Xenos
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But the Lord doesn't need the money.
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Hey guys, it's been quite a while since I was last on here, but I wanted to ask a question about tithing.
First off, I am a convert to the church, and I have been taught that tithing is done in an act of faith, to sacrifice my material needs for the sake of the church as well as other reasons. It's the main reason that has kept me as a full tithe payer, and I have not doubted that... until now.
I am great in debt, and I have also learned from prophets and apostles to pay off the debt as early as possible. At the same time, I am also in college, trying to save money to pay for my tuition. In other words, rarely any of my money is going for "material gain.." I don't intend to buy a boat or anything, anytime soon. I am saving my money for the right reasons, yet I am still obligated to pay more than I can afford? Why contribute my 10% of my paycheck to the church that is already... who knows how rich? I want to be responsible with my money, but tithing first before paying anything else just doesn't fit right with that.
I am hoping a fellow LDS member can help elaborate on this for me, that I can understand the concept better, rather than paying in blind faith.
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Hi everyone, I am Xenos who joined way back in 2008, but became absent due to much things happening in my life.
Now, I've decided to come back, well... just 'cause I can haha!
Sooo... Hello.
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So you see in the entertainment and the Media to avoid anything that is vulgar, immoral, etc.. My question is.. How far does this stretch? Is this a 100% avoidance? 'Cause if it is, I'm not sure I'd want to go and watch The Dark Knight sometime soon.
I do want to know from other youths what they think!
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Hello Xenos,
I am a mom of a 17 year old daughter, who loves being hugged and cuddle. When you say she touches you in uncomfortable places, what do you mean by that? Have you told her how you feel? Or have you told your dad or aunt or anybody else?
And is your mom seen a psychiatrist or psychologist or taking medication?
So many questions I just want to understand the situation with your mom.
I doubt that she chooses to be depress, but I do believe that she wants to make you feel guilty for not letting her hug you.
I'm sorry that you have that kind of relationship with your mom, do you trust anyone at church that you can go and talk to? Maybe your bishop or young women president.
Oh, I think I should clarify on touching in uncomfortable places. I mean she touches me on the private parts of my body, that makes me feel extremely awkward and defensive towards her. I've already tried to tell her how I felt, but she says that she's the mom and she has the right to do whatever she wants with me. (she technically can... that I know)
I don't know, you can go ahead and ask questions, but this will be hard for me to answer because I don't want to be mean and sound like a teen rebel wanting to get away from her mom. I do love her... it's simply very hard to bear her attitude.
I have told my former YW president once about it, and she said to be firmly quiet, and wait for the moment when my mom stops shouting, then say "ok mom" and leave. But she becomes very offended and the argument continues again and again. Other than that, I didn't tell anyone else.
You're very lucky Rain, I wish I was that teen who loves to be cuddled and loved...
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So my mom is depressed. By my speculation, she seems to WANT to be depressed, because I didn't give her a hug or a kiss. Now don't get me wrong. She touches me in uncomfortable places and wants it like every hour. So I start avoiding her, and walk fast because I'm uncomfortable with the situation, and that's what we're supposed to do right? But then she goes all depressed, tells me all these things like "I'm not her child". I never saw her smile since like last year, she tells me rude things and comments and don't care about my feelings at all when she says them. It's like she wants to drag me down and be miserable! And if I choose to fight back, she mocks my religion saying something like "Hey, I thought Mormons were supposed to love everyone and the whole world and God right?" in the most... angry-tempting tone I've ever heard. So every time I would come home from a stake dance, or somewhere fun, I come home to a pessimistic mom who finds some reason to complain and make me miserable.
Worst of all the Holy Spirit immediately leaves me and I rarely feel it in my house. I can never tell if I had sinned or not because I'm trying to avoid an uncomfortable situation and pessimism, but she's my MOM. "Honor thy mother and father right?" I'm so confused...
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Thanks Ceeboo and jimuk, I'll remember to keep the advice in mind.
Myway, I've talked to at least one person about it (not my bishop), but I decided not to tell anyone else because it created awkward moments when the one I'm talking to doesn't know what to say, and I've seen that too much to decide to tell it to anyone else.
It's a tad difficult for me and my parents though because they have been raised in Chinese culture where obedience to the parents is a top priority for the children, and I grew up in America with a totally different perspective of life. So adding church to my situation made our relationship a bit more complex than I wanted it to be...
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Just wanted to share my testimony on the power to endure...
I have non-mormon parents, who is against the church. It's been difficult to go to church alone and see many of my brethren sitting together with their families as I sit alone. And now, I see my relationship with my parents broken because of my stand with the church... so I often am very stressed when they come home, never say hi to me, or never bother to talk normal conversations with me. Still... I desire to stay strong and endure, so I can have a testimony strong and ready when Christ comes again in the 2nd coming, and (this might sound a little crazy to some of you... forgive me) willing to give up my relationship with my family, to be recognized as an active LDS member and a child of God. =) I was VERY unhappy before I was converted, and I aim to be happy once again... I'm so sick and tired of feeling depressed and hopeless that my parents continuously make me feel.
I know this church is true... and that Christ truly knows what I'm going through in all of my trials. =)
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So, I dunno where this thread would fit in, but I guess right here will do. I have a question.. well make that two... THREE!!
1. Does God have a birthday?
2. As for Jesus, I guess it'd be Christmas as his birthday right?
3. When Jesus is perfect, it also means he can write the perfect essay, win against a debate, run a marathon in ... say 5 minutes, or create a song....... perfectly?
It's kind of weird to me to think about it that way, but when I thought a little further more when we Mormons say, "Jesus is perfect", this is what popped up in my head.
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Um.. hi, I'm Xenos. That is my nickname I go with when I create a profile on the internet, as I do not feel comfortable sharing my real name.
I've been a Mormon well over 2 years now, but the rest of my family aren't Mormons, nor any related to me. They don't exactly like the Mormons, so yeah, life has been a 'lil difficult. But I'm trying constantly to strengthen my testimony because I have been too miserable and depressed in the past before I was converted, and I want to be happy so I know in my heart Heavenly Father truly loves me.
So... I hope I can make friends and get along with everyone here. =)
Xenos
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Thanks everyone, I appreciate your explanations.