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Thanks for all the information you have given so far. This is all very helpful and I've been reading everything. Just a couple things I want to add to clarify a bit. My 19 year old sister has talked with her a little more yesterday. My 19 year old sister is a strong person but, as I said, is going through a divorce/custody battle/child support/lawyer problems and all that comes with that right now and with all of that I don't think she is capable, nor deserves to be the one to have to be burdend with this. As you have all said as well, the parents need to be the parents here. Though I love my parents very much, they can be quite panicky about things (expecially Mom). In this situation it could be even worse since this is there youngest child and they think the world of her. Though my parents have very limited means they ALWAYS go out of their way to make her happy and bend to her whims. She has the car she wants, the phone, the clothes, everything. I just hope whatever decision we make it is the right one. Just wish these kind of things didn't happen. That is life though I suppose.

thank you all so much for your quick responses. This is all very helpful and I appreciate any information at all as my wife and I are praying as to how to go about this ourselves. Thank you again.

I know this is a tough issue that more and more people deal with in this day in age but I am at a loss and am searching for advice. I have recently come to the knowledge of my younger 17 year old sister having sexual relations with her boyfriend. This has been happening for a few weeks now. I know this because my other younger sister (19 years old) confided in my wife and I the other evening about it. Apparently my 17 year old sister has been telling my 19 year old sister about it. My 19 year old sister, though she is trying to help as much as she can, is only barely coming back to the church right now after a difficult abusive marriage and going through a devorce. She herself had morality issues when she was in High School. She is in no position to stand up to my 17 year old sister and help her with anything. My parents don't know anything about this and she is there youngest girl so they think the world of her and don't suspect anything really. My wife and I tried to tell them a few months ago that letting her steady date was a bad idea and could lead to problems but they were insistant that it was okay and she was smarter than that. I don't want my little sister hurt. I am 26 years old and on my way to having a child of my own and knowing this and not knowing what I can do is painful. I don't want my 17 year old sister making these mistakes. I know she has to make her own choices though. Though I know it will crush her, should my wife and I inform my parents of what is going on? I told my 19 year old sister that since my 17 year old sister is confiding in her that she should try to convince her to tell mom and dad. She doesn't want to confront her with that. I know my younger sister won't listen to me and I don't want her to know that my 19 year old sister told me either. Has anyone gone through anything similar to this before, either as a sibling or as a parent? I do not know what I should do as her older brother. Thanks very much for any help you may be able to give.