momof4 Posted June 23, 2013 Report Share Posted June 23, 2013 My husband has become more and more negative in the past few years. I try to put a positive setting in things he is negative about but it doesn't help. I don't even want to talk to him any more because every word is so negative. I dread him coming home now. What can I do to change this? To help him be positive. Sheri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skippy740 Posted June 23, 2013 Report Share Posted June 23, 2013 We can't change him... but maybe we can help you? My advice would be to agree with his negativity... and help him see that things aren't always as bad as they seem? A little reverse psychology could help go a long way. Of course, you can always ask him for an invitation. An invitation to his pity party... because so far, he's the only one there. Have a little fun with him and get him to smile and show that you're 'on his side'. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gwen Posted June 23, 2013 Report Share Posted June 23, 2013 Sometimes all we need is a little validation of our feelings to allow ourselves to feel something different. You can point out the positive things later but not right then, give him a chance to say what he's feeling and it be ok. Could also start spiking his food with B vitamins and Magnesium supplements. Those are our happy pills around here. lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted June 24, 2013 Report Share Posted June 24, 2013 Have you talked to him about it? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momof4 Posted July 2, 2013 Author Report Share Posted July 2, 2013 If I try to talk to him about it he just does this big, I'm a bad person, no one likes me sort of thing. I have agreed with his negativity I have tried to help him see the positive. I just don't even want to talk to him cuz it is so discouraging. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bytebear Posted July 2, 2013 Report Share Posted July 2, 2013 Maybe try being positive about other things, and ignore his most recent negative soliloquies. Maybe remind him of a happy time you had, or a song or movie he loves. I know America's Funniest Videos will turn things around in our house. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gwen Posted July 2, 2013 Report Share Posted July 2, 2013 Is he depressed? May need to see a dr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momof4 Posted July 6, 2013 Author Report Share Posted July 6, 2013 I have tried to change the subject about something positive, and he is on meds, I actually have been thinking about taking to the dr, she is a friend of ours. Just let her know how he is, maybe she can mention something. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SoCal_Counselor Posted July 6, 2013 Report Share Posted July 6, 2013 I have tried to change the subject about something positive, and he is on meds, I actually have been thinking about taking to the dr, she is a friend of ours. Just let her know how he is, maybe she can mention something.Yes. With depression, sometimes the medication can stop working or people's body's can develop a tolerance to the medication. It is perfectly normal for this to happen. How long has it been since he received a medication evaluation from his prescribing doctor and didn't just get a refill on his current prescription? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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