Jane_Doe Posted June 4, 2018 Report Share Posted June 4, 2018 19 hours ago, Sunday21 said: @Jane_Doe Congrats on finishing up PhD! What type of jobs are you thinking of? *deer in the headlights!* Honestly I kind of want to get out of academic jobs and something more industry based. Like a company which develops software for scientific uses. Now that being said, I just got a job offer for an academic job.... *deer in the headlights!* Oh so stressful.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sunday21 Posted June 4, 2018 Report Share Posted June 4, 2018 6 hours ago, Jane_Doe said: *deer in the headlights!* Honestly I kind of want to get out of academic jobs and something more industry based. Like a company which develops software for scientific uses. Now that being said, I just got a job offer for an academic job.... *deer in the headlights!* Oh so stressful.... It is stressful! Let us know! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Overwatch Posted June 5, 2018 Report Share Posted June 5, 2018 14 hours ago, Lee said: My wife is pregnant so I have posterity already Grats! Well, you will be okay. Your baby is going to be a blessing Sunday21 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lee Posted June 5, 2018 Author Report Share Posted June 5, 2018 9 hours ago, Overwatch said: Grats! Well, you will be okay. Your baby is going to be a blessing I have a distinct feeling that the baby will ruin my life. I've seen what parents look like and what their houses look like post baby and I am not ready to be like them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Overwatch Posted June 5, 2018 Report Share Posted June 5, 2018 1 hour ago, Lee said: I have a distinct feeling that the baby will ruin my life. I've seen what parents look like and what their houses look like post baby and I am not ready to be like them. Haha. I don't even know what to say. Yeah, it definitely is a sacrifice. Your life is going to change for sure. As far as being ruined you may be surprised or it may break you. I remember wanting to punch the dashboard while stuck in the car with my screaming infant. We were moving and my wife have to pee every hour so my 14 hour road trip turned into 21 hours. I completely understand your concern. Don't know what else to say but drive on. You got this (also, side note, now that you have a child you can stop. I mean we were commanded to procreate if we are able and you have done just that) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lee Posted June 5, 2018 Author Report Share Posted June 5, 2018 52 minutes ago, Overwatch said: Haha. I don't even know what to say. Yeah, it definitely is a sacrifice. Your life is going to change for sure. As far as being ruined you may be surprised or it may break you. I remember wanting to punch the dashboard while stuck in the car with my screaming infant. We were moving and my wife have to pee every hour so my 14 hour road trip turned into 21 hours. I completely understand your concern. Don't know what else to say but drive on. You got this (also, side note, now that you have a child you can stop. I mean we were commanded to procreate if we are able and you have done just that) I just don't think I can put up with that stuff, I will have to hide at work. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zil Posted June 5, 2018 Report Share Posted June 5, 2018 20 minutes ago, Lee said: I just don't think I can put up with that stuff, I will have to hide at work. Or learn to put "that stuff" into perspective so that you and "that stuff" can coexist in the same time and space without you choosing to think / feel / act in negative ways. Learn this, and you will be happier, more able to help others, and more successful at everything you do. Being a parent offers you the best possible learning environment for eternity. If you spend the next 20-30 years hiding at work, you'll arrive woefully unprepared for eternity, and will likely severely regret it - your kids might too. mordorbund 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Overwatch Posted June 5, 2018 Report Share Posted June 5, 2018 3 hours ago, Lee said: I just don't think I can put up with that stuff, I will have to hide at work. You'll gain the strength you need Bro. I wouldn't stress too much. Make sure to keep praying and just realize you are normal for being apprehensive. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lee Posted June 5, 2018 Author Report Share Posted June 5, 2018 8 hours ago, zil said: Or learn to put "that stuff" into perspective so that you and "that stuff" can coexist in the same time and space without you choosing to think / feel / act in negative ways. Learn this, and you will be happier, more able to help others, and more successful at everything you do. Being a parent offers you the best possible learning environment for eternity. If you spend the next 20-30 years hiding at work, you'll arrive woefully unprepared for eternity, and will likely severely regret it - your kids might too. Sometimes it just seems easier to not bother with all the stress of children Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lee Posted June 5, 2018 Author Report Share Posted June 5, 2018 5 hours ago, Overwatch said: You'll gain the strength you need Bro. I wouldn't stress too much. Make sure to keep praying and just realize you are normal for being apprehensive. I don't know I am worried I won't step up and my wife is worried that I won't want to stay to help her with the baby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zil Posted June 5, 2018 Report Share Posted June 5, 2018 Just now, Lee said: Sometimes it just seems easier to not bother with all the stress of children No doubt, but there are lots of good reasons to have children. Perhaps seek those out and ponder them to see if you can ease some of your own worries. Of course, by all reports, when they put that baby in your arms, you will change. (I just don't believe in waiting for an impetus to initiate positive changes). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lee Posted June 5, 2018 Author Report Share Posted June 5, 2018 10 minutes ago, zil said: No doubt, but there are lots of good reasons to have children. Perhaps seek those out and ponder them to see if you can ease some of your own worries. Of course, by all reports, when they put that baby in your arms, you will change. (I just don't believe in waiting for an impetus to initiate positive changes). Really I can't think of any Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sunday21 Posted June 5, 2018 Report Share Posted June 5, 2018 9 hours ago, Lee said: I just don't think I can put up with that stuff, I will have to hide at work. Must go home and relieve wife! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JayKi Posted June 22, 2018 Report Share Posted June 22, 2018 On 6/5/2018 at 11:56 PM, Lee said: Really I can't think of any Bro I cant wait to have kids I will have army. I think once you have son and play/watch soccer with them then you will be able mould them into mini you and you will love them and see benefit of having child Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lee Posted June 22, 2018 Author Report Share Posted June 22, 2018 1 minute ago, JayKi said: Bro I cant wait to have kids I will have army. I think once you have son and play/watch soccer with them then you will be able mould them into mini you and you will love them and see benefit of having child If I have a son then I will be very excited and I can turn them into a soccer prodigy. JayKi and Jane_Doe 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lee Posted June 30, 2018 Author Report Share Posted June 30, 2018 please tell me the most important thing to do in the third trimester to prepare for the new baby ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jane_Doe Posted June 30, 2018 Report Share Posted June 30, 2018 23 minutes ago, Lee said: please tell me the most important thing to do in the third trimester to prepare for the new baby ? Learn laundry skills. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lee Posted June 30, 2018 Author Report Share Posted June 30, 2018 10 minutes ago, Jane_Doe said: Learn laundry skills. I am a master of laundry although we are dryer less right now so maybe I will sort that out Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jane_Doe Posted June 30, 2018 Report Share Posted June 30, 2018 4 minutes ago, Lee said: I am a master of laundry although we are dryer less right now so maybe I will sort that out The dryer isn't as important as the washing machine and knowing how to use it. After all, you can always air dry things. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lee Posted June 30, 2018 Author Report Share Posted June 30, 2018 Just now, Jane_Doe said: The dryer isn't as important as the washing machine and knowing how to use it. After all, you can always air dry things. I want to support my wife but I don't know what she needs me to do Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jane_Doe Posted June 30, 2018 Report Share Posted June 30, 2018 54 minutes ago, Lee said: I want to support my wife but I don't know what she needs me to do Did you ask her? The most important thing is listening and communicating with your spouse. Midwest LDS 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lee Posted July 1, 2018 Author Report Share Posted July 1, 2018 21 hours ago, Jane_Doe said: Did you ask her? The most important thing is listening and communicating with your spouse. I wanted to surprise her because she is away with her family for 2 weeks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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