I can see where you’re coming from, Spiritseeker, as I’m also single and 34, and if you’d like another point of view, I can offer you one. Although the Church doesn’t have a hard line stance on single men over 27 or whatever, you do get the “what’s wrong with this guy?” vibe from members a lot, and even the standard feminine shaming language, especially from the sisters. I got a lot of that when I lived in West Jordan, and where I live now in AZ. It bothered me when I was younger, but these days I really don’t care what the nosy old biddies think. This is a cultural thing stemming from the early days of the church, when polygamy was around and big families were a necessary support system. Times are different today, but the church is still very traditional about marriage and families. Often members don’t want to hear any valid reasons you might have for staying single, and tell you that you “need” to get married, just because they think you do. Many of them will try and set you up also, which isn’t always a bad thing, but usually it is. You can be a good, well-adjusted man without being married. You might even be happier that way. Don’t equate happiness with marriage. Marriage alone won’t make you happy. A wife won’t make you happy. Only you can make you happy. Don’t get married just because you think you have to or because everyone else says you should. Only get married if you really love the woman and if she is a nice, decent human being who will be a blessing to you and won’t wreck your life. On that note, for the love of all that is holy, don’t go to any of the online dating sites! Even LDS sites. It’s a bad, bad idea; I don’t care what anyone tells you. Don’t date long distance either. A recipe for disaster is what that is. If you do find a girl you like and who likes you back, don’t rush into anything. Classic Mormon error, rushing. Take your time and objectively Test, Test, Test her for any sort of red flag behavior. When I say your life depends on this, I mean your life depends on this! No-fault divorce laws and the courts in this country will punish you, destroy you, and turn you into an indentured servant for the remainder of your productive years if you choose the wrong woman, so be careful. I know it sounds harsh and exaggerated, and I wish it wasn’t true. Too many of the men in my life, friends and family alike, have found this out the hard way, and most are still paying for it right now. So learn from their mistakes. A wise man once said, “It takes twenty years to know if you married a good woman, but by then it’s too late.” From the tone of your post, it sounds like you have confidence issues and you look down on yourself. You care too much about what everyone else is thinking about you. Stop that! Who cares about what anyone else thinks? You might want to look at NLP and reframing techniques to improve your attitude towards yourself and cure your self image problems. Also, you don’t have a marriage clock. Men tend to age well, and can have kids pretty much until they keel over and die, so don’t worry about it. If you really want to have kids, though, you'll need to get started on that as the pool of women in this country who are of child bearing age and available to you is probably drying up. If you can’t find a suitable woman to make a family with here, look to other shores. You might need to expat to a foreign nation to find a younger woman, which is probably a better idea in the long run anyway. There are lots of good Mormon women in Central and South America, for example, who’d be thrilled to have a decent American husband, even if he’s a little older, and by all accounts will treat you better than their American sisters. But remember to test, test, test them, take your time, and never, ever bring them back to the US. Move to wherever she’s from and find a way to make a living there. You’ll be happier than if you bring her back here. As far as not being good at dating, again, stop worrying about it. Most women aren't very good at it either. Stop idolizing them, stop idealizing them, and realize that they’re just people, and are far more flawed and clueless than you think, and in my experience usually have pasts more checkered than you do. So relax.
