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@darthzilla99  If I was in your situation, I would be seriously looking at the idea of buying some sort of accomodation, renting it, and continuing to live at your parents until you are engaged. This has the following advantages:

You continue to reap the benefits of living inexpensively at home

You have the evidence to show off to potential partners that you've got what it takes to buy a home

You get a rental income that pays the mortgage

Of course, this is a very uninformed comment as I have no idea about property values, interest rates, the rental market or a dozen other things in your area that one would need to very carefully take into account. 

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5 minutes ago, askandanswer said:

@darthzilla99  If I was in your situation, I would be seriously looking at the idea of buying some sort of accomodation, renting it, and continuing to live at your parents until you are engaged. This has the following advantages:

You continue to reap the benefits of living inexpensively at home

You have the evidence to show off to potential partners that you've got what it takes to buy a home

You get a rental income that pays the mortgage

Of course, this is a very uninformed comment as I have no idea about property values, interest rates, the rental market or a dozen other things in your area that one would need to very carefully take into account. 

That might make sense on paper, but most people forget local and federal laws concerning being a landlord and the income generated as a result of. 

It's doable, but not something a person should just jump into. 

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4 hours ago, darthzilla99 said:

I should not have to explain this, but I already spend most of my non-work time looking for a full time career job. I go to networking events when my work schedule permits (which I found my current job through such an event BTW), I apply online during my off hours, and now recently my parents have now been called as the ward employment specialists. Not long ago I was going to a Saturday internship in addition to my current job. I also had another full time internship back in October which expired in November. On the days I do not have work,  in addition to any networking events that day, I also go to the companies I applying to online in person as well to give them a physical copy of my resume and other info. This is how I have obtained job interviews.

That is great.  Keep striving for that career: it'll greatly boost you as a person (confidence, self reliance, etc) and your dating prospects. 

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You need to move out of your parents home.  In fact,  you need to move out of your city, and county.  If your location is accurate, then you are close to nowhere.  You have an education, and need to move where there are jobs for people with educations.  Don't make excuses.  Take whatever savings you have, move to Houston, or Utah, or LA (one way ticket), make a deposit on an apartment, and find a job.  It will be incredibly motivating for you to have to make rent next month.

If you don't move, then you will be stuck with a lifetime of excuses.

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If a hobby is not immoral, illegal, and you don't let it consume too much of your time and money then it is not a problem.  The church isn't against video games, it is against spending an excessive amount of time on them, same as an excessive amount of time on gardening, scrap booking or anything else is a problem. Collecting action figures, even female ones, is not a problem, but if you are spending more than is wise or using them to fantasize sexually about doing immoral things.

I'm in my 50's and I'll be heading to Comiccon next week and yes, I have a costume too.  And there are girls out there who are geeks too, or at least not put off by geeks.   You want a spouse who accepts you as your are and shares or at least is supportive of your interests.  My wife is a player in the DnD group I'm the DM for and would be coming to Comicon with me if she didn't have a prior commitment.  What is the point of pretending to be somebody you are not so somebody will fall in love with the fake version of you?  You will still feel alone.

Now as for still living in your parent's basement at this point in your life, that I think you should do something about.  Get a place of your own as soon as possible, even if it is not so great.  There is some growing up stuff that you will not get while living with your parents.  The optics of you only just getting your degree now at 31 and not having a career yet and living at your parents home looks bad no matter what good reasons there are for it. You are doing too good a of a job looking like a slacker.

Get that career going, move out to your own place, and go find a geek girl with a temple recommend.

And embrace your inner geek without fear or shame.  If some girl has a problem with it, that is THEIR problem not yours and they just saved you some time.  You already know they aren't the one so you can move on to the next candidate.

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I'm 32, single, woman. I live with my parents. I'm a geek too. Let me turn that question back to you... is there something wrong with me being this way?

 

There is nothing wrong with your hobbies. If they don't interfere with your faith and you keeping the commandments, there is no problem. Everyone has different interests. To me the most important this no matter the hobbies is that if I say "I need help or I need you" that person is there. That is what I need to know. I don't need someone to entirely give up their hobbies for me, that's just selfish.  However I do accept that over time in a relationship one might spend more time making memories with said person, leading to a natural reduction in time spent on their own specific hobbies.

There is nothing wrong with collecting female characters... again faith and commandments.

Be yourself. No-one can love you fully, if you are not fully yourself with them.

