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  2. anatess2

    "Lady" is now sexist?

    All of these PC stuff, word policing, gender pronouns, etc. etc. is a small minority that sounds like a majority due to the bullhorns of the media. Usually, you'll think this is some New Yorker thing which simply doesn't exist anywhere in Oklahoma, Kansas, and Nebraska until you realize most New Yorkers are saying... "Get outta here with that bs...." (with f words mixed in).
  3. SpiritDragon

    "Lady" is now sexist?

    Indeed. This is why I was so taken back to discover this term had shifted from one of respect to one of sexism in the minds of at least a certain subset of the population. I'm curious to know how prevalent it is. I don't want to be offending people, but I also don't want to go along with stupidity and changing language is difficult.
  4. anatess2

    "Lady" is now sexist?

    Get in line. I'm still waiting for Disney to release Beauty and the Beast where Beauty is the guy and Beast is the girl.
  5. That's funny, and I'm very glad that he is building bridges; but as far as I am able to find, the only non-LDS (or whatever we are supposed to call ourselves now using an abbreviation) person I can find who considers Lynn Ridenhour to be a South Baptist Minister is Lynn Ridenhour himself. That's just as far as I can find though; so it obviously isn't definitive. I was searching around and found that he used to be a member of this very forum and has some posts. His posts have a lot of answers and insight as to his beliefs and reasoning. You are anyone else interested can read what he posted: Here was the answer he gave on this forum as to why he isn't LDS: Morning Star asks why I am not LDS? Excellent question. Bottom line is: I'm your best advocate! I can get more done outside the church. Practically speaking, I'm accepted in both camps. I preach in Baptist churches; I speak in Book of Mormon churches. I live here in Independence where the world headquarters is for your cousins in the faith. I'm talking about the RLDS brothers and sisters. There are thousands of Book of Mormon believers here in town that are not LDS and who let me minister in their churches. On a more philosophical note, I see my calling and ministry as: building bridges. I share some church history quotes that are meaningful to what I do. “...We are asked, ‘is the church of God, and the kingdom of God the same organization? And we are informed that some of the brethren hold that they are separate.' This is the correct view to take. The kingdom of God is a separate organization from the Church of God. On this point the prophet of God gave an example, which he asked the younger elders who were present to always remember. It was to the effect that men might be chosen to officiate as members of the kingdom of God who had no standing in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.” (LDS History of the Church, 7:382). Also interesting, he is (or was) a baptized member of our church (at least according to his forum posts): I was a member for approximately six years during the '90s. Because I live in Independence, MO, where there are, I would say, over 50 Book of Mormon sects, the ministry the Lord has called me to is: 1) regional, and 2) admittedly rather unique. In a nutshell, the Lord wants me to minister among ALL the Book of Mormon groups; i.e., LDS, RLDS, Elijah Messenger, Temple Lot, Remnant, Restoration, etc. Not just one. Some more interesting posts: In 1996 the Lord said, “I want you to also minister among the LDS.” You must keep in mind--Independence, Missouri, is the world headquarters for the RLDS. There are thousands of Book of Mormon believers around town here who are not LDS. There is much squabbling here over the issue of presidential succession--the question of who was to be the rightful successor to Joseph, the martyr. Feelings run deep and are set in concrete. Some say Brigham Young was the rightful successor; others say Joseph’s son, Joseph III, was the one to lead the restored church of Jesus Christ after the prophet had been murdered. The LDS and RLDS seem to stay in their separate camps here in town. They rarely speak or interact. And then we have the “spin off” groups; the self-proclaimed successors to the prophet. I would say—we have thirty or forty Book of Mormon groups around town --- in Independence, MO, the world headquarters for your cousins in the faith, the RLDS. Their Book of Mormon is the same as yours, but for some reason, they changed the chapters and verses. I don't know why but they did. Since I live here among thousands of RLDS Book of Mormon, most of my chapter and verse references are quotes from the RLDS version of the BofM.
  6. Anddenex

    "Lady" is now sexist?

    These types of discussions remind me of the following: 1) Satan will stir up the hearts of the children of humans to anger one against another. 2) An offender for a word I have a similar thought as @JohnsonJones pertaining to "lady" and "gentlemen." I do not think "gentlemen" is a derogatory name for men, as "lady" is not a derogatory word toward women. But I assume now a cartoon I grew up with will have to change from "Lady and the Tramp" (which I believe Tramp never saw her below him) to "Feline and the Tramp." Wait, I am offended now, they referred to men as "Tramps." I am going to have to write Disney and complain. How dare they!
  7. zil

    Making a scripture study tool, thoughts?

