FenderFan
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I recieved a cancellation (having asked for one) last year. It is my understanding that is it 'usual' for a man to ask for a sealing request, but necessary for a woman to have a cancellation. Furthermore, despite my ex-wife trying to stall things, I had my letter from the FP only three months after the papers were sent off by my Stake President, and less than a month before I flew out to Hungary to marry. Cue a rather hurried call to the London temple to arrange our sealing for when we arrived back to the UK...
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What a great idea. I'm off to Hungary in August. I'm sure I can find the time between suit fittings and wedding vows to mail a card... Can you pm me the address too please... :)
FF
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If I recall in England you have to have a civil ceremony before going to the temple. Someone help me here but I think I have heard that is the way it is. Civil ceremony first in England and then can go the next day to the temple if they wish.
That's correct Ben. Most LDS weddings I have attended have been a civil ceremony in the chapel, a short reception in the cultural hall afterwards, then off to the temple the same day. But then I live just over an hours drive from the London Temple, so that makes it easy to get to.
FF
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Everyone is different, and that makes this situation harder to give advice on. I am divided on this myself. I'm pretty sure many of the problems that led to my divorce were down to me needing that space to calm down, and going to bed with those bad feelings wasn't always a good thing.
It's very hard Pam, but I have found that it really does work wonders. I am in a new relationship now and at 46 years old it is no easier getting to know someone anew as it was when I was a teenager. But what I have found is that when misunderstandings happen - and they will in any new relationship - putting you arms round your partner and telling them "I love you honey" really does soften the situation. Very good advice from an inspired Bishop, I think...Hard to say I love you when you are angry.
FF
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Howdy Godless,
I'm a convert - but that hasn't stopped me from questioning things from time to time. Well, most of the time actually...
I hope you find what you are looking for here...
FF
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Getting back to the whole facial hair thing, I once had an EQ Pres. that had a full beard. He commented that he told the Stake President that the only time he was gonna shave it off was if they added it as a requirement to be clean shaven to obtain a temple recommend.
I have heard of Stake Presidents challenging their members to not have facial hair which to me is hilarious. Something as trivial as facial hair shouldn't be a sign of whether or not you are faithful. That is just our lovely LDS "culture" rearing its ugly head. I think some people think I have a beard cause I wanna be rebelious. Pahlease. I simply look fabulous with a beard.
I've had a beard so long that if I did take it off no one would know who I was...
Got some really funny looks in the Salt Lake temple once. Couldn't work out why this one guy kept looking at me. A couple of days later our hosts worked out that it was probably the beard that confused him.
I used to wear my beard to be rebellious, now I wear it because it's me...
FF
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On a personal note, HiJolly, I want to say thank you (all) for a job well done. It was partially due to the Tabernacle Choir that my Mum's heart was softened towards the church when I joined umpteen years ago. It became favourite listening for her - and has remained so for me. I know it probably wasn't you way back then - but thanks anyway. From the bottom of my heart...
FF
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Again from the help files in New Family Search
One Year after Death
Church members may do ordinances for individuals who have been deceased for at least one year without regard to worthiness, mental ability, or cause of death.
Exceptions to the One-Year-after-Death Policy
For all exceptions to the one-year-after-death policy, see your bishop.
Worthy deceased members
No waiting period is required for deceased, worthy members who would have gone to a temple but were prevented by reasons beyond their control. See your bishop for a letter confirming the person's worthiness.
Worthy members who died within one year after baptism and confirmation can receive ordinances one year after their baptism date. See your bishop.
Worthy members who died within one year after a civil marriage can be sealed one year after the civil marriage date. See your bishop.
Hope this helps...
FF
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Hi unixknight,
Yes it can be done. I've copied a section from the help files in New Family Search, dated July 15, 2008
For sealings to the dead, living persons should do the following:
To be sealed to a deceased spouse, see your bishop.
What the Bishop will do then I don't know, I'm afraid. Say yes, I suppose... :)
FF
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"Thou shall not covet..." thy neighbor's wife, donkey, car, house, boobs...etc....I remember reading that somewhere.
Are you sure you have that right Islander? I don't remember car being in there...
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Okay, am I missing something here? If he could afford to hire someone to kill his mum, couldn't he have just used that money to buy the implants?
Or is human life really worth less these days than a new pair of implants...?
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Hi Andrew,
The church is for everybody, regardless of personal circumstance. Have they exhausted all the ideas? I'll admit to feeling as Misshalfway does - the Lord will always help us to find a way.
Sometimes, though, even with the best will in the world, we are unable to attend our meetings regularly. If there is a good reason for this - and I am thinking of a close friend of mine now - it should not stand in your way.
Keep praying for a solution, I'm sure it is there, somewhere. Our Heavenly Father wants all of his children to return home to Him. Not just the ones that are healthy, wealthy and wise...