 

I would like to address the "living with parents" issue that everyone and their own mother seems to have a negative opinion about.  Like you I live with my parents, is it a turn off for guys? Probably some of them yes. But for those guys it's unlikely they have taken the time to get to know me properly and understand why I live with my parents. The short answer is that it is not practical for me to live on my own. Renting or buying a place is expensive for one person to do by themselves... sure I'd be maybe more appealing to more guys, but I'd be working more than than I actually lived there and just barely making ends meet... all for those guys who can't be bothered to get to know me in the first place based on the fact that I live with my parents.
I pay my own bills, I'm not in debt, I'm in education, I make my own decisions... all of the things... but no-one will know that until they get to know me anyway. Even if I had my own place... for all they knew my parents could pay the rent, I could be in debt, I may not have anything in order in my life.

By all means improve your life. I don't plan on living with my parents forever but a guy will just have to meet me where I'm at that time. Simple as that. 

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On 5/2/2018 at 9:23 PM, Ironhold said:

I had a spot reserved for me in a local MBA program, so I went with it even though my job outlook was questionable. I figured - wrongly - that my degree alone would be enough to give me an edge over the competition for what jobs there were. 

1) Apply for anything, and even if you're applying for graveyard shift janitor, make sure the first 2-3 times they see you (picking up and/or returning the application and the interview) you show up in a decent suit with a fresh haircut.  Yes, an MBA will mean you're overqualified for menial labor jobs, but often the first interview is with someone who also has some say in hiring for higher positions that may not be posted externally yet.  If hired, stick with the shirt and tie through training unless the job dictates other clothing.  Even then, look as sharp as is appropriate; Dickies work shirts and pants are stain and wrinkle resistant.  I've been hired for entry level jobs and promoted 2-3 levels before finishing training twice because I was the guy who showed up in a suit, and everybody else even remotely qualified for the better job was in a t-shirt.  I've also been the last man standing in a couple of general labor positions because I was the one who showed up on time and looked professional.

2) Apply for jobs in lower cost-of-living areas.  Ask for the going rate for your current area.  Worst that can happen is you waste the time to fill out the applications, while the best is they offer your desired salary in a place where that has 10-50% more buying power.

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1) Apply for anything, and even if you're applying for graveyard shift janitor, make sure the first 2-3 times they see you (picking up and/or returning the application and the interview) you show up in a decent suit with a fresh haircut.  Yes, an MBA will mean you're overqualified for menial labor jobs, but often the first interview is with someone who also has some say in hiring for higher positions that may not be posted externally yet.  If hired, stick with the shirt and tie through training unless the job dictates other clothing.  Even then, look as sharp as is appropriate; Dickies work shirts and pants are stain and wrinkle resistant.  I've been hired for entry level jobs and promoted 2-3 levels before finishing training twice because I was the guy who showed up in a suit, and everybody else even remotely qualified for the better job was in a t-shirt.  I've also been the last man standing in a couple of general labor positions because I was the one who showed up on time and looked professional.

2) Apply for jobs in lower cost-of-living areas.  Ask for the going rate for your current area.  Worst that can happen is you waste the time to fill out the applications, while the best is they offer your desired salary in a place where that has 10-50% more buying power.

I was doing that the entire time. 

One of my two offers came *because* the recruiter was impressed that I was actually wearing a suit to that particular job fair. 

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5 hours ago, NightSG said:

1) Apply for anything, and even if you're applying for graveyard shift janitor, make sure the first 2-3 times they see you (picking up and/or returning the application and the interview) you show up in a decent suit with a fresh haircut.  Yes, an MBA will mean you're overqualified for menial labor jobs, but often the first interview is with someone who also has some say in hiring for higher positions that may not be posted externally yet.  If hired, stick with the shirt and tie through training unless the job dictates other clothing.  Even then, look as sharp as is appropriate; Dickies work shirts and pants are stain and wrinkle resistant.  I've been hired for entry level jobs and promoted 2-3 levels before finishing training twice because I was the guy who showed up in a suit, and everybody else even remotely qualified for the better job was in a t-shirt.  I've also been the last man standing in a couple of general labor positions because I was the one who showed up on time and looked professional.

2) Apply for jobs in lower cost-of-living areas.  Ask for the going rate for your current area.  Worst that can happen is you waste the time to fill out the applications, while the best is they offer your desired salary in a place where that has 10-50% more buying power.

Scenario 1 actually happened to me at my first after college job.  I applied to work in a mail room, got to the interview, the guy said I was qualified for a higher-paying position (rotating between front desks and multiple on-site mail rooms), and asked if I wanted it. 

