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The last straw was when he got mad because my boys were arguing and hit our 4 year old in the face and gave him the worst bloody nose! He made them to go their room and would not let me go to them when they were screaming in their room. turns out they were screaming because there was blood everywhere!!! This man has no heart at all!!!

He was basically a “terrorist” in our own home. He has punched holes in numerous walls, thrown our dinning room table through the sliding glass door, broken the car’s drivers side window while I was seating in the driver’s seat, threatened to kill himself, yelled and yelled at me and the kids over dumb stuff and threw things at me. ( There is more but don’t have time to write it all.) After 13 years of that I needed a separation and asked him to go to anger management. After only 3 weeks he found someone else and cheated on me with her. It also came out that he has had a few affairs from early on in our marriage (we already had been sealed) so I divorced him. He has since moved to Holland to live with this new girl. He left behind 3 broken hearted children. This is why I do not want to be sealed to this man any longer.

Maybe that one post was right - that the people I think are hypocrites are just people who are trying to live righteously but are failing. I didn't mean to sound like I am so perfect because I am not and know it. I have seen a lot of people who preach the gospel but then blatantly chose the wrong. I wasn't trying to say that EVERYONE in the LDS religion was a hypocrite. I don't have any problems with the Gospel. I still believe in it but am having a hard time dealing with the people in the church and the fact that if you want to NOT give a talk or NOT accept a calling you are made to feel gulity. I am way too busy to accept any callings and I hate talking in front of people and when I am asked I feel as if I can't say no. I do still believe in the Temple marriage and I think if both me and my ex were worthy that it would be honored (but i do not want to be sealed to this man any longer.) My new love, let's call him Joe, is just uncomfortable with the that fact that I am sealed to a man who isn't him. And I can understand that. Joe is not being a jerk about it, it is just something he is having a hard time with and honestly if he were sealed to his ex I would feel the same way. I do not know what the future holds but I do know that I do not want to be sealed to my ex. He has done some pretty rotten things to me and his children. Anyway, I do not mean to offend anyone and I do appreciate your posts. Thank you.

Well, it's more my new man has the problem with it. I don't blame him for not wanting me to be sealed to another man. I don't really know what I believe about the gospel anymore, but i do know that I don't want to be sealed to my ex anymore. I had heard that the children will still be with me even if i get the sealing canceled. I was a convert but was active for over 10 years. I had found that the people are hypocrits and I really don't want to be part of that anymore. there are too many rules and too much pressure to be perfect and to "serve".

No me and my new man are not planning on going to the Temple. I just want any ties to my ex undone. And I am not interested in going active again. Thanks for your replies. I will call the Bishop.

Is that the only way? I don't know who my Bishop is and I would rather not air my dirty laundry to more people. I just want to get it over with. He will walk you through it, and he wont discuss it to anyone.....I had a friend who went through it, she is now remarried Happily..... remember to have faith in your bishop

I was married in the LA Temple in 1992 to a man I have since divorced in 2003. This man was abusive to me and the kids and cheated on me. I have since found a very wonderful man who wants to marry me and help me with my kids. The Ex moved to Holland and is living with a girl there and only sees his 3 kids once a year for a week. I want a temple divorce before I marry the love of my life and need to know...how do I do that?? I heard that you have to write a letter to the President of the church. Is that true? I am inactive now or else I would just ask my Bishop. Could someone please advise me?