FF
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Wow! Thanks tubaloth...
I was particularly impressed by the following passage
I presently beheld a mighty multitude of men, the largest I had ever seen gathered in one place, who I immediately recognized as soldiers, the millions who had been slaughtered and rushed so savagely into the world of spirits during the great world war [WWI]. Among them moved, calmly and majestically, a great general in supreme command. As I drew nearer, I received the kingly smile and generous welcome of a great loving man, General Richard W. Young. Then came the positive conviction to my soul, that of all the men living or dead, there is not one who is so perfectly fitted for the great mission unto which he had been called. He commands immediately the attention and respect of all the soldiers. He is at once a great general and a great High Priest of God. No earthly field of labor to which he could have been assigned, could compare with it in importance and extent. I passed from this scene to return later when I found General Young had this vast army of men completely organized with officers over successive divisions, and all were seated, and he was preaching the gospel in great earnestness to them.
My Granduncle, William John Gash, would have been in that group, his life having been taken by a single fatal wound in October 1915. Also there would have been Wallace James Carvill, my (if I've calculated this right) 1st cousin three times removed - he was a medic who died in March 1917 (of the measles!) while serving with the military in St Omer, France.
Thanks to the wonderful new Family Search, and prompted by reading this thread, William's work has now been reserved for my family to complete.
FF
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I'd like to see how I chose to fight on the Saviour's side and how excited I was to get the opportunity to come here. I suspect that would be enough to get me to endure to the end...
Of course, that is also probably the reason I will never have the chance to see...
FF
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Oh I bet they are good enough to share. Want to share any?
Well... I've finally found and uploaded some of the better one's, though they were never meant to be shared. Three of them have personal memories for me...
FF
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I want mountains and streams and lakes and trees and tremendous views!!!!
And fireflies, of course, I mean who wouldn't want fireflies?
Years ago I had a job where I could regularly travel in the driving cabs of trains. At night, way out in the country where there are no lights, we would always see hundreds of fireflies. It's something I haven't thought of in ages...
For me, I don't want to go anywhere without my guitars...
FF
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Why does it matter who your grandparents where?
My great-grandfather died in a railway accident not far from where I now work - as a railway signalman. Does it matter that I know this? Perhaps not - but when I die and meet him for the first time (he died long before I was born) we'll certainly have something interesting to talk about.
FF
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I use Legacy - but I don't delve into the mysteries. It can be a little overkill for my needs. As a recently called family history consultant I guess I should download PAF and get used to using it - thanks for the link Iggy...
PinkCow - what exactly are you trying to search for? Something you have already entered on Legacy or are you trying to locate someone on Family Search or Ancestry? I'm not saying I can help - but I'll give it a good try...
FF
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Hi Theresa
Welcome back, and welcome to the site. I've recently started coming to church too, after a very long break. It's the best thing I have done in a long time.
FF
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Wow Pam, thanks for the link. I love to take photos of temples - for my own pleasure, I'm sure they're not good enough to share. I wonder if I could ever afford to travel and photograph all of them... I think I already NO the answer to that one...
Thanks again...
FF
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Hi Mailis,
When I first started my family history my dear old Mum gave me lots of information about family members. I wrote it all down, pleased at how well I was doing. Then she died...
It was then that my troubles began. Armed with the information that Mum had given me I tried to track down the birth certificate for her mother, my Grandmother. It took me 6 years and a very large slice of luck to discover that I had been given the wrong name.
I can imagine the reception that Gran gave Mum when they met on the other side! Knowing my family it would be along the lines of "What did you tell him that for?" Slap!
So, how much do I trust? Hardly anything. I always double check everything I am given, if only to save myself another 6 years of fruitless searching...
Hope this helps in some way.
FF
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What is the link to the new Family Search web site? My husband was told to register but the Family History person forgot to tell us the link!!!
thanks!!!
new.familysearch.org is the one you need.
It somehow uses your membership number/confirmation date to check if your area is online - when I tried to register I was refused because our temple district isn't online until September 2008.
A week later I was called as a ward family history consultant (!) so I get access regardless. These are exciting times...
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We are a fairly sane bunch...well,... most of the time.
Sane eh? Oh well, can't have everything I suppose...
Thanks everyone for the warm welcome.
FF
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Hi siouxz
Guitars I'm afraid (I have three) - though I am also guilty of denting a bumper or two in my time
FF
Not Taking Your Husband's Name
in Preserving Marriage between a man and a woman
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My wife kept her last name when we married, but we both talked about it and weighed up all the reasons before we made the decision. But, to be fair, we were not married in England - in her home country you are allowed/encouraged to choose - and yes, we did consider me changing my surname to hers.
Strangely enough, the only place we have EVER had a problem with our different surnames is at the London Temple, where they insist on booking us both in under my surname.
FF