Scenario 2 happened when I moved from a large metro area to a city with one Wal-mart.  (So, small town if you're from a large city, but city if you're from a stop sign on a map dot.)  Only slightly lower cost of living, but the unemployment rate is phenomenal.  Just driving along a couple miles on the highway yields a dozen "Now Hiring" signs.  In the metro, I was working as a personal care companion for seniors, making $9.50.  In the small city, I started at a fast food restaurant at $9.50.  The wage portion of the interview was pretty much the manager saying, "I see you're making $9.50 now.  I can offer you that to start." 

Most people will have to "settle" for their first job or two out of school. Them's just the facts of life.  As Jayne Cobb's father told him, "Anyone who can't find work ain't looking hard enough."  Also, taking a menial job can help you network.  The first time I moved from food service to a desk job was because one of my managers knew I was looking to get out, had worked there, and knew they were hiring.  The second time I moved from food service to a desk job was because one of our part time workers worked full time for a place that was looking to replace one of their receptionists. 

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You WANT to marry someone who shares some of your interests.  If you marry someone who is different then you, you may end up miserable for the rest of your life.  If you marry someone who can enjoy what you enjoy, you may find eternal bliss even while you are still in this life.  Finding a lady who enjoys action figures may be a tad harder than finding a wife who loves to study the gospel and read the scriptures.  What we prioritize in life and put as important can decide what type of woman we seek and what type of woman will be attracted to us.  It is what you WANT to do with your life.  If you want to spend your life with action figures and video games, you MAY FIND a wife that loves those exact things in time if you are lucky.  However, do not be surprised if her priorities are action figures and video games and NOT the gospel.  If you have hobbies such as the gospel and the faith as your priorities and hobbies, you may find that finding another with these same types of hobbies.  LDS woman, in my experience, who are active in the church tend to put priorities more on the gospel and church activity than things that are more worldly. 

By focusing on LDS books, gospels, and other areas of faith building ideals, as well as keeping a well kept appearance and working on conversational skills in these areas, you may find that you will have an easier time finding woman to date that share common areas of interest.  Building up for the future is a good thing, but be sure that you are putting the proper emphasis on areas where you should be in regards to the future.  Living with your parents to build a better future is not a bad thing, and in truth, it should not be something that even comes up on the first few dates with another individual. 

If you find you are having problems conversing with others, focus on being more social at church and building up your conversationalist skills.  Bill Gates was a nerd, but he became very well at conversing with others.  The same could apply to Zuckerberg, who made a fortune off of social networking.  Being nerdy does not mean you cannot converse, but if it is a problem, it is probably something that one should work on and focus on.  Make it one of your priorities. 

I love to discuss the gospel and the church.  I'm a historian currently, but my hobby is actually the gospel and church related books.  It is something that I love to read about.  It has evolved over time.  I used to love to read about science and history, so making one of those my career means that I get to do what I love.  However, my wife actually hated history.  It was her least favorite subject in school.  If we tried to have history as our common interest, we would have never gotten married.

What we DO have in common is our love for the gospel and the church.  By building upon that and creating that common interest, it has helped us grow in so many ways over the years.  The more invested I get in the gospel and the more we discuss it with each other, the more close we seem to get.  Being able to talk to each other about that and family means that we can always have a friend to talk with and discuss things over. 

Just a few thoughts on the matter.

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Agree with above. How many married people like the same movies or tv? Some maybe but ...is having these shared interests that important? Not really. Share the gospel, scripture reading.

i hate to be a nag but...as a former Stake singles rep...time is passing people. If there is something about you that is not appealing to the opposite sex and you can change it, do so. Lose the weight, get the haircut, take the shower,. Move to a more promising area. finish that never ending PhD. 

Dont get left on the shelf if you have the power to prevent it.

i am not asking you to marry someone you are not attracted to or to lie but come on if a hobby is truly standing between you and marriage, drop the hobby. For example, you love cosplay. Dressing up like a cartoon character in inappropriate situations scares people. (Yes encountered an lds woman who liked to dress as mother goose for church). If your hobby really is offputting to the opposiate gender then don’t flaunt it, do it quietly on those long and lonely Friday nights. 

If prospective spouses are horrified by your hunting hobby take up another hobby. In places where I have lived the young men would talk about killing Bambi and display dead Bambi on their car. The young women would back away in horror. You are not helping yourself if you alienate the opposiate gender. Like sleeping alone? Like that lonely pew on Sunday morning? Don’t repulse the opposiate gender if you can avoid it.

