I do have compassion for you. I have a mother and also a brother who are bi-polar, so I know you can care for a person with all your heart and be so mad at them at the same time. It does wear you down to deal with a person you try to help over and over and they don't seem to try to help themselves. You help them see doctors and get meds adjusted and then they don't take their meds. I do think a lot of what your dealing with has to do with your friend being very depressed which of course is part of the bi-polar. Maybe more of your friends problem has to do with the bi-polar than you think. My mom and brother also do very immature things, like you describe. You try to be a support to her but it does not seem like anything you say or do makes a difference. You want to do the "Right thing" and do what the Savior would do, but she is such a drain to you that she causes you stress and puts you in a state of emotional upset all the time. I think it is healthy to take a break for your own sanity. You can call or go by once a week or once every other week and check on her or let her talk and in between calls let the answering machine get her calls, if she has an emergency she can tell you on the machine, Then just turn it over to the Lord. Pray for her and be a bright spot in her life, but you cannot change her or dwell on her situation so much that it makes you crazy. It is important to set boundries and put your own family first. good luck my heart goes out to you. You are a good person for being a true friend to her.
