I am also new to this forum. I have to say that being the spouse on the receiving end of just such a relationship, that repentance belongs with a full disclosure to that spouse and ask for forgiveness of them FIRST! Then the two of you should seek counseling, first with your Bishop and then professionally. My husband has begun relationships like this on multiple occassions. The first (that I know of) led to a private visit while he was working out of state. He said it was over only when it was discovered. Four years later, I discovered that the correspondence was continuing. He has since entered into another "keeping in touch with old friends" relationship and has since crossed yet another line and has left the family, moved in with the "high school sweetheart" and filed for divorce. SEEK HELP NOW! This is not something that you want to allow to grow in your heart or to plague your spirit. Adultery is NOT a physical act. It is a transfer of affections to another who is not your spouse. Those affections can be great or small, intimate or superficial, but if you have to keep it a secret from your spouse, IT IS ADULTERY! If you say, as my husband said, that you kept it secret because you knew that your spouse would be angry, then you need to rethink doing it at all. If you think it will make your spouse angry, you SHOULD NOT be doing it PERIOD!