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On 5/4/2018 at 11:34 AM, Vin said:

I would like to address the "living with parents" issue that everyone and their own mother seems to have a negative opinion about.  Like you I live with my parents, is it a turn off for guys? Probably some of them yes. But for those guys it's unlikely they have taken the time to get to know me properly and understand why I live with my parents.

For most all of human history a woman could live her whole life financially dependent on somebody else (father or husband usually) and there would be no stigma attached to it.  For guys the stigma would get worse and worse as they get older.  That double standard still exists today, perhaps not as much, but it is far from gone.  Yes, girls should take the time to know his situation, but even with those that do he starts off in the hole with her and has to dig his way out if she gives him a chance to.

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22 hours ago, Latter-Day Marriage said:

For most all of human history a woman could live her whole life financially dependent on somebody else (father or husband usually) and there would be no stigma attached to it.  For guys the stigma would get worse and worse as they get older.  That double standard still exists today, perhaps not as much, but it is far from gone.  Yes, girls should take the time to know his situation, but even with those that do he starts off in the hole with her and has to dig his way out if she gives him a chance to.

As Stake Singles rep, fortunately no longer, I would get really fed up with singles who:

1) professed themselves as really keen to marry but

2) refused to change things about themselves which they knew full well repulsed  the opposiate gender. Yes some people do manage to find an lds mate if they have the same off putting characteristics as you ....but if you have been trying to find a mate for 5 years and the strategy is not working then maybe it is time for a change. If you are 30 plus, it is time to change tactics. 

 

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On 5/7/2018 at 1:49 AM, Sunday21 said:

As Stake Singles rep, fortunately no longer, I would get really fed up with singles who:

1) professed themselves as really keen to marry but

2) refused to change things about themselves which they knew full well repulsed  the opposiate gender. Yes some people do manage to find an lds mate if they have the same off putting characteristics as you ....but if you have been trying to find a mate for 5 years and the strategy is not working then maybe it is time for a change. If you are 30 plus, it is time to change tactics. 

 

It actually saddens me that there seems to be a "standard". I'm a convert, I'm probably overweight, I'm 30+, I live with my parents and I'm in education - all of those things probably go against me, especially in the Mormon community which is odd when what they should be concerned with is my righteousness, morals and kindness. It just affirms what I think... when I made the decision to become Mormon, I basically decided that there is a 99% chance I'll never get married because even if I'm good enough spiritually, there are so many other standards I will never be able to reach. 

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12 minutes ago, Vin said:

It actually saddens me that there seems to be a "standard". I'm a convert, I'm probably overweight, I'm 30+, I live with my parents and I'm in education - all of those things probably go against me, especially in the Mormon community which is odd when what they should be concerned with is my righteousness, morals and kindness. It just affirms what I think... when I made the decision to become Mormon, I basically decided that there is a 99% chance I'll never get married because even if I'm good enough spiritually, there are so many other standards I will never be able to reach. 

Be fair. When you close your eyes and think of a mate, what do you picture? An overweight person? Probably not. 

If your current attempts to marry are not working, what about yourself do you need to change? Time is passing. Finding a mate will only get harder. 

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31 minutes ago, Vin said:

I've typed out many replies to this, I'm just going to say that you should be more aware of the impact of your words and leave it there.

i feel for you Vin.  

FWIW, the things you cite aren't disqualifiers - to me at least.  Most people are not at their ideal weight, and teaching is the most divine of professions (my opinion).  Gobs and gobs of money tend to make a person worse, not better.  And then just something i've noticed.  Most people feel this mixture of confusion as to why more people don't like them more, and shame/guilt over their own inadequacies.  Maybe it's not universal - but it's close.  My guess is the people you are waiting for to come ask you are also waiting to have you come ask them. 

Also, membership in the Mormon church has a tendency to shrink the dating pool.  Maybe try casting the net on other side of the boat - another ward, online dating, etc.,

Anyways, i hope this doesn't sound overly harsh.  It's not meant to be.  i guess what i'm saying is that you shouldn't write yourself as a lost cause.  Not only because i don't believe any person is a lost cause - but also because you don't meet any societal definition of lost cause that i'm aware of.    

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@Vin I am sorry to have hurt your feelings. I have spent many hours with people sobbing. They, male and female, tell me that they long to be married. They are lonely. They want to start a family. A decade later, I am looking at the same faces. These single sisters and brothers refused to take the next step. For the sisters failing to take those next steps and sitting in the same spot on my couch ten years later means that at 40 they have missed many opportunities to marry and for some of the sisters they will not have the opportunity to have children. 