    Welcome, @isacarrot! Cool idea. Meanwhile, on an unrelated note, is it difficult for you to be around horses?
  8. lostinwater

    "Lady" is now sexist?

    i try to use the term the person prefers. And to @Sunday21's point. Some words like 'babe' are just loaded to the gills. Good heavens. Don't say this to your female colleagues in the workplace. Though on the broader concept of political correctness, i thought this article was pretty interesting. The people who highlight the extremities of political correctness care far more about getting people to click on their ads/articles/videos than they do about representing anything resembling the realities most people live in. Either that, or they are Russians trying to stir things up . https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2018/10/large-majorities-dislike-political-correctness/572581/
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  10. Scott

    "Lady" is now sexist?

    Just call them chicks and you will be fine.
  11. NeuroTypical

    Overwhelming and a Burden

    I'd like to start with exact quotes from the bishop. Are you saying that he looked you in the eyes and said "Sister Petty3, you can be intense and you are overwhelming and a burden to others."? Or did he say something like "Oh, I think the RS president can get a little overwhelmed by a lot of requests", and you're taking it and making it personal? Something in the middle? So what exactly did he say?
  12. NeuroTypical

    "Lady" is now sexist?

    Someone will always find something offensive. I don't care. I mean, I do care, but someone having an opinion does not hold much weight with me. I'm happy to look at and evaluate opinions, but I am not bound by them. No matter whether it's someone covered by news, a trending meme, a new cultural phenomenon, or everyone on earth but me. I'll go along with opinions I go along with, and I won't when I don't. Opinion evaluated. I pass. @classylady doesn't have to change her screen name after all.
  13. NeuroTypical

    Making a scripture study tool, thoughts?

    I'm a big fan of massive piles of data that are sortable and extractable. I'm impressed! To make sure I understand: [year] A = April general conference talk, and [year] O = October GC? Excellent. Fulfillment = when a prophecy was fulfilled? Where do you get the data for things like backstory and tags and whatnot? This is amazing.
  14. anatess2

    "Lady" is now sexist?

    I personally don't allow the times to make me stupid. But that's just me. The PC culture is imploding. Modern Feminism is cancer. You shouldn't allow cancer to run rampant unimpeded.
  15. anatess2

    Overwhelming and a Burden

    It seems like you accept that you are dealing with major mental health issues so I'm just going to say it as it is. GO SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP. You need professional help so that, not only can you be less of a burden you can also be a contributor. Distancing yourself from ward members is the wrong move because it takes you farther from Christ which is going the opposite direction of peace. Christ's formula for joy is to love and serve others as ourselves. You can't do that when you have mental health challenges. So, just like when you have a broken arm you go to a doctor to get it fixed, you do the same thing with mental health issues - you go to a doctor. And just like the bishop and the RS President can't really help you fix your broken arm, they can't help you fix your broken mental health either. So, a lot people say, "I can't afford to see a mental health doctor.", well, if you break your arm and you can't afford to go to the doctor, what do you do? It would be the same thing with a broken psyche. That's something the bishop may be able to help you with - where to find money to pay for these things. You can't do this alone. You need somebody who knows how to fix your brain. Best wishes and good luck.
  16. Sunday21

    "Lady" is now sexist?

    Yes! I personally choose to roll with the times...stops me from being ‘a sit on the porch with rocking chair, rifle on my knee’ sort of person.
  17. . Some choose not to drink after being alcoholics and attending AA. Yes. I am very suspicious of the finding that those who do not drink have a shorter lifespan. I am convinced that in the non drinking group, not removed from the analysis, are people with illnesses and former alcoholics.
  18. anatess2

    "And in other news..."

    Ohmygoodness! I was yelling at that SUV and then I thought... well, actually that got her to pull back and get some momentum so I'm like... ok SUV, you got lucky.
  19. JohnsonJones

    Overwhelming and a Burden

    It sounds as if the Relief Society President may also have difficulties and problems. At times members are called that have great difficulties as well, and so they have a hard time dealing with other problems. That does NOT make you a burden to them in my opinion, but it may be that they cannot deal with their own difficulties and the problems of others in the ward at the same time. However, if what you stated is the advice the Bishop gave to you, it was the wrong advice. You are NEVER a burden within the church with what you've described. It may be simply that one needs to find the right person to express these concerns with. If your Bishop says something to the idea that someone is feeling overwhelmed, express that you are trying to do your best to be a Good Members of the church, but you need the church's assistance in helping your deal with your burdens. If it is not the Relief Society President, then ask who you can turn to. If you need a woman to lean upon and he suggests a man, tell him that will not work, that it needs to be a woman. If you are in an area with many LDS members he may set you up with LDS counselors who will talk with you. Nevertheless, do not let one lone Bishop tell you that you are a BURDEN. You are a special child of God and important. You are unique and your special qualities make the church (and I'm certain your ward as well) a better place to be. If you ever feel like you are overwhelmed and that leads to being suicidal PLEASE contact 1-800-273-8255. There also seems to be chat located on this site http://suicidehotlines.com/national.html You are not alone and people care about you and you are important to them, even if you do not realize it. If your Bishop is callous it may also be that he does not understand. Most Bishops who are called have no background in dealing with many of those who have handicaps, disabilities, or even simple problems and difficulties. At times, because they have no training in this they have no idea how to deal with such things. Sometimes they call Bishops who have massive problems already of their own (and the same with Relief Society Presidents) and so have a very hard time dealing with others who also have difficulties. That makes a hard spot for a Bishop to be in. Bishops don't always give the right advice and sometimes they make mistakes. Elder Eyering even admits that he makes mistakes and has found out at times very personally. An interesting story of his... The Lord leads his church However, regardless of their own situation, no one is ever a burden on the Ward. They each add and contribute in their own way and are vital for the ward community and for the ward to even be there. I hope you realize how special you are and how important you are to the people around you.
  20. JohnsonJones

