walktome

Thank you. It is interesting because you hear so often about "people pleasers" who will say "yes" to anything that is asked of them by anyone in their life (friends, family members) and how this can be bad for our health. So I appreciate your honesty. I have a lot of stress in my life right now and so I think that is why I have often wondered if it would be okay to say "no" to a calling that I might not feel comfortable with at the present time because right now in my life I think there are certain things that I would not be able to handle with everything else I am trying to deal with.

Thank you...I really appreciate your thoughts.

Thank you to all of you, I really appreciate you taking the time to respond. I would still like to know though...what would your opinion be of someone who said "no" to a calling and do you think that you are still a worthy member of the church if you do not accept a calling?

Thank you for your responses. I appreciate them very much and I have told myself all of the things that you have mentioned and I know that you are right. But if someone feels that they truly cannot fulfill a calling that they are asked to do because of anxiety or anything else that is going on in their lives is it okay to say no? Do you know worthy members of the church that have said no and are still great people who are worthy temple recommend holders?

Congratulations! What a special time!

I am so happy to have found a place to ask this...I have been feeling this way for awhile and just haven't wanted to ask anyone face to face...so thank you for listening. I love the Gospel and believe in it so strongly. However I can feel myself slipping away from it mostly because I am scared of certain things. I have never said no to speaking in sacrament and I have never said no to a calling...but now that I have children and am in a married ward I am terrified of the callings I could potentially be asked to do (presidencies, teaching RS or sunday school...) and I feel like because of my fears my testimony isn't as strong. I see my friends gladly accepting these callings and fulfilling them beautifully and I feel so inadequate because I know that I couldn't do what they do and I wouldn't want to (is that terrible?) I have a fear of being in front of people...I have heard my friends in my ward judge other people in our ward for the lessons or talks they have given and it just seems so wrong to do that...it also worries me what they would say about me (I know that it shouldn't matter, but it still bothers me). Anyway...I guess what I am asking is...if I was asked to do a calling that I wasn't comfortable with can I say no and still be a worthy member of the church and go to the Temple and be proud of myself? I am more than willing to serve, but there are certain things that I KNOW that I just can't and don't want to do. Does anyone else feel like this? Would I be judged for saying no to the calling and would everyone find out that I said no?