 

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8 hours ago, Vin said:

especially in the Mormon community which is odd when what they should be concerned with is my righteousness, morals and kindness.

Well there is more to life than just righteousness, morals and kindness, I don't see why everyone else needs to only be concerned about those things.  I have very good kids, they are very righteous, they have great morals and they are very kind (besides the occasional squabble), but no reasonable person would say they are ready for marriage or marriage material.

We do a really big disservice to the rising generation when we don't teach them about how the world works and there is a heck of a lot more to it than just being nice and kind (i.e. righteous, moral, kind).  That has a significant portion to do with it-but it ain't the whole enchilada. There are other attributes that are extremely desirable in a mate, like responsibility, independence, duty. 

I really am trying to help you here, if you want to get married then you need to develop additional qualities besides just righteousness, morals and kindness.  You can either be in denial that the world doesn't work the way you want it to work, or you can recognize how the world works and change yourself so you can capture a mate-your choice.

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5 hours ago, Sunday21 said:

A decade later, I am looking at the same faces. These single sisters and brothers refused to take the next step. For the sisters failing to take those next steps and sitting in the same spot on my couch ten years later means that at 40 they have missed many opportunities to marry and for some of the sisters they will not have the opportunity to have children.

Yeap, they never grew up or developed the proper characteristics-they have no one to blame but themselves.  Unfortunately, my guess is they won't take responsibility for it upon themselves and that is precisely one of the reasons why they never got married-they refused to be responsible and take ownership of their own life.  To each his own-I don't feel sorry for them, I feel sad for them, but not sorry for them.

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Sup Bro,

So, I read your post. I just want to tell you, you have it MADE!

Bruh, I dated waaaaay too much growing up ( I left home in my teens, rip my life) so I kind of got run through the wringer with young and immature ladies. When I got older I started dating older women BEST decision I ever made. You know what I learned from dating a ton of women?  ALL women are different and you are eventually gonna choose the one that best suits you (and her; she has to like/love you back.  bwahaha) Every woman has something to offer, just find one who shares the same ideals as you. One who loves you and you love her for who both ALREADY ARE. If you are on the same page progressing together will be a lot easier.

Don't date LOSERS. Make sure she has a degree or a cert of some sort. My wife has a degree but guess what? She stays at home while I bring in the check. I like knowing if ever I am too broken or tired she can pick up and go. Team work Brother.

Why are you worried about living with your parents? I had my own apartment in high school. It sucked. Also why do you need your own place single?  To show off how you aren't going to sleep together if she ever comes over to visit? pfft.  Get annoying roommates to not be lonely? hahahaha omegalul kek lolz jajaja huhuhu

Finances: Save up all that cash and use it for your new home. Start practicing with credit cards or a line of credit if you need to build up your credit. Getting low interest rates is KEY to being less stressed later on. Or just buying cash. Make a list of all your current bills and projected bills and go from there. Your wife will be able to help decide what to spend on later.

Make sure you are attracted to her not only physically but spiritually BOTH are very important. Don't skimp.

Even though you are living at home grow up help around the house, cook, clean, garden, repair things to show your parents you realize it is THEIR domain but that you are very grateful for living there. Once you find a woman to date make sure to only speak good about her to your mother. Also don't let your MOM decide for you. When you get married there is a line you don't cross, your wife is your wife and she is above everyone else until/if she commits adultery...or something equivalently horrible.

hmm. thinking thinking

As far as your toys go, just keep a budget and stick to it. Nuff said bro. I mean about the female characters as long as you aren't lusting after your figurines I think you will be kosher 😂 seriously though when I read that lol

About your confidence... Don't worry, they are just as nervous as you are. Even if they don't show it. Be courteous. Open doors, pay tabs, don't be needy but also show you are interested ( when I first started dating my wife I only talked to her when I was on an actual date with her. I was busy doing my own thing during the week with work and school) Make sure she opens your door from the inside. If she doesn't she is probably a loser

If you ever visit her place try to see where she spends the most of her time. If it is messy your house is going to be messy (Remember Mary AND Martha is what you are looking for) XD

what else... Cold Sores.. bruh, that's up to you. That was an automatic disqual for me  (hate me all you want)

crap. it's late. I better get to bed meeting tomorrow. I'll try to think of other stuff for ya.

