Jessica123

Greenmum, You don't understand the magnitude of his problems and I have not shared every detail. Having that said I believe it is wrong in our situation that he have female friends. He has an addiction and the thrill to him is starting new relationships in his text's he talks of his unhappiness and shares details of things I say. She one day wrote him that they should not text because her husband has her phone and she doesn't want him finding out. Finding out what? Im not sure he is not having an affair with her but from past I know how he works. He beat me for getting to nosesy. I have not seen him and weeks and I feel peace to me that goes to say that he does need big time help.

You don't understand the magnitude of his problems and I have not shared every detail. Having that said I believe it is wrong in our situation that he have female friends. He has an addiction and the thrill to him is starting new relationships in his text's he talks of his unhappiness and shares details of things I say. She one day wrote him that they should not text because her husband has her phone and she doesn't want him finding out. Finding out what? Im not sure he is not having an affair with her but from past I know how he works. He beat me for getting to nosesy. I have not seen him and weeks and I feel peace to me that goes to say that he does need big time help.

Thank you all for your post's this has helped more than you know. I will be prayerful I do feel peace and have since he has not been here. That part feels so awsome and under amazing strain I feel peace. With his addiction history and all he talks of is sex and how he needs it all the time to end up with having female friends I know just is wrong Esp when the text's were talking about us our problems and how unhappy he is. BIG RED FLAG!!! I will pray fast and I have a very close relationship with my FH so there for I will make a decision and be blessed for it. I dont want to put my kids through any more. My son came to me last night and said mom do you remember that trip a few years ago when dad said I wish you were dead? I said yes but I have not thought about it in a long time. He than asked do you think dad would ever kill you. That's the damage this has done on my kids and I can hardly stand that I have stayed this long. Thank you again for your support and love

I have never been on a forum like this but would like some feed back. I have been married for 10 years a few years back I found out my husband had an affair. He was addicted to porn prior to acting out. He was x'd and I left him for a few years. Things got better and we got back together. kids later and finding text messages from a girl from our ward. I was sick. He also has a friend he text's at his work. Ive been sick over this. He act's as if no big deal. I confronted him and said I will not ulter my standerds for him and I know it is wrong to have friends of the oppisite sex. He states he has such a hard time having male friends because they tell their wives everything. He did stop the text thing with the girl from our ward. But the tention was building and I did say I was going to his work to find out who this girl was and ask her to stop texting a married man. she is mormon also. That night he beat me. I had him arrested the next day and there is a no contact order in place. I have had countless blessings and feel peace. I loved conference and loved ballards talk esp because it is so what my husband does not do. Now I ask not having a court date untill a few months from now and not being able to see him. How will I know this is over or do I forgive and move on. Bishop's say things can work out but can they really. I have been through so much and have so much healing to do. I want to do the right thing and I wish a bishop could just say leave this man. I go between justice and mercy as he will face church disapline after court stuff but how will I know what I should do? feed back please. anyone ever been in the same type of problem before? I also wonder if this man is narsisistic? Seems as if he is never happy and blames his non progression in the church on me. What is one to do???