Jane_Doe

Conversion and anti-Mormon family

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Hi everyone,

I know a lot of people on the board are converts, and I was wondering if anyone has had experience/advise dealing with the anti-Mormon family obstacle course.  This is a conversation I'd rather have via PM, if anyone is interested.

Thanks in advance!

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Just now, MormonGator said:

Yup, absolutely. Think about this way: If your son or daughter said they were going to join a church that you know nothing about, how would you feel? In fairness, probably the same way some of our parents/friends felt. 

But when they know nothing by stereotypes and refuse to learn...

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1 minute ago, Jane_Doe said:

But when they know nothing by stereotypes and refuse to learn...

Welcome to my world. 

Simply put, you need to push it aside and never talk about the subject. I know that's not what you want to hear, but the truth is that some people you will never convince and it's best to avoid the subject completely. Not the person, just the subject. If the other person keeps bringing it up, tell them simply, kindly and firmly that you will no longer discuss the subject because no good can come from it. Then, you need to be the bigger person and move on. 

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3 hours ago, MormonGator said:

Yup, absolutely. Think about this way: If your son or daughter said they were going to join a church that you know nothing about, how would you feel? In fairness, probably the same way some of our parents/friends felt. 

Not exactly fair.

We have several family member whom we care a lot about who have chosen to become atheist, irreligious, or join another faith (Christian and non-Christian).  While we certainly have our opinions, we do everything we can to at least be polite and loving.

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50 minutes ago, Carborendum said:

Not exactly fair.

We have several family member whom we care a lot about who have chosen to become atheist, irreligious, or join another faith (Christian and non-Christian).  While we certainly have our opinions, we do everything we can to at least be polite and loving.

No, it's not fair. Not at all. 

But sadly it's how many non member families feel towards the church. And, it's probably how some LDS families feel (gladly, not yours @Carborendum) when someone in their family leaves the LDS church. 

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Just to complicate things further...often the best people to bring new members into a church are the very recent converts. Quite often "unbelievers" travel in circles with other unbelievers. After conversion, many will want to know what happened. Sometimes those conversations lead to more conversions. So, whatever the tactics, if one believes s/he's discovered capital-T Truth, then wouldn't it be worth it to risk losing pleasantness to share it? How that looks depends on the individual and the relationship, but how can we reconcile "Go and make disciples," with being silent about my eternal-life change and my discovery of ultimate reality?

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