May you have success. Channeling good bro vibes to you (hummmmmmmmmmmm)  

ttyl

 

 

 

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On 5/30/2018 at 12:51 AM, Overwatch said:

Sup Bro,

So, I read your post. I just want to tell you, you have it MADE!

Bruh, I dated waaaaay too much growing up ( I left home in my teens, rip my life) so I kind of got run through the wringer with young and immature ladies. When I got older I started dating older women BEST decision I ever made. You know what I learned from dating a ton of women?  ALL women are different and you are eventually gonna choose the one that best suits you (and her; she has to like/love you back.  bwahaha) Every woman has something to offer, just find one who shares the same ideals as you. One who loves you and you love her for who both ALREADY ARE. If you are on the same page progressing together will be a lot easier.

Don't date LOSERS. Make sure she has a degree or a cert of some sort. My wife has a degree but guess what? She stays at home while I bring in the check. I like knowing if ever I am too broken or tired she can pick up and go. Team work Brother.

Why are you worried about living with your parents? I had my own apartment in high school. It sucked. Also why do you need your own place single?  To show off how you aren't going to sleep together if she ever comes over to visit? pfft.  Get annoying roommates to not be lonely? hahahaha omegalul kek lolz jajaja huhuhu

Finances: Save up all that cash and use it for your new home. Start practicing with credit cards or a line of credit if you need to build up your credit. Getting low interest rates is KEY to being less stressed later on. Or just buying cash. Make a list of all your current bills and projected bills and go from there. Your wife will be able to help decide what to spend on later.

Make sure you are attracted to her not only physically but spiritually BOTH are very important. Don't skimp.

Even though you are living at home grow up help around the house, cook, clean, garden, repair things to show your parents you realize it is THEIR domain but that you are very grateful for living there. Once you find a woman to date make sure to only speak good about her to your mother. Also don't let your MOM decide for you. When you get married there is a line you don't cross, your wife is your wife and she is above everyone else until/if she commits adultery...or something equivalently horrible.

hmm. thinking thinking

As far as your toys go, just keep a budget and stick to it. Nuff said bro. I mean about the female characters as long as you aren't lusting after your figurines I think you will be kosher 😂 seriously though when I read that lol

About your confidence... Don't worry, they are just as nervous as you are. Even if they don't show it. Be courteous. Open doors, pay tabs, don't be needy but also show you are interested ( when I first started dating my wife I only talked to her when I was on an actual date with her. I was busy doing my own thing during the week with work and school) Make sure she opens your door from the inside. If she doesn't she is probably a loser

If you ever visit her place try to see where she spends the most of her time. If it is messy your house is going to be messy (Remember Mary AND Martha is what you are looking for) XD

what else... Cold Sores.. bruh, that's up to you. That was an automatic disqual for me  (hate me all you want)

crap. it's late. I better get to bed meeting tomorrow. I'll try to think of other stuff for ya.

May you have success. Channeling good bro vibes to you (hummmmmmmmmmmm)  

ttyl

 

 

 

Thanks for the advice Overwatch.

 

Went to the Temple a few weeks ago. Got some spiritual clarification. Among the guidance from the Lord, stop overthinking things, work hard at your current job, fulfill your callings (I'm on the YSA activities council in my singles ward), keep going to as many network events as possible during the hours I'm not working (I got to my college Alumni networking group every Friday morning), and continually seek to expand my job skills through more college courses, certifications, ect... Also to continue saving money. 

I would like to also explain that my current part-time job is not some minimum wage fast food or retail job. I work as a Research Associate for a small start-up company and the work gives me relevant experience in my degree field. Some of the skills and experience I have gained and are gaining include Supply-chain management, R&D, microbiology lab work, warehouse machinery operations, forklift operation, using various simple tools and pallet jacks, soon boiler tank operations and maintenance, shipping and receiving documentation,  and quality control work. I won't divulge the city I live in or school I went to in order to keep some confidentiality, but my degree is a Bachelor of Science type of degree. I am currently looking to work in one of the following fields as they can transfer between one another: 

Entry level postions in:

Marine Surveying

Land Surveying

Environmental Technician/Investigator or Natural Resource Specialist

Lab technician in the Oil and Gas Industry

Lab Technician/Research Assistant  in a research facility 

Entry Level GIS position  

 

Finally, one of the sisters in my ward who is a good friend of mine told me not to be so hard on myself as she has a masters degree (I forget the name of her degree but it's a law degree), still lives with her folks, and took her more than two years to get a decent job. So thank you everyone.    

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