kestrel35

My husband has not mentioned the divorce in about a month, but I did just have surgery so I think he is waiting until I'm completely recovered to bring it up again. I highly doubt there is anyway to change his mind and I'm not sure if I want to. I would love to come home on Sundays after church and not have my spirtualness destroyed because the TV is blaring and every other word out of his mouth is a swear word. He scoffs and rolls his eyes when he sees me or our daughter reading the scriptures or doing any activity that has something to do with the church. She as decided she wants to be baptized and he is not happy about that, but he told her it was her choice. So to answer your question the only way I think it could possibly be saved is if I quit going to church and become inactive again and I'm not willing to do that and I think that would only be a temporary fix, I think in a year or two we would be back to the same spot. He has already filled out divorce papers he is just waiting to file until we are caught up financially after I had to take so much time off for my surgery. I hope this makes sense it is a confusing situation.

I was sealed in the temple 20 years ago about four years after we were sealed there were lots of misunderstandings and we separated and divorced. He said he didn't want the divorce but he signed all the papers and never showed up in court to contest anything. He remarried, civially the same year our divorce was final. I remarried 8 years later to a non member. My marriage is ending because I decided to go back to church after being in active for the last 17+ years and my husband doesn't want to be married to some one in the LDS Church. now my ex has re-surfaced in my life. He says he is very unhappy in his marriage and that he has never stopped loving me and since my marriage is ending he wants to get back together when both of our divorces are final. In the last 17 years my ex has become very inactive he smokes and drinks and doesn't attend church. He and I never had children and we both have children from our current marriages. His wife is not intersted in the church either and is in fact very anti-mormon. So what do I do? Do I try to keep my civil marriage from ending or do I let it end and then go back to the spouse I was sealed to? The reason my ex and I got in contact is because I've been thinking about applying for a cancellation of our sealing if and when I want to be sealed to someone else. Or do I let my marriage end and not go back to my spouse but hold out for someone who honors his priesthood and obeys God's commandments. I've tried to find answers and I've prayed about it numerous times, but either I haven't gotten an answer yet or I haven't realized what the answer is. I'm not sure what the church views are on this issue. Any insight would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!!