Guest Malcolm Posted February 21, 2008 Report Share Posted February 21, 2008 Digital my brother: You seem unable/unwilling? to let go of the preconceived ideas and notion that you are "damaged goods" because you did not serve a mission. I am not trying to exacerbate your discomfort but rather rattle you and awake your sense of hope for the future. You MUST get out of the habit of belittling yourself. I am aware of your shortcomings and some of your history as you have shared. Please do not look thru the rear view mirror and expect to see the future! It can not be done. You will not forget your history but you should not remind yourself of it every day. Concentrate on getting closer to God, seek repentance, avail yourself of professional help if you need to in order to break away from potentially unresolved issues. Look at it as an intervention to avoid getting a heart attack and dying. If we are overweight and with poor eating habits we would seek professional help with dietitians, physicians, physical training specialists, etc. All the effort should be directed towards your goals of losing weifgt, eat healthier, improve physical and emotional conditions and therefore life expectancy. It would sound quite bad and quite silly that you would spend all your time thinking of and lamenting constantly about all the donuts and snickers bars you ate for so many years and how much you suffered because people called you chubby!! Have faith, be brave, be determined, open your eyes and heart to a a brand new day fueled by hope of a brighter future. Start there and ALL other things will come to you, I promise. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
digitalbath Posted February 25, 2008 Report Share Posted February 25, 2008 expecting and getting are 2 different things Malcom. and for the record I am a very positive person. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RachelleDrew Posted February 27, 2008 Report Share Posted February 27, 2008 Don't feel bad, I know what you are saying. : ) There is a fair amount of expectations from females in the church to only accept RM's as a potential mate. However, I can tell you that not everyone feels that way! You can find somebody who is happy with you regardless of your lack of mission experience. I've known total jerks who have successful missions, and sweet, caring men who never went. Most women recognize that RM status isn't everything. You really do need to listen to the guys here telling you about letting go of the past. You have a shot at finding a family, but you won't find anybody if you remain stuck in the mud about all these issues. You'll be too busy mourning the past, and you may not see somebody standing right in front of you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fiannan Posted February 28, 2008 Report Share Posted February 28, 2008 Don't feel bad, I know what you are saying. : ) There is a fair amount of expectations from females in the church to only accept RM's as a potential mate. However, I can tell you that not everyone feels that way! You can find somebody who is happy with you regardless of your lack of mission experience. I've known total jerks who have successful missions, and sweet, caring men who never went. Most women recognize that RM status isn't everything.You really do need to listen to the guys here telling you about letting go of the past. You have a shot at finding a family, but you won't find anybody if you remain stuck in the mud about all these issues. You'll be too busy mourning the past, and you may not see somebody standing right in front of you! Agreed. Again, try to use one of the internet LDS dating sites. Maybe the person you are looking for is 28 years old, lives clear across the country (or maybe in another country) and feels nobody relates to her in Church despite her strong convictions and beliefs in the Church.She may be waiting for YOU Digitalbath! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
digitalbath Posted February 29, 2008 Report Share Posted February 29, 2008 fiannan- for the record I LIKE WEAPONS....LOL.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sweetangel1987 Posted March 17, 2008 Report Share Posted March 17, 2008 I have personally dated someone who was inactive in the church, who hadn't been going for 5 or 6 years. It was a strain thats for sure, and I knew I could never have a serious relationship with him. Because there was something that was far more important, a temple marriage. Its so important to marry someone with the same standards and beliefs and even more important to have the Lords support and guidance. After he is the perfect counselor isn't he? The smartest thing that you can do is date those only who have the same religious convictions as you do. But I think that you also need to put the question to the Lord. I hope this helped, because having someone falling in love with you and the fact that you have to tell them it can never work is one of the hardest things to go through. I know through personal experience. Good Luck, Bonnie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skalenfehl Posted March 17, 2008 Report Share Posted March 17, 2008 I remember back in the day a hundred years ago when I was a kid dating gals who weren't members. I was a naive kid, but I always knew that I was going to marry in the temple no matter what. A girlfriend dumped me when I told her I planned on serving a mission. Looking back I think she wanted to marry me. Oh, by the way, I lived in an area that was predominantly another religion so the pickin's were slim. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
COUNTRYBEAR Posted March 17, 2008 Report Share Posted March 17, 2008 every worthy saint is commanded to seek a temple marraige, to do less sells us short and opens us up to the heartach of a divided home not just in this life but the next for only celestial marraiges last beyond death. I intend to marry again but only in the temple or not at all. If guys are inshort supply in your area try another, there out there honest. Stay strong in the gospel and the Lord will guid you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tina Posted March 19, 2008 Report Share Posted March 19, 2008 well, dating with a nonmember is not that bad..just stick to the church standards and i know for sure you will really be able to know whats good or bad for you.. ive been in that situation also before.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
digitalbath Posted April 4, 2008 Report Share Posted April 4, 2008 a temple marriage is not a concern for me at all. it does not matter to me if i go to the lowest kingdom. what happens here and now is what matters to me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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