I grew up in a part member family. My husband is from a long line of Mormons. We recently graduated and are looking for jobs that would bring us close to one of our families. I desperately want to be close to my family, but there is one major obstacle that is standing in the way. Many of my family members including siblings, father, grandparents etc. drink alcohol. For the most part they are social drinkers, but they do like their drinks. My husband is adamant that when we have a house there will be no alcohol brought into our house. I am not sure that my family would accept that should we live near them and think that it would cause a rift between me and them. There is a distant relative in my family who years ago was Mormon for a little while and refused to let anyone drink alcohol in his house, his parents would drink it in their car in the driveway when they came over for dinner. My family (including the relative) now laughs at the story as ridiculous, but I'm not sure as to what they think is the more ridiculous part, the drinking in the car, or the refusal to let them bring it into the house. As it is now, my father will bring a six pack with him when he goes to my grandmothers house (a member) without any problems. My family would not expect us to buy it for them and have it on hand when they visit, but I am sure they would bring it with them. My husbands main point is that he does not want our future children to see alcohol being consumed and that it would send mixed messages. I argue that they will see it anyways when they visit grandpa and family and it is up to us to teach them about the choices we make in life. And there is no way that I am going to not let my children see my family because they drink, they are good people and just don't see anything wrong with drinking a little. After all we live on the east coast, its not like they will never be around it.
I guess my question is: what do other people do regarding alcohol when they have family members who are not members?