tolerance to the medication. It is perfectly normal for this to happen. How long has it been since he received a medication evaluation from his prescribing doctor and didn't just get a refill on his current prescription?

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