    Military Obligation

    I'm not sure. The number of youth that would qualify for military service I think has hovored right around 25% for almost 30 years now. It may be going up or down slowly, but the numbers are around the same. It doesn't detract from the training for those who go in and become military members, and it does not change the technology advantage that we have. I think the greater threat is if we take a lackadaisical approach to our defense that could change it or weaken it far too much with policies that do nothing to strengthen it and everything to decrease the type and quality of training our soldiers/airmen/sailors/marines take.
  21. It could also be reflective of people in your area. In the US and some parts of the world there are many who choose not to drink. Southern Baptist can be far more strict on dietary and other restrictions than those in our church (for example, they have some beliefs of no rock and roll, no dancing, and other various prohibitions). Some choose not to drink after being alcoholics and attending AA.
  22. Yes! I think that she had a low opinion of Christian women! Drunken heretics! Funny security clearance story! Similar level of curious questioning! We are a peculiar people.
  23. JohnsonJones

    "Lady" is now sexist?

    This surprises me. I always considered the terms Ladies and/or Gentlemen to be compliments to their respective group. Times change.
  24. Or, it could be that she's so used to Muslims being the only ones who don't drink for religious purposes, and Christians having no religious reason not to drink, that she's honestly having a hard time believing that a Christian (whom she may lump in with all the rest of them) believes drinking is wrong for religious reasons. As part of getting my security clearance, I had to go get interviewed by a psychiatrist. He had all the stuff I'd already filled out, so he knew I was a Latter-day Saint. Both of my brothers had served missions and he wanted to know if I saw this job (working at the embassy in Russia) as my mission. I told him it doesn't work that way, that when you're a missionary, that's all you do, you don't have another job. He then asked me some unrelated questions and then came back to this, asking how the missionary pays his way if he can't work. I explained that the missionary saves up money beforehand, and if needed, his family contributes, and friends can, and if all that isn't not enough, donations from Church members are used. He was baffled by this. Came back to it several times, repeatedly asking, "they pay their own way for 2 years and do nothing else?" I found it mildly amusing that he couldn't get over the way our missionary program works.
  25. Sunday21

    "Lady" is now sexist?

    My mother used to work for the March of Dimes. I am not sure if this charity still exists but it helped the handicapped. In my life time the word for handicapped has moved from: crippled to handicapped to disabled to special and now I am not sure what the term is. The office that used to be called Special services is now Accessibility Services. I have been sending people who need these services to an office that keeps changing its name for 12 years! Some inconvenience but you know what? I have noticed that the self image of ‘special’ students has dramatically evolved over the years! Now these students are fighters! Changing the language is a mark of respect and it does help the historically disadvantaged. We need to move with the times as the language changes or else we end up sitting on the porch telling people to get off our lawns! I was the first female financial analyst in my part of Canada Post. The marketing managers (all male, the women were not promoted) would express their contempt for me by staring fixedly at my chest during meetings. At social events, the male managers would subject me to a constant attack of dirty jokes.My male colleagues would tell obscene stories while I worked beside them. Meetings in my department were peppered with obscenities. My corporate manager referred to women as Babes. He informed the female managers that he would never promote a female any higher. My boss called me into his office one day to declare that there was no sexism in our department after one of the managers insulted a pregnant employee declaring that he could not believe that we hired a pregnant employee. Changing the vocabulary does a lot of good.
  26. Hi all, I'm starting a database of all promises, covenants, and prophecies in scripture: www.promiseindex.org I wanted to post here to get your feedback about the direction I'm going. It will be harder to make course corrections once I'm 2,000 entries in, versus now when I only have ~200. If you wouldn't mind taking a quick look and letting me know what you think (any initial thoughts? would you use it? suggestions?), I would be grateful. As far as I've translated the forum rules correctly, this is the place to post website links, correct? Let me know if I'm wrong. I'm new Thank you!
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